(ThyBlackMan.com) A victim, according to Peter McWilliams, is a person to whom life happens. If you are going to achieve your destiny in life, if you are going to rise above mediocrity and pursue excellence, you must elevate your desire – you must resist the mantle of victimization! In our society, anyone can claim victim status. All you have to do is wait twenty minutes and someone will oblige.
Each generation is purposed to achieve greater than previous generations and that means letting go of bad thinking, bad habits and bad living. Essentially, it’s no longer playing the victim card, no longer being the person to whom life happens. It’s time we begin to 
look for the hero in our challenges as opposed to the victim. Here are three must-have attitudes for moving from victim to victor.
A Victor is:
Powerful not pitiful:
Pastor Joel O’Steen of the Lakewood Church in Houston said it best: You can be pitiful or powerful – but you cannot be both! A victor sees himself as more than a conqueror and is intimately acquainted with his power. The pithy attitude spreads like a raging inferno. One person shares how he was victimized and, if he talks about it long enough, it has the same effects of second-hand smoke.
The victor does not waste time in throwing or attending pity parties – nor bothers with a putting together a guest list. This man knows who he is and whose he is. He is powerful beyond measure!
A Victor is:
Resourceful not resentful:
Ever speak with a person who constantly revisits a negative life event that happened years heretofore? He is like the dog that keeps returning to the site where it buried the bone. A victor does not revisit his past constantly but sees life as an abundant supply of blessings and opportunities; he sees the end of one thing as the beginning of something bigger and better.
A victor does not allow the lack of resources to deter him from his goal nor does he allow the word ‘can’t’ into his vocabulary; he knows that if one door closes – another one’s got to be open somewhere. In the words of John Lydon, the victor makes ugly beautiful by sheer persistence.
There are countless people who were born with no arms and no legs, who, instead of fretting and complaining about their condition, travel the globe motivating people to be and do their best. What might you accomplish fully equipped?
A Victor is:
Faithful not fearful:
What do people fear most? Some fear the past, others fear the future. A victor, though, purposely walks toward his fear and that resoluteness springs from his faith – in himself and in a Higher Power. It is not that the victor has no fear, it’s just that he refuses to be conquered by his fear. A victor marches around the walls of his fears, and those walls must inevitably come tumbling down!
Orison Swett Marden writes, A strong, successful man is not the victim of his environment…His own inherent force and energy compel things to turn out as he desires.
A victor intuitively understands that his life has been marked for greatness and he moves faithfully toward its completion.
Be powerful, resourceful and faithful and you will be a victor!
Staff Writer; W. Eric Croomes
This talented brother is a holistic lifestyle exercise expert and founder and executive coach of Infinite Strategies LLC, a multi-level coaching firm that develops and executes strategies for fitness training, youth achievement and lifestyle management. Eric is an author, fitness professional, holistic life coach and motivational speaker.
In October 2015, Eric released Life’s A Gym: Seven Fitness Principles to Get the Best of Both, which shows readers how to use exercise to attract a feeling of wellness, success and freedom (Infinite Strategies Coaching LLC, 2015) – http://www.infinitestrategiescoaching.com.