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What Happened to Family.

December 6, 2017 by  
Filed under Fatherhood, News, Relationships, Sista Talk

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(ThyBlackMan.com) It seems the “I got to get mine” disease is taken over our community like the plague. Family, which is the cornerstone, of community is disappearing as elders’ transition from this life. It seems as though we loved the support, and encouragement the elders gave us, but we are not prepared to take up the mantle of family one they are gone. This is a serious issue as we face a time where we, as a people, are more vulnerable than ever. Our very culture is under attack and in the fight to get all we can get financially what we need in support is not showing itself.

It’s important to understand we don’t have to sacrifice family for advancement or security. There are various kinds of security, and having a support base rich in love, and culture, that backs you regardless of what you have is priceless.

Its understood that many of us see family as a burden, or a source of drama we’d rather live without. Truth is that’s not everyone’s experience, but the media would like us to believe that. Every family gathering is not a drama laden embarrassment. Many of us have elders that have been the rock of a foundation that created us. We learned strength, endurance, and solidarity from family. Solidarity is the part we tend to all to be sacrificed on the altar of our ambition.

In the times we live in there is simply no reason we can’t stay connected to family. So many of us have smart phones, and even our older family members have discovered social media. Granted, we may not always be able to visit as often as we like…but we can do better than just seeing loved ones at funerals. There is a strength, and rejuvenation that we can receive from the love positive energy of family.

Family is necessary in our community, and we can’t fight for community without strengthening the family. We must value the wisdom of the elders, and allow them to teach of through their eyes. Granted we live in a fast pace society whereby everyone is busy, and loaded with obligations. However, we must keep in mind others have a life also…we must plan and make time for family. It is important for children to know where they come from, and who they are connected to. It takes more than parents to raise rounded children…we claim it takes a village, yet too many of us disregard the village.

It is very important, as a people, that we get back to basics if we are ever to see healing and restoration come to our communities. Innovation and new ideas must come together with wisdom and experience in order for change to be affective and long lasting in community. Make time for the elders while they are still here. Family is a necessity that is vital to our success not merely a convenience, an we must value it as such.

Staff Writer; Christian Starr

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6 Responses to “What Happened to Family.”
  1. Roselynn says:

    Professor JJ:

    If we don’t need anyone to teach us about how to care for our families, why are so many of us black women raising our children alone. Black WOMEN know how to care for their families, black MEN need to take a few more lessons.

  2. Professor JJ says:

    We don’t need anyone to teach us anything about family values and how to take care of our family members. We have a well documented history of taking care of our families with the bare minimum as well as taking care of white families… dual families simultaneously since the founding of this nation. Please educate yourself before submitting negative comments publicly about my people. A declining culture and systematic racism focused on destroying the black family by white America has always been the primary issue for the black family. No race in America nor the world has experienced what black Americans have experienced since 1619 until present day. #BLACKFACTS Blacks have been and still are hated not only in America but in most countries throughout this world and we’ve yet to figure out why we are hated when we literally contributed more to civilization than any race.

  3. Professor JJ says:

    A declining culture focused on wealth over family, self-centrism. The American culture and media focuses on views of the white family while portraying the black family with limitations. People may not like Mr. Cosby but no one can deny he attempted for decades to portray the black family with values. Since his public discretions and conviction no one has attempted to continue showing the black family with values on primetime tv and media. We don’t need anyone to teach us the value of family just remind us of the value of family.

  4. Juan Lozano says:

    Asian and Latino culture have a lot to teach all of America, White or Black, in this field. Miami present.?

    • Professor JJ says:

      We don’t need anyone to teach us anything about family values and how to take care of our family members. We have a well documented history of taking care of our families with the bare minimum as well as taking care of white families… dual families simultaneously since the founding of this nation. Please educate yourself before submitting negative comments publicly about my people. A declining culture and systematic racism focused on destroying the black family by white America has always been the primary issue for the black family. No race in America nor the world has experienced what black Americans have experienced since 1619 until present day. #BLACKFACTS Blacks have been and still are hated not only in America but in most countries throughout this world and we’ve yet to figure out why we are hated when we literally contributed more to civilization than any race.

  5. Tracey Kenard says:

    This was wonderful and yet sad. Family time and gatherings are so important. My family doesn’t gather or keep in touch nearly as much as we should and it makes me sad. “Soul Food” will always be one of my favorite movies, mainly because of the family closeness. It’s sorely needed.

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