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S-I-M-P-OLOGY, Illogically, Be Saving Them From Accountability..And Obviously Well.

December 11, 2014 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) A couple of months ago, I was a guest on a blogtalk radio show, and a Brother asked me “What can Black Men do in order to better the relationship between the Black Man and Black Woman?” My response to him was that the Simps MUST be destroyed! These simps that are mingling among the Black Man and Black Woman are detrimental and they MUST be annihilated. It’s pointless for me as a Black Woman to push accountability among Black Women if there is always a simp on standby, just waiting to ride off into the deflecting sunset with her.

I understand why so Black Women love Simps. They are your (our) last hope. Kinda like Obi-Wan Kenobi.

I mean who will turn a whore into a housewife (and there is No REAL REFORMATION) but a Simp?

Who’s gonna take care of all your children….by various men….to which you have no shame…but a Simp?

Who’s gonna allow you to rule the house…but a Simp?

Who’s gonna take you all used and abused and ran through….but a Simp?

Who’s gonna allow you to esmaculate him but a Simp?

Who’s gonna defend you even when it’s been PROVEN that you’re wrong but a Simp?

Who’s gonna still call you a Queen even when you consistently exhibit non royal behavior but a Simp?

Who’s gonna allow you to break his back with YOUR baggage and your family’s generational baggage (because you REFUSE to do some unpacking) but a Simp?

Who’s gonna do another man’s bid (pay for the mistakes of past men, because you refuse to heal) with a smile on his face but a Simp?

To a deflecting, narcissistic, unaccountable, self-entitled, rebellious, above reproach Black Woman..a simp is your dream guy!

What’s that I see? A Deflector in a distress?
Captain Save Em to the Rescue!
“Ah is a, Ah is a, Should I save her?
I want to be saved!!!!”

Simps don’t understand how they are destructive to our community. They seem themselves as uplifting Black Women, but what they are actually doing is enabling and coddling us and  our unhealthy behavior. Whenever a Black Woman is being held accountable, here comes a SIMP swooping in to save her from her unaccountable self, under the guise of “protecting her”.

White Knight Syndrome (Captain Save Em/Simps) – are men that are attracted to the “distressed”, the depressed, needy or damaged women,simpman and are convinced that they can “rescue” them from themselves.

Let me tell you how we as women create, promote, influence and provide a need for Captain Save Em’s.

Let’s start with our sons. If my son sees me in situations where  I have a revolving door full of men, if I am making the conscious decision to choose men that I KNOW are no good for me, if I suffer from low self esteem or self worth, if I continue to discount my value, if I always portray myself to be a helpless victim, then I can create the White Knight Syndrome within him. If he can’t “save” me, his mother..then he would look for another women that resembles my destructive pattern and he will try to save them, and saving them would be like saving me. This is unhealthy for several reasons. It creates co-dependency (which a lot of people are but don’t recognize it)and unhealthy definition of being needed.

It also takes away from the other person from doing the work. If there is always a White Knight to save me from myself, what incentive do I have to face myself? It absolves me of accountability, because the White Knight carries my burden, pain, shame and dysfunction FOR me.

This is why Simps have become a staple among Black Women, because they always come to our rescue, when the best thing to do is to leave us stranded and allow us to figure out find our own HEALTHY way out of our dysfunction.

I know that Black Women will try to shame Black Men and say that you all have “mommy issues“, when in fact as Mothers, we HAVE given you a lot of issues, that have made it difficult for you to engage, and interact with Black Women. Especially if we are Single Mothers that glamorize that lifestyle. We have already said that a man isn’t needed, so that discounts the masculine principle in the household, therefore we create needy sons, that grow up to be needy men, because throughout their childhood, they kept hearing that men aren’t a necessity.

In order for the Black Family to be restored, in addition to getting the Black Woman to hold herself accountable for her actions, we must have a  Simp closeout sale, meaning ALL SIMPS MUST GO!

Staff Writer; Nojma Muhammad
 
To learn more about this talented sister, feel free to visit; Nojma Reflects.
 


Comments

12 Responses to “S-I-M-P-OLOGY, Illogically, Be Saving Them From Accountability..And Obviously Well.”
  1. Larry Jacobs says:

    A new SIMP is born everyday.

  2. yeahisadit says:

    This article is so true, the simp culture is strong and very dominate in the black community. If you think it to be untrue then you haven’t read the article or the comments that follow simp speaking and women praising simps is all I read. The single black mother experiment has failed its evident through out our community the kids are so lost so effeminate and have no true value or respect but you keep defending this idiotic concept that children don’t need fathers or you don’t need a man.

  3. Jeanette says:

    This article reeks of BS…instead of holding the women accountable only how about holding the men accountable as well? STOP spreading your seed! The problem is society lets too many men off the hook for their bad behavior and the women get blamed for it. I am sick of women writing these women-bashing articles just to get in the good graces of men. if you are going to write an article on how black man and black women can have better relationships then speak the truth.

  4. carmel94c says:

    Although you have made some valid points, whats wrong with a man coming to a woman’s rescue? A man is suppose to be a provider, protector, provide direction and lead the household. I am so tired of Black men putting us down. Just as you said in the article do your own work. Single mothers are NOT producing these kids by themselves, however we are blamed for the breakdown of the family. It took generations of both men and women to destroy the Black family. We are the only race that puts each other down and degrade each other. If a Caucasion man, Asian man or Latino man does not like a woman’s behavior, he simply does not date her! He does not make a YouTube video and saw all women are the same because, lets keep it real Black Women are the hardest working women in the world. I am willing to listen to solutions, but come up with a solution that brings us together. Come up with a solution that makes me want to continue to date my race. Right now I am close to crossing the line because I am tired of not being valued and compared to a standard of beauty that is not in my genes or “The Blackman”. Every culture has deadbeats, whores, lazy shiftless people, but only our culture magnifies the bad instead of the good.

  5. yis'sh'yah says:

    3 books every father needs to read with his son THE TESTAMENT OF REUBEN
    THE MANIPULATED MAN BY ESTHER VILAR ANATOMY OF FEMALE POWER BY CHINWINZU I HIGHLY RECOMMEND ESTHER VILAR THE MANIPULATED MAN IT BREAKS DOWN THE EVIL THAT WOMEN DO AND WILL SAVE A LOT OF MEN YOUNG AND OLD A LOT OF PAIN FROM THE MAIPULATIVE NATURE OF WOMEN I BELIEVE BLACK AND DARK BROWN MEN GOING THEIR OWN WAY IS THE ONLY SOLUTION IN MODERN DAY AMERIKKKA GET KNOWLEDGE FORGET ABOUT WOMEN LIFT WEIGHTS DO CONSTRUCTIVE THINGS KEEP THAT BEAUTIFUL MIND BUSY FOCUS ON SPIRITUAL MATTERS LEARNING AND SEARCHING AND PLEASE REMEMBER WHOREDOM SEPERATES MAN FROM YAH

  6. Marque-Anthony says:

    Please read my article on this site entitled I DON’T KNOW ANY BLACK PEOPLE”. Brother black is the color of your shoes or a black coat or a black car. Your skin is BROWN. In my article I will show you that it’s not just a play on words. Wake up!

  7. rick tucker says:

    I have one problem with this article, it should have been longer.

  8. Julia says:

    I really enjoyed this. I feel that there is a real serious need for self examination and accountability for women. Instead of us blaming all of our problems on men and then in the next breath hoping for a man to solve our problems, we need to solve our own. We need to own up to our bad behaviors and be women. I truly enjoyed this. I’m a white woman and we call these dudes White Knights. I don’t need a man to solve my problems nor do I put men down when I have problems. I work on my problems and it gives me such a sense of self worth. It leads to so much more happiness and a great relationship with my husband. Great essay. Truly enjoyed it.

  9. Lacie says:

    soooooooo truuuueeeeeee My husband of 10 years isn’t my sons biological father but he’s the only man he have seen me with, and the best father to him he can have’ I’d made one irresponsible choose at 16 and it was a game changer for me. I didn’t want to be another good time girl around, and didn’t want my son to grow up not knowing what a family is. I ALSO WANT TO MAKE SURE MY SON HAD A MALE ROLE MODEL AND A MALE DISCIPLINARIAN. i COULD TELL MY SON SOMETHING OVER AND OVER AGAIN IT MAY GO THROUGH ONE EAR AND OUT THE OTHER, MY HUSBAND OPENS HIS MOUTH ONCE AND IT’S DONE. WE NEED GREAT MEN AND GREAT FATHERS IT IS VERY IMPORTANT. WE NEED GREAT MOTHERS AND WOMEN AS WELL. SOMEONE HAS TO TAKE A STAND AND TEACH OUR YOUTH THAT THEIR IS SUCCESSFUL FAMILIES, MARRIAGES, AND UPBRINGINGS, FOR OUR KIDS.

  10. ThatDude says:

    Sista Sista Sista!!!! Whooooooooo!

  11. DCARTER910 says:

    Wow…just wow. I certainly agree.

  12. Peerless Perception says:

    Colloquially Profound!

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