Comments on: What is a Friend…?

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 18:38:14 +0000

I believe that friendship IS demanding…that is what separates acquaintances from friends. Of course, no one is expected to be there all of the time, and neither are they expected to be perfect…but the article addresses “intentions” and “convenience.” Friendship is about extending yourself, whether it be for moral support or any other kind. things are not always meant to be easy…and that includes friendship. We prove our friendship to our friends with the simplest of words and actions…and it is not so much about what is “asked”, as it is about what is “given.” But I do agree with you, Scott, on your last statement… There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a friend to others without asking them to reciprocate, because that is the true nature of a friend…one who offers him/herself without the expectation of reciprocation….but that doesn’t make that other person your friend. The article suggests that we learn the difference.

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 04:45:31 +0000

The definition sounds good to me, but I think the article comes across as overly demanding. Even the best of friends can’t always be there or be the perfect friend all the time. And what’s the harm in being the kind of friend you’ve learned to be toward someone without asking them to reciprocate?

By: Arthur

Arthur — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:44:06 +0000

Well said!

By: Isa

Isa — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 04:13:43 +0000

Interesting article! I would add also that you discover who your friends are when they can be truly happy for you when things are going well in your life. I mean real friends are not supposed to be jealous or envious of your success.

By: hoodgirl

hoodgirl — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:15:31 +0000

Great Article. I just lost a “FRIEND” of almost forty years. We met in grade school and remained tight. She was the only friend I had that would call my home and leave a message on my answering machine showing concern for not just me but my husband too. I remember she called me during the peak of the tax season asking me to bail her out of jail. Without any hesitation I drove 2 hours to her rescue and we shared childhood stories all the way back home. Everytime I think of Phyllis Hyman’s “Old Friend” it brings me to tears thinking of her.