Comments on: Sistas, Delusions of Grandeur.

By: Ramses

Ramses — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 00:46:21 +0000

And @steph how many black women expect black women to make up for their mistakes (burdensome children who you all can’t take care of by yourself). How many black men get with black women who have kids taking on another man’s responsibility? When a Man needs help trying to achieve goals, that’s a good thing steph, it means he has ambitions. Now a cat who stays at home smoking weed all the time doesn’t show ambition and that’s not help when you take care of him: it’s called enabling to be sorry. You need to check your definition of help. I wonder if you’ve ever been married or close…I doubt it. Your outlook is very skewed. Technically no one has to do anything for anyone whether they are male or female. Blueprints have been written down and told through oral traditions as a way of teaching following generations. So you ‘re right you don’t have to elevate a Man or assist him, but he doesn’t have to do it for you either. See how that works. You help those to help you. Get it. It’s called reciprocity. If your car was broken down on the side of the road, who is more likely to help you: a man or woman. A man of course. And he is not even trying to get with you when he does it. It’s his notion of manhood that doesn’t want to see a woman in a precarious position like that. Black females don’t realize how selfish they are and to me there’s nothing worse than a selfish, stingy female because it goes against her nurturing nature. i will never tell a woman to give to a person who is not trying to hold up his side of the equation but a Man seeking help does not make him less than a Man, it means he’s human. It’s funny how the very same brothers who you won’t support when they are not financially successful don’t get with you when they become successful. I wonder why. Maybe they take on the same mentality you all have when he gets money. You didn’t support them when he didn’t have money now all of a sudden he gets money and he decides he won’t reward you (black women as a collective) because he remembers how it felt when you didn’t support him and it’s ironic because when he feels that way he’s accused for being bitter!!!! As if he doesn’t have a legitimate reason for it. You women would do well to find women who have been married for years like my grandmother (40 years) and talk to them and get advice on how to deal with men. Matter fact I would give you all her number so you can talk to her and gain some insight on what would give you the best chance to get and keep a man. Because clearly opening your legs is not working. Grow up please

By: Ramses

Ramses — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 00:31:22 +0000

Didn’t even have to read the end of the article to know who wrote it….no need to say anything articles speaks for itself

By: Deech

Deech — Sun, 07 Oct 2012 23:35:26 +0000

LOL!

And how is that gonna happen, DaTruth? Black women are very educated and competing in the corporate world moreso than Hispanic women.

I know in your wet colorstruck dreams you want them to replace black women, but they can have you.

Thank goodness some black women are seeing otherwise.

By: Mack

Mack — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 06:25:18 +0000

The article was on point, like all of Nojma’s articles are. All you black man hating, white man loving, tragic negro, Blue Vein Society rejects, closet carpet munching, white daddy syndrome having females need to get your heads examined. Seriously. Many of you apparently suffer from some type of mental illness. America has that effect on many people.

These venomous and angry responses are just the 1st and 2nd stages of truth, as quoted from the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer: “All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.”

Stage 3 is just around the corner… 😉

By: Mack

Mack — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 06:14:49 +0000

Ebony Imhotep:

First off, your chosen name is very misleading. The honorable Amenhotep must be rolling over in his grave at the moment. If anyone has evident daddy issues, I think you just proved it to be YOURSELF. Slinging that hatred at a true daughter of Africa trying to bring resolution to the relational problems that have plagued us is highly disingenuous on your part.

You so-called wannabe ‘black’ feminists never cease to amaze me…And btw: relating Mrs. Nojma to Shahrazad Ali is actually a compliment. Too bad you’re too dense to see that.

By: natalie

natalie — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 23:03:31 +0000

I couldnt disagree more ebony…ill ne back…phones gonna die

By: Ebony Imhotep

Ebony Imhotep — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 20:46:25 +0000

If you notice, this writer in particular has a tendency to attract with her writings the bottom of the barrel black males because that’s who she appeals to. Just look around at the commentary? Real successful black men don’t typically waste their time with such foolishness. Just look at how disrespectful these males are when met with disagreement? Just take a look at the envy, jealousy, and hatred they speak toward black women? they attribute our success to white men being afraid or intimidated by them which is a complete crock. The truth is, black males for females such as the writer to stop coddling them. Stop fueling their gripes with and hatred toward black women for the sake of pushing your own agenda rooted in seeking attention from men (and males) who would otherwise be paying you no mind. You’re daddy issues are more than evident and no matter how hard you try, you’re not going to fill that void by being some Shaharazad Ali Knock off so just KNOCK IT OFF ALREADY!

By: James

James — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:15:44 +0000

This quote from Booker Washington summarizes everything: “Nothing ever comes to one that is worth having except as a result of hard work”

By: natalie

natalie — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 22:17:51 +0000

I love our president steph but I must admit that while he and Valerie Jarret aggressively fought and pushed for a council on girls years ago, he has been strongly opposed to any such effort for men/boys. Caving to pressure from special interest groups like the National Orgnaization of Women’s opposition to such proposals, anything that focused on mens issues has fallen victim to politic. Its interesting because the findings of the council on girls and women merely reminded us that women are doing fine, while other proposals for boys/men have not only identified critical issues but provided solutions from bi-partisan educators, social scientist, community activist, clergy etc.

By: Steph

Steph — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 21:00:20 +0000

I appreciate Natalie your thorough answer and I hope it will be sent to the right people in the government who can do something about it. I like also the answer of Keepn it real says. We need to stop making excuses for our shortcomings and as I wrote we are not supposed to go backward but forward. And I will still have a problem with people who think that Black women should not expect much from our brothers. I am glad that there is an Obama now, it was about time to raise the bar. I met brothers who had the honesty to tell me that they didn’t prepare themselves academically to be with a female like me.