I’ll be a bad girl, I’ll prove it to you, By Lying On My Back For You.

The song is “Bad”, Wale featuring Tiara Thomas. I am thinking, what manner of madness is this? This is so NOT the message that our young girls should hear, listen to and definitely shouldn’t put into practice, as it is there are too many young girls and grown women that  will boast of their sexual prowess and wonder why their track record of relationships is faulty. To many of us are making “lust” because we don’t understand that REAL love making starts with the merging of the MINDS….NOT the merging of the bodies. To many women have misplaced their worth below their waistline, and a lack of self love, self esteem, and a gross misunderstanding of how to “get a man” is what propels the women of our community to either use their wombs in exchange for validation, or think  they can build a successful relationship on their back.

 

This is why women can’t present an argument to me that misogyny in hip hop is male based only, the hook was originally written by a BLACK WOMAN. A lot of sex based lyrics are being performed, promoted or perpetuated by WOMEN. Either we are in the videos, looking like we are getting ready to hit the stage, we are performing the songs ourselves, or promote this agenda in our communities with this warped thinking.

 

When asked her thoughts on the song this is what she said:

 

“It’s like a girl anthem and that’s what I like so much about it. You wouldn’t think that he would do that — a rapper puts out a girl anthem. But it’s true and it’s real. I think that’s why people connect with it.”

 

Sadly this is a girl’s anthem for all the mis-educated young girls and women that will have this song as their theme song and their mantra, this will  double as the preliminary conversation before her clothes come off. Imagine this being ingrained in the minds of our daughters, I have issues, that I will acknowledge, but instead of working on the issues, I will offer you my womb. I know I can’t commit to a relationship, but I can commit to whatever length of time it takes you to climax. I’ll be bad to you…because obviously I have been the absolute WORST to myself.

 

I’ve never made love because I don’t love MYSELF, so I am incapable of loving you, but I will give you access to the most precious part of me.  I can’t make love to you, but I can *** you, do we not see how CRASS our language has become when referring to the syncing of the sacred parts of our bodies? I will be good in bed, but I am unable to operate successfully outside of the bed room.  I can’t give you my heart, mind and soul, but I am more than willing to give you my body.  An anthem is a “rousing”  or uplifting song identified with a particular group, body or cause. This song clearly isn’t uplifting, but it is definitely “rousing”,  in fact it focuses on AROUSAL and advocates promiscuity. What “particular group” of women is this song targeted toward? BLACK WOMEN!!! What’s the “cause”? Unhealthy view of SELF and Sex. Some anthem right?

 

These are the type of messages that we have to provide a counter argument for…when did it stop being socially acceptable to be a “good girl?”

 

I guess with all these self proclaimed bad bitches/superheads/video vixens running around here…we think that we have to be the “baddest”.

 

The things that we view as worthy goals. Keep telling me the Black Woman doesn’t need to be reformed,  I will gladly show and prove otherwise.