I can relate to your sentiments regarding MARRIAGE.

I too, have been selfish, insensitive, and an overall A*****E.
Number 1, 3, & 4 hit dead on. Me and my Fiancee’are to the point where we can talk to–not at–each other about our current relationship issues. Although, she has thanked me many times for being there for her over the last 10 years (drama, cheating, etc. etc.); I’m mostly concerned about forgiving her, letting it all go, and trusting GOD to guide us back on the right paths. The past is just that “THE PAST”….Holding grudges creates hate and I’ve been there and done that however, if I’m to truly learn to trust this woman, I MUST 4 give and in turn, keep loving her more and more and more until she learns to love herself and to just keep loving her in spite of myself.

I’ll keep praying on my INTERNAL workload and I know GOD will guide me back (mentally, emotionally, spiritually) not only to him, but back to myself and my Fiancee’ (mentally, emotionally, and spriritually). . . . .

Thanks for your input on this issue which, a lot of black couples shy away from however as the old saying goes; “THE PROOF IS IN THE PUDDING.”

JAMES.