Comments on: Sheila Agnew; Can We Wait On Love?

By: Deeann D. Mathews

Deeann D. Mathews — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 07:29:13 +0000

Thank you, Ms. Agnew. I needed that…

By: Cristal

Cristal — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 13:28:18 +0000

Ps im practicing my spellig since i talk spanish but im a black woman

By: Cristal

Cristal — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 13:26:16 +0000

Gracias.

That mean thank you in spanish thank you for your respond well i did talk to him yesterday am verry sad but God will help me God come firt in my life and i know God have the person for me but what i did i did it for me im a good person who love The Lord and i know one day i will be a good wife.

Thank you God bless
From Panama Rep of Panama

By: James

James — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 11:16:59 +0000

Cristal:

I empathize with you and the mental/emotional toll it has taken on you however, I was at that point with my current lady after we’ve been 2 gether for 10 years (I already have her “ROCK” picked out and almost paid for) however, I took a long hard look in the mirror (past my physical reflection into my heart) and; I found that my insecurities have to be dealt with continually (every human being has flaws; we’re not perfect). I’m glad you made the decision for YOU not him: ” Love thy neighbor as thyself” (Just a tidbit from scripture) so; loving me more is key to loving another and not sacraficing my values and belief system to please the other person and/or be validated therein. It’s a long hard process but the ultimate reward is (PEACE OF MIND AND CLOSER TIES TO GOD). The “Heavenly Father” has to be at the center of any kind of union (sexual, mutual, friends, co-workers, etc.). It will not work if GOD is not in the middle.

Take care and GOD has your mate ready; he’s just preparing you more in mind/heart/spirit.

Some readers will disagree with my reply for their own reasons but, if WE as a Black people (man, woman, & child); look at what jesus was saying in Matthew, we can see the realities of our world without the blinders and what society keeps trying to condition our minds with.

James.

By: Cristal

Cristal — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 16:15:07 +0000

I love this man very mich but he is not ready to commit to me to get married we know each other a lot of years we were apart for 12 year and we got back togueder again i live in Panama he live in U.S.A he is a good man i know he love me im 45 year old and i dont have time to play i knw this man from 1995

in the past we cont be toguether but he told me last month hi not ready to get married so i decided to let him go i love him a lot but ilove me moore

i pray that God give me the strent i im s Christian and i trust in the Lord

i live in Panama Rep of Panama
Thak you

By: James

James — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 14:59:58 +0000

I agree with all 3 comments yet, I also disagree. I don’t think there is a “right one” when it comes to mates & relationships. I’ve been thru my share of looking & searching however, as a Black Man; I think it’s best to let GOD choose our mates; not us because, we tend to look at the (outside: clothes, body, money, etc. etc.); rather than the (inside:mind, heart, spirit) of a person first. I’ve been with my mate now for 10 years and we will be married this year or early January 2012. To sum it all up: “Love is not jealous; has no limits; and is forever shaped by the hand of GOD; not mankind”…….

By: Beverly

Beverly — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 13:45:38 +0000

Sometime we never know, who God has in store for us. I am divorced but have remained single by choice, sometime being in a relationship is a good thing and again, being tied to the wrong person can bring so much unhappiness, sometime it’s best to walk away and start anew, when one try to start over, at times there will be doubt, getting to know someone and knowing exactly who is good for YOU is the key to finding that Special Someone. I have met a couple of nice guys that wanted a serious relationship which would had lead to marriage in their eyes. But somehow, I would always pull away, I think what it is, I wasn’t ready when I married the first time and so now to really get serious and settle down is not what I want. Some guys get the wrong idea. As I will tell anybody get to know a person first, sat some boundary, getting to know someone can be a lot of fun that is if you like each other. I have seem people together not because they like each other but out of convenience.

By: Toni

Toni — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 12:38:26 +0000

I have been single six years and have watched my friends go through man after man looking for the right one. I chose to save my self and be pure for the man that GOD has for me. Im older wiser and ready. I beleive in Love, and happy ever after. One thing for sure GOD loves me and i know he is taking his time for a reson because what GOD put in our lives is everlasting , is the best and i deserve tbhe best. So dont be impatient, and know real love dont cost a thing.

Sincerely, waiting.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 23:18:00 +0000

Sheila Agnew, thank you for an insightful and sensitive article. There are many ways to tell or show those you love that their life helps to complete your own, when in a loving marriage or in a relationship. It’s great that you had the joy in helping others to express such feelings to their significant others. It’s also just as great to see through the eyes of others in knowing that we don’t need others to define who we are. In moments, when we might feel wanting ,or simply left feeling alone and left out of things in life, it’s then God cradles us even more. There’re so many things to do in life, to give and to find joy in, especially being grateful for the love of God.

Suzanne McMillen-Fallon, Published Author 2011
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