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Ten Things That Black Men Need to Stop Doing in 2016.

June 16, 2016 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) Black men in America have had to deal with a lot of challenges and there are things that now they need to put an end to. Some which is logical in nature because a lot of that behavior you see in black men are often times fueled by their mothers. As it is very known in the black community everything surrounds mom or grandma, but did you know that some of the thing a mother does is stuff that her son or grand son should not still be doing in 2016.

1. Get out of Mom and Grandma’s house-There’s an increased trend that many women find appalling and disturbing and that is grown men living at home with their mother. Why is this happening in 2016 and we’re all aware that the economic structure of many ethnic communities is a bit shaky, yet why are grown adult men finding it easier to live at home with mom or grandma? We also need to take a look at how a mother and/or grandmother’s role shapes a man’s life. Some mothers and grandmothers are not in the way respecting the adult threshold by letting that man be a man. Too many mothers and grandmothers are enabling their sons and grandsons from living their lives like productive adult men should be doing. Also living at home with mom and grandma can hurt your dating life because of the lack of privacy and space. Some men have mothers and grandmothers who don’t know how to respect boundaries in terms of that man dating and entertaining a lady.2016-Black-Men-The-Trent

2. Stop dating and having relationships with HOODRATS-Some of the most intelligent and well-rounded brothers are taking up dating hoodrats. Why would any man with the sense God gave him be finding himself with women who are not the most intelligent and lack home training? You also have to take into consideration that hoodrats want a man to take care of them and they only know how to spend money. drink, getting high, and having babies. Why would you want to date a woman who’s sole purpose is to get money out of a man and putting him through the ringer with a lot of pointless nonsense. This type of woman you DO NOT under any circumstance wife up. Leave this type of woman alone and do yourself a favor by not getting sexually involved with one either and deal with women on your level meaning they have the same qualities as you.

3. Stop dating and having relationships with BOUGHIE women-Why are so many guys falling for women that remind you of the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air’s Hillary Banks and Braxton Family Values’ Tamar Braxton. Why do men find this type of woman attractive? Raised in the hood, but acting stuck-up and conceited. Men have to spend time bending over backwards to please this type of woman because nothing will ever be good enough. Boughie women have unrealistic expectations of men wanting them to have high paying jobs, fancy cars, and eating out at expensive restaurants. A man has enough on his plate than to deal with a woman who is judgmental and views people and things as beneath her. Pass that kind of woman on by you’re settling if you think a woman like that has something real to offer you.

4. Quit Playing House With Women-Black men are notorious for their penchant in shacking up with women they’re not married to. Today’s social norms make it easier for men not to commit to women and to just live with them. If a woman is good enough to lay up, sleep with, and have babies with she’s good enough to marry. Another issue is that the women are given a false sense of commitment when involved with men who only want to play house with them. Either marry the woman or let her go so she can be with someone that can give her the time and love she deserves.

5. Get a job and keep one-This is one trait a woman find deplorable is a man who’s chronically unemployed that tells her he’s not husband material or mature to be a man who can provide and support his family. Having a job also symbolizes stability and also keep in mind too many gaps in a job history tells employers you are not a formidable employee if you could not keep a job for longer than a few months. So a lot of black men need to watch that because it’s a tell tale sign of his ability to support a wife and family.

6. Stop pushing up on women who tell you she’s taken/married/not interested-Why black men don’t take NO for an answer when a woman tells you she’s taken/married/not interested. If a woman won’t give you her number why continue to harass her. Leave her alone and move on because all you’re doing is annoying that woman by disrespecting her by continuing to ask her for her number. There’s too many other women out there to meet it’s not the end of the world if you et turned down. Also if a woman tells you that she’s taken or married respect her marital status and leave her alone.

7. Glorifying the gang and thug mentality-People constantly say this is a lifestyle when it’s a mentality. Idolizing violence, gang banging, frequent use of alcohol, and drug use. This is not to be admired by no means. It does not symbolize anything that relates to the black community in fact these elements are what is destroying it. It does not help when rappers are singing about violence and the disrespecting of women by sexualizing them on their albums and in their videos. This is how many women are victims of domestic violence due to men idolizing a lifestyle that does not need to exist.

8. Stop wearing your pants down to the crack of your a**-This is the most pathetic look for a black man. It’s not cute it’s actually disgusting and nobody needs to see what color boxers or briefs you wear. Here’s a fact that would make anyone want to hunt a belt down and that is the sagging of your pants was born in the prison system that was an indicator that you were available for sex. As many know homosexuality is very high in the prison system and many may think the sagging pants look is cool, but that’s what got many inmates raped in prison because the newcomers are unaware that wearing their pants sagging is sending a message to inmates that they were available for sexual activity.

9. Stop bragging about the size of your manhood-Unless you have a seriously low self-esteem that’s tacky and gross. What woman is going to be impressed with what’s in your pants your brain is in your head not your trousers. The size of your manhood does not define you as a person and most women would much rather you leave something to the imagination.

10. Stop acting like you’re God’s gift to women-Not every black woman wants a black man so don’t put yourself out there as if you’re all that and a bag of chips. With the change in dating norms you will find that not all black women want to date or marry black men. You need to be ok with that and not filling your head with stuff acting conceited.

Black men have a tendency to act like that as their way of compensating for what they fall short on. Black women are not going to deal with certain things out of black men so gentlemen if you want to be successful with women recognize when its time to leave some things behind and to make certain changes within your own life.

Staff Writer; Nafeesah Abdullah



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5 Responses to “Ten Things That Black Men Need to Stop Doing in 2016.”
  1. 2 ad 3 are wrong. People should date whomever they are attracted too.

  2. Letha says:

    I opened this article up because I thought 10 things to help build a better mind, body and soul would be listed. Instead, I got what look like a hate letter.

    Truly,

  3. Marque Anthony says:

    YOU CAN NEVER BREAK THE CHAINS OF MENTAL SLAVERY WHILE LIVING UNDER A LIE

    It amazes me how many of you are still brainwashed to call yourselves BLACK. Black is the color of your car tires, not your skin. The white oppressive slave trader called you black and himself white to set up a contrast and to attach negative images and denotations to you based on a lie about color. Look up BLACK in the dictionary.

    Research even shows that blacks are perceived by other groups as very different from African Americans. But we still keep calling ourselves what someone else defined us as, what we are not and what has a negative dictionary denotation in society. WAKE UP. LOOK AT THE REAL COLOR OF YOUR SKIN. YOU ARE NOT BLACK. You are an African American. The lie of calling us black and defining us by color (the wrong color) has been in place so long that our people accept it as truth – but it’s not. Know your colors.

    Native Americans do not allow others to call them red men. Asians do not accept being called yellow men. Hispanics do not answer to “what’s up brown man”. And Caucasians are not white, notebook paper is white. Wake up and see the plan where white racist supremacists plotted to redefine our people from Africa. STOP CALLING YOURSELF SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT!
    AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE NOT BLACK.

    Black is the color of your car tires, not your skin author. Being called “black” is a lie and it should be offensive. Haitians, Jamaicans and even Africans do not accept being called “black”, Why do you think that is? They are identified by tribes, klans, geographic areas and their respective countries. By using the very term black to describe us, we are doing the following:

    1. Using a term white oppressors and slave masters gave us.

    2. Letting someone else define us other than our own people.

    3. Calling ourselves something we are not.

    4. Buying into thee lie and the negative denotation. Check the dictionary.

    5. Being set apart in a way that no other ethnic group allows. Native Americans are not called Red Man. Asians are not called Yellow Man. Hispanics are not called Brown Man. They do not and will not accept being defined by color and by some other race or ethnic group at that.

    6. Ignoring our actual color (brown) which means brainwashing has worked. Any time someone can get an entire race, ethnic group or culture to ignore what they are and call themselves what they factually are not, THEY HAVE BEEN INDOCTRINATED, ASSIMILATED AND BRAINWASHED.

    7. Playing right into the oppressor’s profiles and stereotypes. Did you know studies show there is a different perception of black people than there is of African Americans? Words create perceptions and perceptions create actions towards us.

    WAKE UP. You know your colors. And even though others around the world equated our ancestors with the color of the soil in Africa or the meaning of negro/negroid, that does not change the fact that WE ARE BROWN – NOT BLACK.

    If you look in the dictionary or send an email to brainstormonline@yahoo.com, I will send you the research. Facts are facts and YOU ARE BROWN, NOT BLACK. When you receive the revelation of why they keep calling African Americans “black” and Caucasian people “white”, you may just wake up!

    STOP LETTING OTHER GROUPS DEFINE YOU WITH AN OBVIOUS LIE that we have heard and accepted so much that we believe it’s true and forget our colors. The de-programming has to take root or African Americans will forever be defined, limited and oppressed by those who get us to accept a lie.

  4. Marque Anthony says:

    As a professional family and relationship counselor and mediator, I have a few comments to the author. I agree mostly but as for #6, a lot of those women are in fact interested in affairs etc so remember it takes two. Therefore I would not be so quick to slam “black” men on this. I do not condone such behavior but it is not as one sided as you imply.

    As for your #10, a good “black” man has every right to have the confidence that he IS God’s gift to women. Women have been taught they are little princesses so men should see themselves as a prince who will one day be a king. There is nothing wrong with that confidence, especially in light of the fact that our brothers have been degraded, emasculated and oppressed by almost everyone – including “black” women.

    One final thin, we are not BLACK – your car tires are. Do not buy in to the programming that you are a color that you never were.

  5. JoeClyde says:

    I hate these types of articles. They make Black men to be this 20 headed bougeyman whose only purpose on earth is to be a desirable mate to a woman. It’s ridiculous.

    All a Black man has to do is be the best person he can be. Others will just have to deal. You can’t please everybody.

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