Comments on: Your Wombs are NOT Weapons…

By: LadyOptimistic

LadyOptimistic — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 20:51:08 +0000

@Childfree – i agree with you. Most of this article focuses on the unmarried women who choose to sleep with men they don’t know. Lust is the optical word in this union and not God, or divine interactions. As a single mother who was married for over 14 years, i did my best to be everything the Bible said i should be as a wife. My husband on the other hand, wasn’t a bad person, just financially driven to the point that he sold us out for the love of money. My children still love and miss him, but we’ve gotten to a point where we’ve accepted that he’s never going to be the father/husband i/we wanted and we’ve moved on from there. I want a divorce and as he lives abroad, can’t wait for him to visit so that i can get closure on that chapter of my life. I want him to have a good relationship with his children and i encourage that by talking to them. Im just hoping he’s mature enough to deal and want to see/ call them as he’s been doing.
Both men and women need to go into a relationship with open eyes, not the rose coloured glasses that new relationships bring. If i ever get into another relationship, i’ll take my time, cuz i’m not going in to fail again. I’d rather be single. God has to be the centre of this or any union i get involved in, and as im much more mature and wiser, i’m hopeful that i’ll attract a like minded man.

By: Antone

Antone — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 01:54:54 +0000

I’m all for equal responsibility when a baby is made, and I think that’s what this is about for the most part, but I find the writing all over the place and somewhat incoherent. Sorry, just my opinion.

By: Childfree

Childfree — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 00:32:38 +0000

@Mack, nope I date a one of the good guys. Not afraid at all. Here is the problem with our community. I say, I know this guy. You said, I don’t, but women … As men and women we always point fingers at one another. What’s the point. The point, there’s a problem in our relationships and how do we fix it.

Men leaving their families is a serious problem. Not all women chase away the father of her children. Some men want to leave and start over. Some of us men/women vet during courtship and blindsided, when the relationship desolves.

By: Mack

Mack — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 19:03:36 +0000

@ChildFree: The nicest guy can turn into a monster? Sounds like you’re carrying some serious ‘fear’ energy inside of you as it relates to relationships. I know of very few men who have ever walked away from their entire families after a divorce. I know it happens in books and movies, but rarely have I seen this in real life.

It’s been my experience, and those of some good friends, that when the man and woman divorce, the wives tend to make the kids some sort of a package deal thing. “If you won’t be with me, you don’t want to be with your kids neither!”

And then she does everything in her bitter power to keep the man away from his kids. Any dude that walks out on his kids was a weak individual and an undeveloped man to begin with. Proper vetting BEFORE marriage and/or kids would have revealed this.

Whatever that man turns out to be was usually present earlier on in the relationship. It just gets overlooked by the excitement of being in a new relationship. Walk slower into a relationship, and you’ll usually see the red flags before they become outright train wrecks.

By: Lacubana

Lacubana — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 09:06:21 +0000

If Afrikan descended women would take one min and step back and try to see and overstand why our children are so lost and locked out they would see that it is often due to thier own resistance to the natural order? If Afrikan women (desc) would take the tine to learn about MAN before they enter into relationships perhaps they could find a way to circumvent much of the madness being thrown at thier SONS” husbands fathers and Afrikan men in general? WHEN, Afrikan women decide that enough is enough and that they are finally tired of all of the blame excuses and drama perhaps their will still be a FEW GOOD AFRIKAN MEN LEFT? Now for those who choose to read this remember this is not as much as a question as it is an observation.

By: Eleanie

Eleanie — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:56:53 +0000

“Are we really studying the men we have allowed entry in our lives?” This statement is very true. Many of us men and women are not raised to think about that when it comes to choosing a mate. We find ourselves maturing into that thought pattern, with or with without children.

By: GaryW

GaryW — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 21:32:59 +0000

Much of this article is true but reality in the black community is very ugly, cold and hard. The self desturction of the black family is the end product of the sick and mindless actions that has now become acceptable and fashionable in our communities. Both black men and women are equally to to blame.

By: Childfree

Childfree — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 20:58:19 +0000

I agree to some degree. What about the guys divorcing their entire families?? They were a happy family for a number of years. We separate. He has nothing to do with his exwife or children. The mom encourages the relationship with dad. I know women chose the wrong guy at times, but the nicest guy can turn into a monster. Now what? Is this the women’s fault as well.