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4 Ways to Handle a Breakup.

June 17, 2018 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) It happened. The very thing you hoped wouldn’t; you and the love of your life broke up and now you don’t know what to do. As a man, you may feel like forgetting about it and moving on is best, but that is way easier said than done.

It’s okay to grieve the loss of a relationship. This experience in life is not just reserved for women when a partnership dissolves. Humans are social beings that need love and interaction, and as much as some would like to say that the notion doesn’t apply to men, that is just not the case.

If you have recently broken up with your significant other and have found it hard to deal with the aftermath of a broken heart, there are some things you can do to help yourself get through the process in a healthy and freeing way that will position you to eventually receive “the one”.

Here are some suggestions.

Get Emotional

Don’t hold in your emotions. You have them for a reason. It is not unmanly or feminine to show them or even express them. The kind of hurt you experience after a break up is deep and it is real. You can get emotional. You can allow yourself to feel. Denying that you are hurt will only hurt you more in the future.

Block, Delete, Move On

One of the worst things people do after breaking up is remaining in contact with their ex. It is over and your best move is to ensure that you have as few triggers about that person as possible. Block and delete them from your phone, email, and social media. The notion “out of sight out of mind” is what you want here.

Take a Moment to Be Single

It can be tempting to jump right back into another relationship. Some people even suggest that you do this; especially because you’re a man. They hold to the old saying “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” I don’t really know about that, but what I do know is that a break up is a great time to get to know yourself better. Explore things you weren’t able to during your relationship and take time out to just do you, boo.

Stay Busy

Many people find it helpful to remain busy after a breakup. This is an understandable move. You can stay busy with hobbies, family, work and definitely self- care. Maybe there was a project you really wanted to do but didn’t have the time during your relationship. There are many things out there that can keep you busy and help take your mind off of the loss that you just experienced.

Whatever you have to do to make it through your breakup, that is perfectly fine. No one can tell you what to do or when it’s time. However, if you want to get past your breakup as soon as possible so that you can return to peace and balance in your life, these are a few good suggestions on how to do just that.

Staff Writer; Rasheda Abdullah


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