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Four Reasons Why Rapper Future And Ciara Were Doomed From Day 1.

August 9, 2014 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) Nayvadius DeMun Wilburn, aka “Future,” is the rapper who misled himself into believing that he’d be marrying the singer Ciara (aka Ciara Princess Harris).  To be honest, I knew that the relationship would probably last about as long as Future’s career, which is set to come to an end any day now.  In my book, “Financial Lovemaking,” I talk about this kind of stuff, particularly anything that relates to love and money, so of course I had a few thoughts.  

Here are four reasons that Future and Ciara’s relationship was doomed to fail from the beginning: 

1) If a man has three baby’s mamas when he meets you, there’s a good chance that you’re going to be baby mama number 4:   I’m not sure what some people find appealing about the “bad boy” or the man who has used his sex organs at every available opportunity.  But whatever you’re looking for, you’re probably going to get.  You’re not usually going to change the wild and promiscuous man; you are more likely to be another feather in his pimp hat.   As you go about thinking you’re going to change this man’s trajectory in life, remember that every baby mama before you might have thought the exact same thing.

2) There are patterns to every person’s past and it’s up to you whether you’re going to see them or not:  You can learn a great deal about a person by listening to them talk about their old relationships.  If every ex was an asshole, then you’re probably going to eventually be labeled as an asshole too.  If every other relationship ended in less than aFuture-and-Ciara-dating-2014 year, this will likely be the fate of your own.  Relationships can be compared to plates of food:  The way the meal turns out is highly dependent upon the quality of the cook.  If a person mismanages their relationships, starts fights at the drop of a hat or has an itchy breakup finger, then their relationships are usually not going to last.  Keep that in mind.

3) Men with a lot of kids are almost always going to be broke:   Future is not rich, at least not for a celebrity.  He makes about $16,000 a month and that income might be temporary.  He’s not LL Cool J, who likely has money stashed away from 25 years of being in the industry.  Future’s a guy that no one had ever heard of in 2010.   So, that $16,000 is easily eaten away by the child support courts and previous relationships.  Paying child support to multiple people is like owning four different apartments at the same damn time and leaves a lot of dudes broke.  This is especially true if he’s a rapper who brags about how much money he throws out the window every day trying to live the life of a baller.

4) If a man raps about all the women he’s been with, dealing drugs and screwing up his life, there is a chance that he might really “be about that life.”  He may also be primed to ruin your life as well:  There are some men who are built for fatherhood, manhood, responsibillity and success.  Based on his lyrical content (assuming he’s not a thug-impersonator), Future is probably not one of those men.  Unfortunately, this brother is like a lot of other lost black men in America who’ve been fed ignorant stereotypes by big, white corporations of how a black man is supposed to behave.   Whoever decided that a black man is supposed to spend his life getting high and drunk, sleeping with (and maybe infecting) every girl he meets, packing a gun, wasting his money and selling dope needs to be shot.  These images being promoted to young black men by white-owned corporations like BET and Clear Channel are the most destructive form of brainwashing in the last 100 years.   Our kids pay the price when their daddies refuse to grow up.  We need more men in our community, not little boys who are saggin in their 30s and 40s.

I’m not here to diss Future or hate on him (but maybe I just did), I’m just looking to tell the truth.   In fact, Ciara is just as much to blame for her life’s outcomes, since she’s the one who chose to try to marry this man.  In fact, this conversation is much deeper than one celebrity relationship, but really translates into how we have to realize the impact of our emotional investments in other people.  If you choose to date or marry someone based on short-term, superficial criteria, chances are that you’re going to have a short-term, superficial relationship.

Read some of the lyrics from Future’s song “Honest” and I want you to “Honestly” ask yourself:  What kind of husband and father would this man become?  Does he sound like the kind of man who would make good decisions with his life, build wealth for his family, teach his kids the right things and love the woman he’s with?  I’ll let you be the judge.

My piss coming back dirty, I’m just being honest Got bitches kissing on bitches, I’m just being honest I’m a rock star for life, I’m just being honest Got a check on me right now, I’m just being honest We done turnt up in Platinum, then we gon’ hit Onyx Ain’t nothing but a dope boy, I’m just being honest These niggas get shot for being honest I fucked her on the spot, I’m just being honest I’m a stack it ’til it rot, I’m just being honest And I’m driving foreign coupes, that’s 200 Live a rich nigga life, I’m just being honest Real street nigga ain’t get nothing but some pain from it

My video below might explain things better, but then again maybe it won’t.  Either way, think carefully before you let someone’s looks and charm fool you into throwing your life away.  Choosing the wrong person to spend your life with can be the biggest mistake you make.  Like my man Future, I’m just being HONEST. 

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Staff Writer; Dr. Boyce Watkins 

Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition.  For more information, please visit http://BoyceWatkins.com.

 


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21 Responses to “Four Reasons Why Rapper Future And Ciara Were Doomed From Day 1.”
  1. Shaquille Minondo says:

    99% of the people (including the writer) that agree to this article:
    1. Don’t even know what happened between the two.
    2. Don’t know SH*T about hip hop period.
    3. Are salty a** bitter women that don’t know anything about REAL LIFE.
    That is all.
    And Future’s career is becoming increasingly larger day by day in case you all didn’t know. 🙂
    Make them haters hate Future!

  2. Queenie says:

    This article about Future is idiotic, judgmental, stagnant, and off course. What hypocrisy!!! Case in point – I had heard his music before but I had never heard him speak or do an interview until today, and I never knew much about him at all. Today I took the time to peruse some of his interviews, and I must say he blew me away with his mannerism, his mindset, and mentality, his thoughtfulness, and wisdom, and his sensibilities, not to mention his extraordinary work ethic and knowledge. Future is a natural born star without the rap lyrics and the music.

    The writer should really feel ashamed for trying to critique a young rapper when this type of music is out of his league. I am highly impressed with Future, and I am old enough to be his grandmother. He has the wisdom of an old man. And, the sky is the limit for what he can achieve and the money he can make throughout his career. Future is smart and wise enough to know how to avoid negativity. His lady must be very strong, wise, and rather tough. He was in love but he wasn’t looking to get married when he has career to build. It was not personal towards Ciara that they split, he just didn’t need the distraction from his work and he wasn’t going to have their relationship overshadow his own career. It’s no surprise that he has babies by different women, they are all his seeds and very precious gems that the women wanted by him and therefore they all are blessings.

    Future, I get you.

  3. Alyssa Jones says:

    OMG. I completely agree with everything he is saying. I think women are so stupid that allow these men to treat them any kind of way and it makes it bad for other women. I also feel bad for our black men. It is so sad, sometimes I have no hope for them. Many are successful and responsible and I commend them, but the others are a sad case. I do blame media and the next generation is going to be fucked up. There are not too many real men anymore. Why would a woman want a thug? Doing nothing with your life, smoking all day everyday, multiple baby mamas, hell no.As a 22 year old a college educated woman to deal with a man like that, never. I can spot a bum from a mile away. Been there done that. Please black women have some dam sense ! Chase your dreams not little boys and when you get to where you want to be THEN find a real man with a decent career and who is mature.

  4. jdean says:

    The term THOT comes from the streets of Chicago…don’t get it twisted. I agree with the author but you cannot paint people with a broad brush. There are educated thugs and thugs who are good fathers though.

  5. T.Stone says:

    I agree with a lot of things were written in this article, but at the same time not the entire article as a whole.
    It seems that many of us as black ppl like to find many ways to cause division between us.
    I see the college educated black folk and church going black folk with “holier than thou” attitudes.
    Too many brothers and sisters equate pants sagging and where someone grows up with being good or evil or positive or negative.
    I know of too many well dressed pastors and deacons that have illegitimate children out of wedlock and fornicate and commit adultery on a regular basis and rob and still from church goers and the community alike.
    What black people need to do is stop being as short sighted and prejudice as their white counterparts, and start judging each other on individuality. Basically stop taking things for face value, and analyze ppl and different situations surrounding ppl and use critical thinking.
    So many ppl beat black men down…how many lift them up and speak on the positive that they may do?
    Us as black ppl will never progress bc most of us are too busy beating each other down, the self hatred is sickening!

  6. ukhan says:

    Dr. Watkins you’re the man. I love your articles.

  7. Jay says:

    I am by NO MEANS a fan of Future, or any other “turn-up” trap rappers. But whoever wrote this is a troll or just stupid, and so are most of the people who commented.

    Where did you get that ridiculous figure of $16,000 per month???

    Future makes probably double or triple that per SHOW!!! And he probably does several shows PER MONTH!! And that’s just SHOW MONEY!!

    This seems like just another stupid article written to get as many views and comments as possible. Smh..

  8. joada says:

    ciara please get it together hun cause men an’t everything but ciara you an’t no angel either both of you need some help you and future need to see someone future and you sold out to satan so please both of you get jesus in your lifes i pray that you see this message pray and seek jesus before its to late future you really should stop sleeping around cause hun aids do exists so i hope you see this message stop sleeping around cause one day you could contact aids hiv and that would be your fault cause you don’t wear protection and you thank you got it going on but you don’t cause hell has limits and thats wear you ciara gonna end up in hell where the devils will tear you apart future you need to stop and get together

  9. Reesie says:

    I think that this was a well written article that more people should read. I agree that this world is so corrupt that people dont even know how to be true to themselves its all about what they wear, what they see on tv, and how they have the best of the best. We as a society should come together more than we do now and instead of giving our time to the phone, internet, and television. We need to turn and give our time to the man above. Cause the way that I see it this world dont have a future do to the lack of love, care, leadership, respect, spirituality, helpfulness, and well-being of themselves or others. We need to step up our game as individuals.

  10. lilred says:

    Why is it people are always so damn negative or they r just wishin it was them. I think they r gonna make it !

  11. joada says:

    future and ciara this is my last comment has i was saying the bible says its your sins its whats gonna kill both of you please pick up a bible before its to late get it together future stop haveing children and you are not marryed cause future you are a sinner and you need to repent you and ciara cause hell is very real future ciara i pray that you never have to go to that terrible place cause people down there are screaming for there lifes ppeople in hell are being torture people begging for there lifes asking god to give them a another chance so please give god your hearts before its to late for you tell your children about jesus pick up a bible before its to late

  12. joada says:

    i want to say that future has sold out to the illuminati the music industry future sold out cause once you sell your sold you have to do what they tell you to do future is a losser and ciara an’t no angel yourself future is possesed by a demon a he also sleeps around with different wemen and future just do not care who he sleeps with like rhianna whos also a devil whore a future a devils whore a ciara also a devils whore future all of them don’t have jesus in their lifes future you need to wake up because of your sins future your sins is wants kill you satan is lair a its people like you who falls for his tricks read the bible future and ciara cause you gonna need jesus without jesus you and ciara would be nothing you have a son and thats a gift from god future ciara both of you need to stop acting like children and get it together if you don’t it could all be taken away from you you could lose everything that you worked so hard for and satan take it all away from you please i pray that both of you get jesus in your lifes before its to late

  13. joada says:

    future and ciara knew what she was getting yourself into both of them are sell out they are apart of the illuminati both of them sold their solds to satan future got all these baby mommas ciara sold out to satan if you see their videos ciaras bodyparty video and future honest video they both sold out to satan they are devil sellouts ciara future jr that she had with future none of them have any jesus in them they are devil sellouts and all of them are gonna burn in hell

  14. Yvette says:

    I love how you been honest cuz the truth is the life and no one could have wrote this better..

  15. Bianca says:

    You know Future is a straight loser when he got the courts garnishing his paycheck to pay child support, come on. There is no way around it, I don’t care how much of a fan you a maybe of this guy. Having kids with one woman after another and can’t pay for them, then having no intention on marrying any of the mothers. Stupidity is a classic. Ciara was at a lost from the very beginning and she now has to reap consequences for her ways. But we always blame the man. Women need to think for themselves too. Grow a continence and close your legs.

  16. Levus says:

    You sound mad, like future fucked your girl and made her his baby mama.

  17. JJ says:

    I agree with every single word why would a beautiful successful woman settle for such trash?!
    I wish all young men would see this post and think about how this type of music is destroying us as a whole it’s happening in the UK and the world over it’s sickening;I don’t play that type of music around my son and daughter because it’s very damaging hoping they don’t discover it til after they make something of themselves! By then they would see it’s all nonsense rather that try to live up to it….

  18. CiCi says:

    This is jst shit thts b3n written to destroy their r.ship which is already on the rocks, but no n3d 4 ya to add fuel nd destroy they r.ship further…#nuf said!

  19. Myshel says:

    EXCELLENT ARTICLE!!!! OUTSTANDING!!!

  20. Realman2 says:

    These idiotic Negroes deserved each other.

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