Comments on: “Pause on the “Absent Fathers”; Let’s Talk About the PRESENT Mothers.

By: Ramses

Ramses — Sat, 27 Oct 2012 21:59:20 +0000

So many black women decided to listen to lil kim instead of lauryn hill years ago. They made a conscious decision to be whores, no one has made this way. John Henrik Clark said “for anyone to oppress you, you have to adjust your back for them to stand on you.” A lot of people don’t want toh ear this because when they look at their mother, she fits this profile. I thank The Most High that my parents were married when they conceived me and even though they didn’t stay married, they didn’t conceive me out of wed-lock. Black people do not want to admit it but they are under a curse. Black women hate themselves, their kids, their men, etc. because deep down they want to be white women. I noticed this years agon when I began to see them carry dogs in their purses. This was something white women were doing only. Black women hate white women so much because they want to occupy her position. And because of this she takes out her frustration on black men and her kids. In 2012 black women are still wearing colored contact, dying their hair blonde, wearing expensive weaves, lightening their skin with cremes, etc, etc. In the 70’s we had “Black is Beautiful” as the anthem but it was only a fad. Think about that. Our sense of beauty as a group of people was a fad. Black women are just not really likeable as humans. I mean they get by because they have “assets” and this makes it purely an animal issue in terms of physical contact. But in terms of spirit, black women have a demonic/sexual spirit attached to them. I am not being negative here…this is truth. Just be honest with yourselves. Hell black women don’t even like black women!!! I commend the ones who have pride in themselves and carry themselves as royalty but for the most part those are the exception. The rule is like the ones on the picture up above. A woman has a child at 13 or 14. By the time she is 301 her child is the same age. This same female is still going to the clubs and running the streets while her young daughter had developed into a young woman and looks like a grown woman. What do you think s gonna happen? She will get pregnant as well. so the mother becomes a grandmother at 31-32 years of age!!! Black people stop making excuses. This is what welfare has reduced your women to…this is what integration has reduced your women too. Young girls goals in life are to be strippers. our kids are becoming gays in junior high and in some cases younger. What you’ll thought would happen when you removed the Man? You thought you could remove him and there would be no consequences? You effectively destroyed you people when you did that and the remnant that’s left, who are the true nobility, are looking elsewhere. Black women are not being rejected because they are lacking physical beauty. They are being rejected because of their negative spirit. You can be fine all day but who wants to be around a vile, grumpy, overly-sexual, females who are not fit to be married. It’s only going to get worse, which is scary, because i don’t know what can be worse than this state of affairs for black people. Black people should have stayed committed to the spirit of their religions (not the institutions who claim to be about the religions). At least we had a moral center and “moral authority” like Booker T Washington said. We don’t have a moral authority when we attack Bill Cosby for the things black women do years ago. Black people think their messiahs, pastors, and scholars are gonna save them when the reality is you can’t save a people who are purposely being destroyed for their heinous ways and should be. Abraham Lincoln didn’t deliver our people from enslavement: The Most High did. And this is how you re-pay him!!! If I had a son, I would counsel him against a black woman based on who she is. That’s sad. There were times I would tell black women they were beautiful, even when I wasn’t trying to approach them, but just wanting to make them feel beautiful and they didn’t have the decency to acknowledge me or say thank you. Speak to them they ignore you. But if you were Lebron, they would drop their drawls on site. I really didn’t want to believe when a gay chick told me years ago that I wouldn’t be with a black woman based on my values (me wanting to be married) because most black women couldn’t handle a man like me because i knew what i wanted out of life and didn’t need a black woman to teach me how to be a man as if one really could anyway. But her words are ringing true for so many brothers like myself who don’t have high standards, but just basic standards of human decency. Like i said, kudos to those sistas who maintain themselves in a proper way but most of your female counterparts have put the few of you’ll in such a negative light, a lot of your good men don’t even have the time or patience to search through all the negative ones to get to the few of you all who are pure of heart. Water takes the path of least resistance and brothers are looking elsewhere in the world to find more suitable mates. I suggest looking at white men and as pro-black as i was years ago, i never thought i would suggest to a black woman to be with a white man. You can’t even go to the mosque, or church because the same female in the picture above is the main one that sits in the temple in brothers face trying to get him to marry her. The Most High will not allow these women to be married or even stay married if they sneak into because they represent the worse of what women have to offer and do not deserve to be honored in that way and once a woman crosses a certain threshold, she never can come back from that. Once a whore always a whore. That is not conjecture but science.

By: Sistah Sankofa

Sistah Sankofa — Sat, 15 Sep 2012 23:02:48 +0000

Ase’ Nojma Muhammad…We need to talk about what is staring us in the face. As one who connects with students on the university level everyday, I hear the stories and see the direct connection with their rearing. As one who was raised by a single mother, I know that raising children is not an easy task; however, I hope that which ever parent is in the home raising the children that they are conscious of the messages they are conveying.

By: Aleasa Word, CPC

Aleasa Word, CPC — Thu, 13 Sep 2012 18:29:05 +0000

I love this article. I have a 9 year old and it sickens me to see other little girls acting like they are ladies of the night based on their mother’s behavior! My sons at 22 and 11 also know what a self respecting female should look and act like in spite of the fact there is no male figure in my household to show them because I taught them to. Though it can be difficult being a single mother or father, it is our responsibility to step up to the plate once we decide we to be a parent. Shoutout to you for helping this little girl. The fact that she thinks “thick” is a compliment just like I hear other parents calling their children sexy just makes me cringe!

By: sankofa

sankofa — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 21:06:59 +0000

Mah Nojma, don’t encourage her to write anything here. This will just further poison the dialogue, when her mind is still in the Caucasian man’s version of that Religion. Hers is a classic case of attacking the messenger because her funky ass is either out of touch with the community or perhaps she enables as well as participate in that destructive behavior.

I personally have seen too many edumcated woman, who claim to be professional, who acts ans says the same thing like this this Marva Berry. A note if you please about this judge not theme. Judging is something we all do. It is the ability to discern what is right from wrong. if we never had that in us, more of us would behave badly or make bad judgement. What we should refrain from doing is try to lynch people for saying something different from us. Sort of what Marva Berry just did.

Great piece of writing…when I grow up I want to be just like you:)

By: Nojma

Nojma — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 13:30:58 +0000

@MarvaBerry

That picture is NOT of the Sister and Mother that I wrote about, that is an already PUBLIC picture that was posted on another site. How is my attitude uppity and how were able to deduce whatever you THINK my social class is? You are exhibiting an error in reasoning and a fallacy known as “straw man”. A straw man is a type of argument and is an informal fallacy based on misrepresentation of an opponent’s position.

My attitude is CLEARLY stated in my article. Instead of focusing on what you THINK my social class status is, you should be disturbed at the fact that a mother is neglecting her children for the sake of an orgasm, and that she is teaching her daughter that “thick” is something that a nine year old should be proud of and strive for. For the record I personally mentor this young girl, I gave her a poem that I wrote, laminated it and she hung it on her wall. On picture day she ran up to me, and gave me a huge hug, telling me that she would give me a picture as soon as they came back. She also stated that when a young man approaches her she was going to tell him “she was born to be a Queen, NOT his play thing”, which is a line from the poem that I gave her.

I also counsel women and young girls of ALL ages. Everything from rape victims, domestic abuse, low self-esteem and everything in between. So before you assess me, where is your proof? PROVE your position. Prove what my social class status is as if majority of Black America isn’t struggling financially right now; look at the current unemployment rate! Who among us has “truly made it?” How am I putting down others? Prove that YOU know what my motives are since YOU have made the charge against me.

The reality is we (I and others) speak on the ALL realities of the Black Community, and majority of it is NOT a pretty picture. However if you are so dissatisfied with what Dr. Boyce has to say, or what I have to say, feel free to write and post whatever YOU feel is pertinent to the and betterment of the Black Community. Your comment shows your lack of development, being that my article is clearly indicative of one of the ills of our community, but all you walked away with is your assumptions and assessments that have no merit nor do you have an evidence to support your unsubstantiated allegations.

By: natalie

natalie — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 13:00:34 +0000

Negativity towards the black community? Thanks for this article sis. Nojma!!!

By: Marva Berry

Marva Berry — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 09:03:47 +0000

First of all the author of this piece might want to consider proof reading her work before publishing it because anyone this judgmental of others ought to be perfect in every aspect of their own life.
Secondly, did this woman give you written permission to publish a picture of her and her daughter in this manner? Do you understand that there are legal constraints against taking and publishing pictures of students without prior written permission on a document known as the photo release form? Do you know that you could be reported for violating this and that young mother, if she was aware of it, could file a suit against you.
Finally, your uppity attitude is indicative of a class and culture divide among blacks in America that make it impossible for those who have so called, “made it” to emphasize and work effectively with those who have been left behind.
That is why blacks who consider themselves to be middle class are often more harmful to black children in the school system than some whites who can’t identify with their struggle to survive under under the harsh conditions of urban America.
I checked out the author’s page and found the main theme in most of her postings was made up of self promotion and the demotion and put down of others.
Not impressed and not surprised the Dr. Boyce has his imprimatur on this. His sites wreak with negativity toward the black community.

By: G

Mon, 10 Sep 2012 01:13:04 +0000

*pardon me* “…what is wrong with “our” community.”

By: G

Mon, 10 Sep 2012 01:11:21 +0000

This article illuminates what is wrong with community. Too much emphasis on sex and not enough on love, commitment, monogamy and marriage. No wonder we are imploding as a race of people. And we want to blame the White man?

By: Menelik Charles

Menelik Charles — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 04:57:23 +0000

At last, an article which more than just hints at the devastating impact of having deadbeat moms!

Thank you.