Comments on: A Wife a Rebel Lately?

By: BHAA

BHAA — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:44:56 +0000

Mack, you wanna know the best part? I am no longer going to be difficult when it comes to submission. I understand that our men do tend to go outside of our race to find that compatibility, level/clear minded, loving woman but one thing i also know is that it feels (i am not prejudice so saying better is wrong) real damn good when he can find it in his own. Our egos play a huge part in our relationship problems. Not just intimate ones but all sorts of relationships…ex..family, friends and co workers as well. Calmness and humble self understandings keep us grounded and able (i believe) to see what truly matters. Divorcing the ego and loving ourselves, our children and our mates wholeheartedly is a daunting but yet amazing task. I am doing well with the me part and the children. I am calmly waiting for the he part (other then the truest most high HE) so i can share the core of me and vice versa whilst submitting to help build us up. Again i say blessed be all whom read this. gdnt/morning.

By: BHAA

BHAA — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:07:40 +0000

I was reading your comment Mr Mack and I appreciated it. You hit it right on when you said She will not have to search because he will find her. My life has turn over in the past 9 months. I must first say that i am 32 year young african american woman and a mother and single. It used to make me angry but now im so much more excited when i think that line to myself. Over the past 9 months I cut off all social connections to get connected with my spiritual connections. to quiet down the noise and hear what was being said to me all along. I got rid of the weaves and the hair all together. Looked in the mirror and fell in love with my features and seen i am oh so beautiful. Got rid of all wrong clothes and habits (except smoking, lord knows im trying) and fell in love with me fully. I love my lips and my eyes my hands and all in between. I let go of pain and called people to apologize for any sort of misunderstandings and wished them all well including my ex. I needed to do that in order to love me better. Looked at my 2 children and just started guiding them with all i could and still am. Very active in my childrens goals and push them when they need it instead of how i used to be when i was too busy. Stepped back and got on my knees and prayed and thanked GOD for blessing me with 2 living parents and bonded with them much more. I thank god he kept them here with me while i running wild and gave me a 2nd chance. I no longer yearn for the crew of girlfriends or the longing of a mate. I know i am prepping myself so i will able to receive him better. working on my mind, my conduct, my morals, my spirit, my goals, my beliefs, my body, my love, my ability to harnest true tears and heartfelt smiles from deep within that i could not find before. Oh my it feels so lovely. knowing now i truly understand these 2 sayings “if you dont stand for something then you will fall for anything” and “if you fail 2 plan then you plan 2 fail”….so I now stand for something all the while i am truly planning. Whilst I prep myself i know as you said, later on in life he will find me. whomever he may be. May you all be blessed inside and out.

By: Stella

Stella — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 14:25:04 +0000

Pride is a significant factor in rebellion. It takes a lot for both men and women to give up self-serving and self-seeking ways. Without the One instruction manual ppl tend to try to live according to this world in search of ‘worldly’ values ie ‘own a home’, wine/dine, take vacations…without first seeking God and first serving His will, we are all lost. The most rebellious spirit is often the most broken, convinced that they are right and everyone else is wrong. Despite this, if you see the potential to lead someone away from rebellion, make it a goal to help them seek God and make it less of a goal for you to anticipate disappointment. We all fall short. Love, being the verb that it is, is in fact patient. So, continue to wait (in my Katt Williams voice) and also be encouraged to know that helping another grow spiritually is more valuable than just sitting idly by waiting. We aren’t here just to serve ourselves. See the potential in others that God sees and you’ll be amazed by what a former rebellious spirit can become. Women can learn from Proverbs 31 and we can all learn from Titus 3:3-8.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Thu, 31 May 2012 15:13:18 +0000

@ Mack…you are absolutely corect! The interrupters (cant think of the sistas name) do amazing work. I recently partcipated in a panel discussion with the director of the documentary about the interrupters. I belive he is the same gentleman that filmed Hoop Dreams out of Chicago. Additionally, I am very familiar with the works of Dr. Kunjufu. Years ago while passing through Chicago for research I was conducting at Northeastern Illinois University, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Conrad Worill ( I believe that was his name) of the Northeastern Illinois Education Program in Urban Leadership. We talked at great length about the works of Dr. Kunjufu and Kambon.

By: Mack

Mack — Thu, 31 May 2012 00:50:35 +0000

@Nojma:

The silence is definitely golden!

By: Mack

Mack — Thu, 31 May 2012 00:49:54 +0000

Ditto.

My own father has an organization down in Atlanta, mentoring young boys the same way he mentored me into manhood: http://www.operationnotarget.org/

What would be even better Ms. Natalie, would be if the gov’t decided to back and finance organizations like the Interrupters out in Chicago, or my pop’s in Atlanta. They’re already on the front-lines making changes. Give them the assistance they could use.

By: sankofa

sankofa — Wed, 30 May 2012 07:29:16 +0000

@Natalie…have you ever heard of the works of Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu? A psychologist out of Chicago who produced several ground breaking works, starting with the conspiracy to destroy black boys. Being that his topic is not only specific to African male youth and children over all, he does present ideas similar to what you mentioned in the five crisis component AS WELL AS call the adults to task for failing to provide the positive role modeling for our children. Dr, Kunjufu also teaches teachers in the public fool system to recognize and reverse their own prejudice in edumacating African boys. Let’s hope that the white house boys to men organization is successful in their endeavours, however I won’t hold my breath. Not because it is not a noble effort, but whenever these folly tricksters (politicians) get involved in something humanistic and as balanced as what the organization proposes is the day the earth stands still.

As well, if there is anything organizations like the Black Panthers have proven in their ground breaking breakfast program (for instance) is that in order to effect, effective change in our community, we have to do it from the ground up and not top down. Finally, I personally take no offense when knowledge is brought to the table whether specifically African focused or the broader spectrum. At the end of the day, we all share the planet, so how it is shared is paramount.

Youtube or google his name and you should see a few of his lectures on the conspiracy to destroy black boys and the how they are failing in the “killing fields” of this system. Inspiring stuff.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:33:24 +0000

I was waiting for the comments specific to the topic to slow before I interjected off topic. I apologize if this appears to be selfishly motivated, I am merely tryng to bring attention to those truly in the struggle of advancing ALL of our people.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:27:23 +0000

@mack and sankofa,

Didnt know if you were aware of the efforts of this council, but I’m trying to get the word out…

http://whitehouseboysmen.org/blog/

it is really a nicely researched and proposed commision that addresses issues that demand immediate attention if we are to save our boys and heal our men! heres an excerpt from the intro:

Although the Commission is diverse, we have in common at least two beliefs: first, the desire to support the progress made by our daughters in the recent past, and to continue that into the distant future. To this end, we desire for the White House Council on Boys and Men to work parallel to and co-operatively with the already-formed White House Council on Women and Girls.

Second, the Commission members share the belief that our daughters and sons are in the same boat. Therefore, if just one sex wins, both sexes lose.

The more closely our Commission investigated, the more concerned we became with the crisis our sons, fathers, and men currently face. It is a crisis as ubiquitous yet invisible today as our financial crisis was five years ago.

We will first identify the five major components of the crisis—each with potential solutions. As with the financial crisis, real answers require more than putting out fires. So we conclude by fundamentally re-thinking the journey from boy to man in the past, with an aim to preserve the best and modify the rest.

First, then, the five major components of the crisis:

1. The Education of our Sons
2. The Emotional Health of our Sons
3. Children without Dads; Dads without Children
4. The Crisis of Boys’ and Men’s Physical Health
5. The Future of Work, and of Boys and Men at Work

By: Nojma

Nojma — Mon, 28 May 2012 16:24:49 +0000

@Mack and Sankofa…..did you notice that my questions haven’t been answered? You know where I asked to “please me how playing anything you can do I can do better has worked out for you and your man. Please tell me who won that head-butting match. Please tell me how being a rebel secured a loving man for you. Please tell me how refusing to be submissive proved to be a successful strategy in your relationship. Please tell me how he rushes home to greet the rebel that awaits him. A man needs “peace of mind“; please tell me how a rebel gives a man “peace“.”……..**crickets**