Comments on: The UN-Sanctity of Marriage…

By: Staff

Staff — Mon, 06 Oct 2014 19:14:21 +0000

The only thing I agree with. Everything else is just talk. Until you are in a marriage, you have no idea exactly what it takes to sustain it. For some people, it may be opening your marriage up to include others for a few years. For some, it may mean referring to your spouse as a partner, and thinking of your marriage as a business agreement.

@Camilla Interesting. Open marriage? Just can’t picture many black couples going that route? Then again it’s 2014 now.

I do agree with the partner/business part.

By: Camilla

Camilla — Mon, 06 Oct 2014 13:17:56 +0000

“Once you get passed the “Act” (Meaning: proposal, rehearsals, fittings, ceremony, cake, electric slide, first legal hump session) y’all know “The Act” of getting married, don’t mean it’s mission accomplished! Acknowledge that marriage is work! Consistent work which that allows and produces growth. Growing together and in the same direction. When you stop growing together the marriage will become stagnant which allows for distractions & interference and also for you two to grow apart! Can we be married is not even an issue anymore. The issue should be are you & your spouse willing to do the work to sustain it!”

By: Ramses

Ramses — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 19:53:28 +0000

Good piece

By: Deserie

Deserie — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 01:38:24 +0000

I LUV IT! Too many people focus too much damn time, attention and money on the “wedding” and very little invest in the MARRIAGE! One day of “fluff” can take a year or more to plan “just right” only for the marriage to be over before the caterers have even cleaned and retreived their wares.

Real Talk…that is why I’m not married yet because I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I tell people I am waiting on the man who was BORN to LOVE ME! When it’s all said and done…it won’t matter how much my husband makes, how big our house, how many cars or trips we take. What will matter is the small things like when he takes the time to buy my favorite drink when he was out, that he washes my hair, that he massages my feet when I’ve been in heels all day. I’m a simple girl who enjoys the simple treasures in life. I’m sure my husband will appreciate the love i put in every meal, the “thinking about you trinkets” that I may find and the bath awaiting him after a hard day’s work. Beauty fades, people gain weight, lose weight, get sick and tragedies can enter a marriage but True Love…Pure Love: surpasses even death. Thanks again for a wonderful piece.

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 22:12:56 +0000

Great article Cuz – Keep ’em coming!!

By: Eleanie

Eleanie — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 01:15:05 +0000

You said a mouthful of truth. I am not married, but I see so many of the things that you have pointed out. Marriage is between those two names that are on the marriage license. I loved your energy in this article.

I am not married, but I have learned the hard way not to share everything that goes on in my relationships. Asking for advice is okay sometimes, but other times couples should first try to work it out between themselves.

By: Cassie

Cassie — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:03:28 +0000

Mr. Jamal, you have said a mouthful. Are you married? You have stated so much about what you see in marriages today: The Business Partner, Braxton Broads, Jim Jones, etc..are you the whole package, Sir? You speak as if you have seen it all. how is your marriage? Is your wife a Braxton broad? Are you a momma’s boy with the Jim jones’ syndrome – trying to appease your Momma and your wife? Do you write/speak from experience? I was married for 15 years and currently separated..my sisters were my sounding board when I was disappointed or saddened by various factors of my marriage. They in no way influenced my me or how I acted in my marriage. I just think that your opinion is very one-sided. I would defintiely like for you to tell me about your marriage, your wife, your role as a husband, or if pray tell if ur even married. GTFOH!!!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:24:52 +0000

You really hit the nail on head with this article. Once the growth stop in the marriage it leaves the marriage open for one of the parties to seek fulfilment for other sources other then their spouse.

By: Dlwava

Dlwava — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 01:37:23 +0000

Very well written and insightful. Keep them coming we all need enlightenment.

By: Judy

Judy — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:22:37 +0000

PS….Your husband/wife really should be the best friend you have!