(ThyBlackMan.com) “Why do my decisions turn out to be bad?” This is one of the questions almost every person in the world asks at some point in their lives. The idea behind making any decision is that we all want to live a life we can be proud of instead of living the life we regret. But if your decisions turn out to be bad or if you feel that you are a bad decision-maker, here are 5 reasons why it’s happening to you.
1. You let the problem drive your decisions
Nothing is permanent in the world and this rule is applicable to your problems. Soon the problem you are dealing with today will disappear. But temporary problems often drive our decisions and cause pain when such decisions turn out to be bad. Nearly every single person has tasted or will test the fruit of bad decisions in his lifetime, and when these problems start driving our choices and decisions, it’s the time for a disaster.
When you let problems drive your decision-making abilities, your
decisions will turn out to be bad. All the exceptions, pain, uncertainty, and annoyance that you feel come from poor decision-making and one of the biggest reasons why you fail as a decision maker is that you let the problems drive your decisions.
For example, an unhappy employee will try to create problems for others to get a promotion. A student will decide to pass the exam by cheating just because he didn’t study last night. A person with financial burden will try to make some quick cash by simply putting his credibility, respect, and savings at risk.
2. You play with or simply don’t respect your values
So how can you solve this problem and come out of the temporary pain without losing? One of the best solutions is you must respect your values. Have you ever defined your values? It may sound strange and you might say that this is not something that you can just write on a paper. But do it anyway. Do write your values on a piece of paper and let your values determine your decisions.
For example, your love life has become a roller-coaster ride, instead of asking yourself, “should I cheat on my partner?” ask “Do my values allow me to cheat?” then ask “should I cheat on my partner?” If you truly respect your values, you will realize that your decisions will be driven by your values and will not be controlled by your problems.
3. Emotions screw up your decisions
Emotions are good but they shouldn’t alter or screw up your decisions in any way. Emotions triggered by an event can affect another situation even if that situation has no relation with the first one. Have you ever wondered why some people can’t do well in a job interview even before the interview they appeared to be rockstar in front of the mirror or roommates? Their fears and emotions take the control and affect their decision-making process. And this is what happens when you go out for an interview keeping your salary expectations in mind, and you come out accepting an offer you knew is not good enough for your skills and experience.
4. You don’t stick to your decisions and later you blame them
If you never stick to your decisions, what’s the point in expecting your decisions to bring fruits? We tend to make decisions based on the information we have and most of the people don’t even give a single thought to how much knowledge or information they have. Lack of information often leads to frequent changes in plans and in the end, you never get what you want. If your decisions are based on what is there in front of you, it can bring another moment of regret.
Making better decisions is often a matter of choosing the right amount of risks. If you have more options, you are probably going to fail. By limiting your risks to a level where your values, beliefs, knowledge and abilities match can be an important step to ensuring that your decisions are standing on a concrete foundation.
5. You forget what and why you started
Decisions are a path that you must follow in order to achieve what you want. It’s a process that needs practice and repetition. You cannot make it a part of your life in one day, you will have to keep reminding yourself of why you started. Why decisions turn out to be bad because people often forget what they decided to do and what they actually did.
Know your decisions in depth and focus on the purpose. Sit down and think how you can keep things in alignment and next time whenever you feel like making a decision, ask yourself the right questions and then decide.
Staff Writer; Corey Shaw
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