But that was many years ago, before internet porn, rap and rock videos and the popularity of strip clubs warped our way of thinking about sex. You’re dealing with a different quality and mindset of dude nowadays.

On a brighter note, a discerning man knows how to bring out the inner freak within any woman. because we know they all have one lurking around in the darkness somewhere deep inside of them. So go for the discerning man, not the ones who probably wouldn’t make losing your virginity to them worth the hassle.

To anyone with self worth, the answer is a no-brainer.

Don’t feel bad about the loneliness. Loneliness is temporary. But getting with the wrong dude out of loneliness can have residual effects that last a life time. Don’t even worry about falling in love. Worry about creating a better YOU and you’ll attract who you’re destined to be with.

Being a virgin has little to nothing to do with ‘baggage’. It’s actually a lost virtue in this sick and twisted world.

I disagree with your negative tone mainly because, I haven’t seen your take on attributes sought in a mate.

LibraryLady hit it right (MAKE A LIST OF WHAT A QUALITY MATE IS) ********

I don’t dispute any posts on this issue because it needs to be discussed more within the black community however, the dynamics seem to point more to all the violence of “black on black” crime; sad but true.

I still remain open-minded about this issue regardless if anyone agrees or disagrees with my reply.

Mack makes a very valid point and if a lot of ‘sista’s’ just look on the inside of the black man FIRST, instead of looking at his wallet, car, house, clothes, etc. etc. etc.; then, they may be shocked at how many good black men are still available for them.

ME??? I’m already spoken for.

Thanks.

James. . . . .