Thank you so much for your continued support, I wanted to share my current facebook status, I feel like it is relevant to the article as well.

“Mothers, how are we raising our sons? How are we raising this new generation of Black Men? By our OWN actions, by our thoughts, by our OWN words are we raising them to LOVE Black Women or HATE Black Women? If they constantly hear us complain about “no good black men” if they constantly see us verbally kill the spirit of a Black Man, will that make them desire a Black Woman as their choice of a mate? My oldest and first born child is my son. In order for him to love Black Women, he has to love me. Not JUST because I am his mother, but because he sees how I view Black Men, how I speak of them, TO them…all of that combined with so much more, will (God willing) place such an ENORMOUS desire and love for Black Women, that when he becomes of age, he will seek a Black Woman as a wife, worthy of his protection, worthy of his love, he will seek a Black Woman that is qualified to lay the foundation for his legacy, he will in turn prove himself worthy of her trust and love. He will honor her and she(Inshallah)will honor him.

Our children WATCH our actions and they LISTEN to what we say, if they see us watching BasketBall Wives, or Male Bashing movies or any type of that madness, they watch our REACTION to what we are watching so what will that teach them? If our sons hear us telling our girlfriends, “girl get you a baller” or “make sure you take that n** to court for child support”, and they hear bitter, manipulative contempt filled language from US as their Mothers, how would that shape their view of Black Women? We don’t even see that on a subconsciousness level or hell even on a conscious level, because of our refusal to deal with accountability, because of our refusal to look at self, because of our refusal to accept the consequences that followed because of the mate WE chose, because of our refusal to be accountable for OUR actions, we are creating as Tupac said ” a race of babies,That will hate the ladies.”

Again, my prayer is that my son will desire a Black Woman for his wife, but in order for him to truly love Black Women, I have to set the BEST example for him, which I strive to do everyday by the will and grace of God. Just as a Father’s relationship with his daughter is crucial, as it is her first relationship with a man, so is a mother’s relationship with her son.

If our sons hear us constantly spewing venom towards Black Men, all we are doing is POISONING their desire for Black Women.”

I have finally realized this as a woman I have to look at myself.

A lot of women love Tyler Perry but over look the fact that Perry has his own gender issues at the moment. And Steve Harvey always wanted to be a pimp and acted it out, but he funny, so it’s aight.

“I’n’I nah come to fight flesh and blood,
But spiritual wickedness in ‘igh and low places.
So while they fight you down,
Stand firm and give Jah thanks and praises.
‘Cos I’n’I no expect to be justified
By the laws of men – by the laws of men.
Oh, true they have found me guilty,
But through – through Jah proved my innocency.

Oh, when the rain fall, fall, fall now,
It don’t fall on one man’s housetop. Remember that:
When the rain fall,
It don’t fall on one man’s housetop”
—-Bob Marley (so much things to say)

I see you are carrying the light sister and not hiding it under the bushell. Those of us who know, we got your back.

Ashe