http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/2012/07/27/feds-spend-499-in-child-support-enforcement-for-every-1-for-access-and-visitation/

My ex-husband owes 1640.00 in child support and it is increasing every week. His mother says she can’t believe that I’m going after him for that amount, because there are men who don’t even pay for their kids and the father of both o her kids owes her a lot more than that.

So the Brother is now on court ordered child support and the Sister gets the money directly deposited in her account just like she wanted. But wait, the amount is slightly different, from the $1200 she was originally receiving from him to a whopping $570 per month! So $285 per pay period, when he was giving her $600 per pay period.

So now she is singing “I shoulda coulda woulda” listened to you. Now she is saying she realizes how good she had it. I said you’re only saying that because the amount went down, if you were still getting the same amount you wouldn’t feel this way. So she tried to talk to her ex afterwards and tell him that she try to get the case dropped and he responded with a big ole “F” you. Aside from the amount of money that has now decreased, their parenting relationship has been tarnished in a MAJOR way. She got the control that she wanted but lost so much more.

In fact Mack, as the welfare payroll is about to be trimmed, you will see a lot more cases like this including more stringent enforcement.

I’ve been going through this with my ex-wife for a while now. The Child Support System in this country is nothing short of a new form of social welfare aimed directly at black women and poor white women. It’s a sperm tax. Which is another reason why more brothers are opting out of traditional marriages and child rearing: it costs men too damn much in the long run!

And truthfully: it actually hurts more women than it helps. Not to say they can’t use the money. But it helps feed the selfish vindictive tendencies of emotionally stunted women, preventing them from being able to move beyond the man and truly heal.

By attempting to punish the ex, they are punishing both themselves and their children in the process.

That vindictive spirit is something that’s really biting sisters in the ass right now. Most truly don’t understand why ‘good black men’ don’t look their way for marriage, and all they seem to attract instead are the low-budget brothers with nothing to offer except more out-of-wedlock babies. Yet they fail to see how they’ve stunted themselves through anger and bitterness.

And by virtue of the law of association: you attract what YOU are at the end of the day. Deadbeats attract other deadbeats.

A bitter pill to swallow, but a truthful one all the same.

Nat