Regarding multiple losses within a short time, in grief there is something I have started to call “a natural grief vortex”. For this writer, the period between Feb. 20th (Evelyn’s passing) and March 16th (Thelma’s memorial) will likely be very emotional for the whole family in upcoming years.

In terms of healing from grief, it can be calming to just accept that the period between of time between these two dates is likely to be very intense. It is possible to plan for extra self-care and mourning activities on an annual basis…for at least the next five years.

It can be comforting to know that these 3+ weeks each year can be especially devoted to commemorating these two much loved women.

It can be consoling to:
**Plan extra family visits
**Look at photos and compare favorite stories about these women
**Request communication/support from friends
**Try to limit additional stressful challenges as much as possible
**Be extra careful during potential risky activities like: driving, exercising, dealing with bad weather conditions etc.

Here is how I learned this idea…
My Father who I loved very, very much died about 6 years ago. His birthday, May 31st, is just before father’s day on the third Sunday in June. It has taken me a while to figure this out, but now I don’t even bother trying to ‘cheer myself up’ between these dates if I am missing him. Embracing and creating rituals during this “natural grief vortex” has helped me feel calmer and function more efficiently the rest of the year.

Hope the same becomes true for you.
Best wishes to you,
Margo Rose

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