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Not Everyone Deserves Your Words or Energy.

February 8, 2015 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent…”

Proverbs 17:28

Have you ever found yourself with the perfect comeback for someone, but circumstances preclude you from the perfect opportunity to utter it?  In your mind, you have a well-thought out lecture that person needs to hear. I mean, if they could just get your eye-opening revelations, they could finally get it together! But the more you think about it, the more you realize that your words will be nothing more than wasted breath – and maybe the spark for more drama. Sometimes, you must come to the realization that getting others to fix themselves is not your responsibility.

It may sound harsh, but this week, I feel led to remind you that not all life lessons are about positivity. Some are about preservation. OneNotEveryone-2015Your energy is powerful.  Don’t give it away too easily. Your energy includes your words, your time, money, contacts and other resources.  Recognize its value and spend it on people and things that give you a return on your investment. If you give it away to people who do not deserve it, you’ll waste this precious resource and wonder why you don’t have enough energy for the people and things you say matter most.  When a situation deserves your energy, here’s what you’ll notice:

  • You are energized by engaging with the person, group or situation.
  • Even if you cannot see the outcome today, you know your energy is being spent on a worthwhile endeavor.
  • Your words and energy are moving you towards a solution, not fruitless debate or new problems.
  • You feel divinely-led to spend your energy there. It is purposeful.

I’m one of those people who probably gives more chances than I should, but when I’m done, I’m really done. I move on knowing that there is nothing more I could have done. I have no guilt. I don’t have to second guess myself. And typically, I get confirmation that my decision was the right one. This is because people who push your boundaries don’t stop being who they are just because you wise up.  Sometimes, silence is your answer.

Not Everyone Deserves Your Words or Energy?

Preserve your words and energy.  Redirect them towards something fruitful. I don’t know where this message applies in your life right now, but I believe you are crossing paths with these words because it is time to be more discerning about who and what gets your energy. Pay attention.

My challenge to you this week:

Invest your energy in what you want, not what you don’t want. Be discerning about who and what deserves a response and what doesn’t.

Written by Valorie Burton

Official website; http://www.ValorieBurton.com

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