(ThyBlackMan.com) A woman reached out to me on my Facebook page and asked an interesting question. She asked me if dark-skinned women are “frowned upon.” I wasn’t sure what to think about the question, but it certainly gave me a moment of pause. She said that she has a daughter with dark skin and was concerned with all the male celebrities who seem to think that lighter is better. I felt bad to hear the words “frowned upon” being used, as if a person is choosing to have darker skin and breaking some law because of it.
She also made an interesting point about men who will pass over intelligent, high-quality black women for a lighter skinned or white woman who doesn’t bring nearly as much to the table. One shining example might be Kanye West, the son of a brilliant black female professor who chose to marry an untalented, twice-divorced reality TV star who got her start with a sexx tape.
Here is how the conversation went down:
Hi Boyce, there’s a trend amongst the black celebrity men that seems to be for them to date/marry white or racially ambiguous women. It doesn’t seem to be any particular intelligence or personality requirement, just color– well, maybe their body too. I compiled a list of black men that fit this description (below). Why do you think darker black women are generally frowned upon?
I never thought that skin complexion was something that could be subject to fads, like hairstyles or new shoes. At the same time, I did notice in the 1990s when being a dark-skinned black man suddenly went from being a source of shame to the hottest thing on the planet. I grew up in a family filled with lights-skinned people, and I noticed the difference in the way some people react to a person with fair complexion relative to the darker person next to them.
Does black America have a color complex or is that a thing of the past? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. I honestly don’t have much else to say.
Staff Writer; Dr. Boyce Watkins