“Let Him Be a Father to His Child”

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1. Ramses says:

   January 16, 2013 at 8:16 pm

   @Sankofa arranged marriages have a higher success rate than ours..my only problem with those is is thatt Love is such a powerful element to the uhman psyche, it’s hard to fit that within a framework like arranged marriages although I think the men overseas use it to bully women into being with wretched men. I will never advocate a woman being with a wretched man and to use culture as justification for it. In “Coming To America” Hakeem’s character wanted true Love. Not a slave who was paid to love him. But arranged marriages done the right way is way more appealing to me than linking up with complete strangers in th dating scene and ending up finding yourself a devil as a far as finding a woman’s concenred. I had a Nigerian dude who I knew in college who had a grandmother who had women lined up for him to marry. I told him I wish I had that option. A lot of these women come from scandalous backgrounds and I would love to have good women in my family who would weed potential wives out if they deemed them no good. That’s how your family protects you instead of just having you pick from strangers. You best believe Barack will not let some sorry negro try to get with his daughters on some typical nigger shit. He would inspect that nigger like a white man at a slave auction. I can promise you that and I would too. The discerning eye should be out for all men and dudes need to stop thinking with their dicks for real. Last year was the first time I spent with one woman in years and let me tell you it was the best thing I did because it allowed me to get the negative energy from females I had dealt with. I spent it studying extensively and it has paid off tremendously i can assure you. I’m chasing money, not women. You get the money, they come with the shit. Especially your ability to attract those of a higher caliber. A lot of dudes deal with black chicks because they are so poor not too. Their money does not allow them to explore the way they would. Hell even hood rappers when they get money explore other groups of women and be glad that they did because they actually learn certain things they don’t learn from dealing with their own. My puerto rican mami told me years ago she felt she wasn’t good enough for me. Now juxtapose that with a woman who believes she’s too good for me. Who do you think I’m gonna like more? No-brainer family…no-brainer…and for those who are ignorant to their diasporic history, Puerto Ricans are African, Spanish, and Taino. So I go by the one-drop rule on that for those who try to play nigger games with genetics and say “she ain’t really black.” If she rode the bus in the sixtties, she would have been in the back with the darkest of the darkest. Grow up for real. If you suck as a person, knowing about slavery won’t change that. I knew daishiki wearing “Nu-Afrikans” who knew all about slavery, been to the slave castles and all that bur were the biggest devils you would ever see in your life. Even Dr. York wrote a book called “Black Devils.” i suggest you’ll pick it up and check it out.
2. Dcarter910 says:

   January 16, 2013 at 8:02 pm

   There has been excellent conversation here and sometimes the tone can be contiguous but I especially appreciate the spirit of truth and understanding that everyone through their wisdom is trying to invoke.

   Martin Luther King, through wisdom, truth and respectful speech brought this nation to its moral knees and embarrassed it before the world thus forcing change.

   Gandhi, through wisdom, truth and respectful speech brought the British Empire to their knees and thus freed his nation.

   But those who brought wisdom and truth forth with the spirit of contention and disrespect not only failed, but even out living their contemporaries who knew how to season their words with love and respect, has still yet to institute any meaningful change. ie. Al Sharpton, Luis Farrakhan, Spike Lee and others just come off as obnoxious ranting.
3. Ramses says:

   January 16, 2013 at 7:32 pm

   the veil is being lifted on these shenanigans of women in western culture and women better change real fast and I mean sing a thousand hail maries change and cover up like muslim women change or scarlet letter will be on your breasts real soon…..the world ending in 2012 was a cycle of time that ended, not humanity itself and those who reject basica, ancient customs and traditions (like marriage) will be destoryed whether it’s instantaneous or a slow burn…simple…eastern women are light years ahead of the western woman with all of her spoils. if the western man, with his access to capital wakes up, and sees the eastern woman (south american as well) then the western woman will lose on the chessboard of life and be replaced with a new queen. Hell even Marc Sanford (former governor of south carolina) was in love with a woman from colombia i think while married to an american white woman. Keep playing…this dude was flying overseas on govt planes to see this chick…it’s getting real
4. Ramses says:

   January 16, 2013 at 7:27 pm

   That site is bananas natalie…good look
5. natalie says:

   January 16, 2013 at 6:20 pm

   And my deepest apologies for not entering this space sis nojma and extending you greetings and praise for ANOTHER well written article! May God’s peace be with you and your family in the New Year!
6. natalie says:

   January 16, 2013 at 6:15 pm

   http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/feminism-and-the-disposable-male/

   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZAuqkqxk9A

   from our friends across the pond
7. Ramses says:

   January 16, 2013 at 5:27 pm

   I love this site…more adults actually willing to critique what’s going on…excellent article here

   http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/time-for-the-goddess-to-woman-up/

   No doubt @Sankofa that’s why I don’t let their words dissuade me from bringing the hammer….Like Pac said a song In His Song “Why You Turn On Me.”

   I went from, nothin to somethin now they all wanna see me fall
   And the player haters hate to see a thug nigga ball
   And they say we hate the East coast, but that’s funny
   Got a lot of love for, any niggaz gettin money
   I made a song about my enemies and niggaz tripped
   It was hip-hop until Tupac fucked Biggie bitch
   Y’all niggaz hypocrites and bitch made
   Now either love me or hate me but real thug niggaz get paid
   Have me catchin cases all across the nation
   I went to jail to bail to barely on probation
   They got a player facin three strikes, and we might
   just blast God bless the child that can get cash
   But all these niggaz turnin and never learn
   Got a long line of niggaz player hatin me but gettin burned
   Talk a lot of shit but youse a trick in drag
   Like the Mack make you fall back and stick yo’ ass for back pay

   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKtatmo_ktw here’s the song

   This is how I feel too!!!!! It was all good til I turned that bullseye back on black people!!!! And these bitch made niggas who who lack the testicular fortitude (balls for you dummies) will receive no mercy from me I promise you…..the signs are everywhere…if you choose to reject it then it’s on those who fear it…but I’m not giving these sorry troll women no room to be the whores they have been…if this white woman can say the same thing I’m saying and see the truth, then these black women have no excuse…Pac said we need to get angry enough to start using our minds…that’s what I did….I went from anger to using my mind constructively….without al that racial baggage attached to it because the racial baggage made me think like a victim, and my personal life story is not of a victim, but that of a general and that’s how I move and talk and won’t change for any woman who wants me to compromise my manhood to appease her wekaness within herself because she doesn’t know how to embrace womanhood…..I will construct a boat out of bambbo sticks and sail in a violent seastorm and sail to distant lands for a righteous woman instead of wasting my time trying to convert one who has had many years to link arms with me and show solidarity with me yet instead uses the court system to practice her own version of plantation slavery and then act like it’s the white man that’s doing it
8. sankofa says:

   January 16, 2013 at 5:04 pm

   @natialie….thank you for the links. I intend to share this with my female friends whose opinions and views matter to me. It’s interesting that you mentioned the family aspects Ramses. I have been explaining to females why arranged marriage works from an ancient aspects, as it relates to the fact that the apple don’t fall from the tree. But they keep echoing Oprah’s and other feMen’s view that it is abusive. But you know empty vessels make the most noise.

   While I appreciate both articles, I find it interesting if knee-gresses will accept this even as they complain about sister Nojma Muhammad’s own series of articles and what she has been doing for awhile now.
9. Ramses says:

   January 16, 2013 at 4:47 pm

   The most powerful point she made was “When the cost of society’s approval is the self-respect you derive from a positive identity, it ceases to be worth it to a lot of men.” Like I said, black women want you to be with them at the cost of your sense of self-respect as a man and then shame you for not comlying. I told you’ll I cracked the code to this matrix here and all my life has been these negresses trying to put me back into it. I’m not with the disrespect and if it means getting a plane ticket to brazil or colombia and finding a woman who has dirt on her feet from walking with no shoes for 3 miles to get water, then that is the woman I will make my Cinderella. Not these beastly, uncultured and unrefined, and spoiled women here. I don’t care why you are stupid. It doesn’t matter to me. It just matters that I recognize that you are and like I said before, any man who defends this shit is not a man in my eyes. Sorry. That’s why I learn the law in terms of commerce because no woman will ever take my children or my money. But i will pick women who are illiterate way before I pick those who can read. As long as she can cook, cool. I’ll deal with the intellectual stuff. Let her deal with the homemaker stuff. Because clearly the American woman has lost this genetic trait that all women should possess and why sit there and be with a woman who will force you to go to Mcdonald’s when she sits right in your face and will not cook for you. I refuse to even look at a woman who can’t cook. It’s a waste of time. Look at what all these degrees have gotten you black women: an exodus of black men leaving you behind. We never hated you for getting a degree. I know I didn’t. Our dislike for you only developed when you said you didn’t need a Man because you had a degree so through your own words, you pushed men away and who would have thought you could push the black man away? But you did. Now you will have your weak dudes out here who you can control and get locked up on child support and all that shit. But that’s on his dumb ass. It won’t be me I can promise you that. And I ain’t taking care of the children you had with this weak dude after you get tired of abusing him. I will not do the dirty work for you. God is not showing you mercy and i will follow suit as well by not showing you any either. I agree with the white woman in the video and the article wholeheartedly. You dug your own graves with that feminine shit and any woman who embraces that wicked doctrine deserves vibrators, and dildos, and vagina as well since women understand women better than men do. Although the water you bathe with was pumped out of the ground by men. The food you buy in your grocery stores was frunished by men. The oil that produces the gas you put in your fly rides was transported and pulled from the ground by men. The lobster, fish, crab and other seafood you love to eat was captured by men. The house you live in was built by men. Every comfort you have, as women and as men, was given to you by God through men and yet you bash men? I laugh at you’ll because you’ll are babies. You have no idea that in a short period of time, you can go from women with degrees to sex slaves.
10. Ramses says:

    January 16, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    http://quietgirlriot.wordpress.com/2012/04/04/why-feminism-is-wrong-about-patriarchy-by-typhon-blue/
11. Ramses says:

    January 16, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Natalie thank you for these articles especially the first one….that first article is everything I’ve been saying on here….this is why I reject the American woman….I want no parts in that desrtuctive force

    http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/an-anonymous-letter/

    Must read article
12. Ramses says:

    January 16, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    @OtherSide I have seen so many black mothers support their monstrous sons out here doing the most heinous things. I’m not sure if you have ever seen any of my other posts but I go in on dudes too. That Ride or Die Chick has definitely been non-existent as far as I’m concerned. Howver, I do leave room for women such as yourself who support men who turn out to be boys. And herein lies the problem. You have some demonic black women raising demonic children. I was one of the few brothers coming up whose father raised him. Most of my friends coming up had some mothers who were let us say very challenged in their moral capacity. So many females end up like Rihanna and we are the ones who are expected to be healing agents as black men. However the wall that many black women put up is impenetrable. Understandably a wall is up. But the next man should not be expected to bring it down. I will admit to you that the black man is weak. My ex said years ago that black men have no standards and I agreed. But she was referring to black women when she made this statement. I would agree with Terence that there is a sickness that peervades black people’s psyche but they better find a way to cure it. I suggest to black women myself, who are of sound mind (many are not but think they are) should not be beholden to these weak cowards and I mean it. Black men on this site don’t even respect strong men like myself speaking truth on here because the bitch in them will not allow them too. This is why I keep saying you have to really know people’s families because people come from some sub-par families out here and before I have to pull the tool out and lay a mofo family members out I choose not to deal with these degenerates. It’s gotten that bad. My grandfather told my grandmother back in the day that he believed “the enemy would penetrate our family.” He didn’t say white people. He was talking about niggerish blacks. People used to say my family was uppity because we had standards. These were black people. But you really wanna know what it was? It was jealousy because our family had a standard about themselves and they knew their family didn’t. There is a lot of poor black trash out here, even if they have money. How many black women out here carry themselves with the elegance and grace of a Michelle Obama? There are men who carry themselves with sphistication like Barack, but a lot of times they don’t get respect. A friend of mine told me that he already has 4 instances in 2013 in which black women have all disrepsected him on some blatant shit. He says that sometimes he imagines a woman coming up to him and just embracing him with a heartfelt hug like some shit you would see in the movies. It’s that sad out here. Now I’m not telling you to run out here to a white dude at all. There are some black women who think running to a white man will solve all of their problems and are sadly mistaken and end up bringing their sorry behinds back to black men. I myself am open to white women, of a certain quality, but that’s not my default pick. Other women interest me instead based on their culture. However, if a white man comes your way, and is willing to honor you, and you two vibe with one another, I say go for it. I’d be the first to tell you that you don’t owe black men the opportunity to stomp on your face along racial lines. I never would have said this in 2008. But love trumps race all day long. In my opinion, most black women do not offer what I am looking for and that’s not the end of the world. Nature dictates you adapt to your surroundings to survive and I have chosen to do so. I will not sit here and say black women are less attractive than any other women because all groups of women have pretty women and ugly women. However, personality wise, this is where the separation comes into play for me. I want to be with someone I genuinely like. I don’t know what your personality is like so I am not directing this towards you. But the ones I’ve come across have not been lovable and I’m a very loving man. I’m very mature enough to give love and have always. Most black women are not mature enough to receive it. Most mistake lust lust for love. Love is actually being willing to tell you about yourself when others won’t. Most black men on here who come off as if they really love black women really don’t because a lot of them feel the same way I feel and know much of what I say is true about black women in general. But because they want to get in your drawls first, instead of teach, they attack me to make themselves look strong in the eyes of black women which is why so many black women won’t change because too many black men are saying there is nothing wrong with black women (because they are only looking at them as sexual objects). Most of them are scared to tell you how they really think of you because some don’t want to hurt black women feelings. But what I say should not hurt feelings because it’s not about feelings. What I speak of goes to your ego. Many black women mistake feelings for ego. When they see a black man with a white woman, and gives him a scowl, what is that? Ego. If she really loved the brother and saw that he was happy and just happened to be with a white girl, then she should be happy. I don’t see black women with white men and mean mug them. If she’s happy then cool. Better her be hapy with him than make my life miserable. The black man is a walking credit card. He can go anywhere on the planet and find a wife. So my options will never be limited unless I limit them myself. A friend of mine told this black chick he knows that he’s closed the door on black women and she begged him not to do it. It terrified her when he said this because this cat has been in every black organization you can imagine (Nuwabians, Nation of Islam, Moorish Science Temple of America, 5 Percenters). Even black people are tired of black peoples excuse making. It’s tired and old. Rihanna’s situation proves that black women like abuse, for the most part. Now I don’t know why they got back together. COuld be for publicity. All I know is that negro beat the brakes off of her and I can only deduce to things occurred. One, Rihanna did something that was so reprehensible, she felt compelled to be with him because she ultimately knew she was at fault. Or, she likes being with abusers. Or it could be both. In the end, all of it’s garbage because i always say this: if you have to put your hands on a woman, to keep her in line, then that’s not the woman for you as a man if you are a man. There are some dudes who are abusers and they are not men to me. I’m talking about real men. I’ve seen black women in my lifetime who push you more towards the end of abuse than not. I don’t care what’s your background. When any woman deals with me, respect is first and foremost and there is no compromising on that at all. I don’t have time being a woman’s personal psychiatrist. That drains energy like you would never believe. I really don’t know what to tell black people at this point. I don’t have any answers for them collectively. I see a train wreck coming and I chose to jump off. I go out my way to not have any conversation with black women because I don’t want any confrontation with them. Because I know me and that disrespectful tone that comes natural with them has ran its course with me. Might have been cute at 16, but when you’re in your thirties, not so much. Black women would be surprised at how far kindness would actually go with black men, but too many are too in love with their ego. Not saying you @other-side but many of your female counterparts are. It saddens me that you had to go through such a horrfying experience and I do hope that you allow yourself to heal and find happiness in the future if you haven’t already. A friend of mine said to me that you would rather lose your ego for someone you love than lose someone because of your ego. This would be very wise for black women to take note of. As for me, I;m not just interested in what someone’s personlaity is like. I want to know what their family is like. I ask questions thoroughly. And if your family is just all screwed up all around, then chances are you will be too. I have a family legacy to protect, and that trumps racial notions. I will not bring any heathen black people into my family destroying the fabric my grandfather and mother worked so hard to construct. It ain’t happening on my watch. Once a woman is my wife, she is my family, especially when we have children. If she is white, who cares. As long as she can give me some beautiful children inside and out then that is all that matters. i don’t have the time nor patience trying to elevate the minds of women who want to have babies by mexicans and white men because their kids come out pretty like a dark skin black chick said to me and some friends years ago at Clark-Atlanta. Yes a black chick at an all black school was saying this!!! Ironic indeed. Every individual person has to find out who they are first before they make any demands on others as to who they should be. I don’t try to change black women anymore because they are free (for now) to be who they are. I decided to change me, which was a whole lot easier. Instead of me getting angry at them for being a certain way, I opened up my possibilities in terms of suitable mates. My Creator would not put me here on this planet and leave me without the possibility of a wife. That would be cruel indeed. My Creator is not cruel. In my lifetime, majoirty of my conflicts have been with black people, not whites. I have had plenty of whites open doors for me when blacks gladly shut the door in my face. Black people will never get me on that black shit. Never. I love myself too much to reject love based on sill, outdated (and unscientific) modes of racial superority. Cheik Anta Diop (a scientist) in “Civilization of Barbarism” stated there is no superiority in the tones of skin. One is more conducive to certain climates as well as the other. Difference doesn’t mean superiority or inferiority. The real matrix out here is the black/white paradigm. Last time I checked, Condoleeza and George Bush worked well together. And they even named an aircraft carrier after her I think. I’m about winning first. I am not about believing in tired 20th century concepts. For those that do, then they will stay in the 20th century. Exactly where they belong. “Get Rich or Die Trying”
13. natalie says:

    January 16, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    @ otherside..

    I am at a loss for words for the first time in my entire life!

    @ramses, mack, sankofa and d carter….

    I stumbled across a letter from a mother to any potential daughter-in law

    http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/an-anonymous-letter/

    and excerpt:

    This is the gift that feminism has given to you -Independence. Scary, lonely, bitter, potentially impoverished Independence. For yourselves and any children you may have. Most of you won’t blame feminism though; you’ll blame Male Privilege (which doesn’t exist.) You’ll blame The Patriarchy (which always gave women a better deal than it gave men.) You will stamp your feet, flip your hair, and blame anything except the single cultural force that has devoted itself to suppressing and controlling masculinity. And you’ll go home alone every night to your cats, your Facebook Friends, and your vibrators. I sure hope that’s what you want.

    and also check out

    http://owningyourshit.blogspot.com/2012/03/transcript-of-men-not-marrying-how-deep.html
14. other_side says:

    January 16, 2013 at 11:01 am

    Some days are better than others, but I have decided that I would rather die than to continue to support – – – – . My entire life has been turned upside down and I pray that God recives me with understanding. Any child is a gift from God however it was conceived. Maybe had he decided to continue to support the child conceived by his seed and had the support of his family doing so, shame and disappointment might have been trumped … child may have been a blessing in disguise had he embraced God’s gift of life. If DNA proved it was his, it really didn’t matter if his seed came from a turkey baster or used condom that didn’t happen to break causing an accidental pregnancy. RIP to the deceased; peace and blessings to the living plagued by the loss. Surely the woman has been shut out and only came to know of this man’s promotion as he would surely have withheld it from his child … so hate the mother and hate the child …can only end up hating oneself.
15. other_side says:

    January 16, 2013 at 8:52 am

    @Ramses … and when I told my ex and his gorilla we would have no further contact until he gifted his son appropriately, they wnet to the police and filed for a tpo …street dude swindled a gorilla with a degree in psychology though … they are paying my child support though). And did I mention I was pregnant with our child when brother came to stay with us?
16. other_side says:

    January 16, 2013 at 8:46 am

    @ Ramses: When you do dishnorable shit, you get dealt with because that’s the code. These degree hugging niggas don’t know shit about that though. Regarding my ex in my last post, his mama went in on me online saying I got a degree and sound like I come from the streets cause I dealt with him by emasculating him (i.e. posting his crackhead photos and tranny mistress photos) – I shot him down on facebook in front of his whole Utica crowd, so the all embarrassed by association since I told her the truth as she knows it – 1) her crackhead, psycotic son was raised in the street and probably was molested at home and in jail) and 2) his mama sent her other son – that same brother/uncle to stay with me in my condo when he was on the run and needed a safe haven so as not to get dealt with. All these folks been in my home and all I asked for was information on the mistress so I could take the abuse claims to the police, since my ex refused to discuss with me. So, street knowledge and experience pales in comparison to degreed knowledge backed by heart and loyalty. I am so sorry you have not met a Ride or Die Chick like Rihanna or myself. Rihanna is screaming – I want open affection being made to feel like the only girl in the world – by the Black man that beat her and he continues to denigrate her publicly and challenge her efforts to be forgiving and loving and respecting her. Same for me.
17. other_side says:

    January 16, 2013 at 8:28 am

    Child support should go to the ends of the earth to collect money due to their wards (of the state) from ANY NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT (NCP). In my state, there is a portal to provide updated location information and even a Fatherhood Program whereas concerned fathers that are unable to pay can still establish good relationships with their children. It seems to me that if this man was not duly informed, it was because he had not made himself available by whatever means necessary. When my I caught my ex- cheating online, his stripper/mistress made the most heinous accusations about sexual abuse to our child in years past … and he simply refuses to speak to me at all and has not called or sent gifts since he married a new thirsty gorilla (not the mistress). I believe this mother is making a solid decision to put the child up for adoption so that an adoption agency can do a full investigation on his background to determine why he has been absentee to date and is not a narcissist looking to increase his circle of adoration. My ex included his daughter in his wedding with his betrothed’s daughter; subsequently, his daughter was left out of a professional family photo of my ex, his new wife and his stepdaughter posted as the gorilla’s facebook profile pic… so he used her to get in good with the daughter and gorilla, and now discards her. I told the daughter’s mother and that picture was promptly removed, but it left its last impression and proof of how detached from their children some Black men can be in order to secure their wants and needs FIRST. My exs brother and child’s uncle even told me ‘Here is food for thought – you are not the first woman whose baby’s father has left’. I said no, but perhaps a first to have both father, grandmother and entire group of individuals that previously acknowledged my child as family to stand by and support his brother’s neglect just might be a first. I agree — please work to redeem the image of the African-American woman … it is a daunting task and most brothers are hiding behind an African-American hungry gorilla (like the one that told me my ex is a good father … maybe she refuses to believe he choked me in front of my child and I was forced to laugh at him and try to make my son believe we were playing since he had commenced to using his choi kwang do moves and was kicking the mess out of that loser for bringing bad intentions to our home AGAIN).
18. Ramses says:

    January 15, 2013 at 6:13 pm

    @wishuwould247….you know I’m strong….I’m not for everyone which is cool because I don’t want my circle big. The price of success is loneliness and I have learned a lot on that lonely path. But I will say this. A man on the battlefield has his soldiers (brotherhood) with him. Now when we talk about men in powerful positiions, we fer to their close confidants as their “circle.” When we think of King Arthur and his Knights of the round table, we get that circle again. What is that circle symbolic of? Woman. The womb. That portal through which life forms and is protected. A Man’s inner circle should embody the concept of the womb “protection.” Which is why I hold these females feet to the fire because the womb is very important in terms of being protective of Man, yet they use it to harm men. How am I being hateful for speaking on it? Aren;t they hateful for doing it? Lol….I know what it is though: black men really do fear black women. That’t the bottom line. They are the only men I see on the planet that actually show fear towards their women. Other men in other groups don’t. Hence why other men in orher groups are more successful than they are overall. It’s quite laughable when you think about it. I watched a documentary about black men moving and going to Brazil to escape black women and one dude on their said that his friends wives do not want them talking to this dude. Why? If you are a black woman treating your black man like you should, why should you fear another woman taking him? That’s guilt right there. I’ve never feared a Man taking any woman from me because I know how to treat her and if she does get taken, then she was never mine in the first place and I thank that brother for doing me a favor and revealing who she really was. These dudes will learn though…either the hard way or the easy way. It’s their choice. I just lay out the truth. They can d what they want with it.
19. wishuwould247 says:

    January 15, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    People may have a problem with Ramses but I don’t! More black men need to unscared to speak freely and to be angry in a proper way. Everyone wants to controls us ( black men ) and tell us how to speak and feel when at the same time we are being beaten over the head by the world. @Ramses I don’t have to tell you to stay strong because I know you will. Thank you for being FREE and letting people know!
20. Dcarter910 says:

    January 15, 2013 at 7:39 am

    @Ramses

    Wayyy to much anger and hatred man. I understand you have been hurt and have frustrations with so many things but what I dont read in your comments is the moderating power of “Love”. You have been cut with a thousand swords and now that you have one in your hand you seek to cut and destroy anyone or anything that reminds you of those who cut you. It took a lot of time and effort for you to write these long comments which shows how passionate you feel about the things you are saying.

    I am not saying your right, not saying your wrong about the comments above. But what I am asking is that as a man, can you rise above your own pain, anger and frustration and still exercise love to reach out and heal others. When you allow your pain and anger to consume you, it owns you. And when pain and anger owns you, it will destroy everything you love. It is impossible to think that if someone clothes themselves in Love they would find anything other than peace, love and contentment in this life…despite the darkness this world is enveloped in. There is a lot of broken people out here and no one knows how to “fix” themselves so sadly I think many people in the world know they are broke but can find a solution and therefore revert to the easy path of anger, blame and self denial. To highlight just how much it is part of corrupt human nature to deflect, I want to point out how in the Garden of Eden in Genesis when God called out to Adam and asked him did he eat off the forbidden tree? Adams response was “it was the woman you gave me that mislead me into doing so”. How sad that the response today from most men is in effect the same thing. We use the word MAN lightly, but one of the principle things everyman must do is shoulder (not put up with) the fall of our brothers (in this case sisters) and provide a resounding answer to the first man ever asked God in the bible. “AM I MY BROTHERS KEEPER” – Cain

    Our sisters and most of our brothers have fallen, how are you ACTIVELY helping them get up?
21. Ramses says:

    January 15, 2013 at 2:18 am

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XmJPMq_vWdM&feature=youtu.be&a
22. Ramses says:

    January 15, 2013 at 1:44 am

    I chose to make a comment on this particular article’s response section because I believe that the state of the “black family” is the number one issue facing black people as a collective. With a rate of 70% to 80% of our kids being born out-of-wedlock, it’s clear that if we don’t attend to this structure, sons will continue to be murdered at an alarming rate and girsl will continue to be made into sex slaves and baby mamas. Now if this is what black people are willing to let happen then fine. I am quite comfortable staying out of niggas way and allowing them to be the degenrates they have devolved into. However, let me address black men for a second because it’s clear we have some bitch ass niggas in the group, who operate like Stepehn in “Django.” One thing I had to learn in this lifetime is to be willing to listen to the pain of black men and what comes from their hearts. There are countless brothers out here who hold pain inside that people have no clue even exist. There are black men who have had children taken from them, lost ways of producing income, and have even been molested as young children. The so-called “Black Community” has done a piss poor job of addressing the pain of black men period. Now if you’re a black woman, there are countless government programs, corporate jobs, “Color Purple’s, “Beloved’s” and other outlets to express the frustration they feel. Black Men for a longtime have not had a medium to express how they feel about a whole range of issues. However, with the internet, that has changed dramatically. In these last few years, I have seen multiple sites where I have seen black men express their views on many topics, including black women. Now for years, black women have bashed black men uncontestedly. They have always had outlets where they were provided the floor to go on their diatribes about black men. Now the playing field has been level. Now things are being brought to the light about black women and their behavior, which is making a lot of black men and women scared. All these notions about the perfection of “The Black Woman” are being debunked and a lot of black women are finding themselves in compromising positions to put it mildly. I’ve dealt with black women my whole life. And to be honest, the experience has been garbage and I tell you why. I have never dealt with a group of women who were so unwilling to be women. In my experience, they have not been nurturing. They have not been caring. They have not been loyal. They have not been supportive. They have not been wanting to be your friend. They have not been wanting to be married. However, all these things I’ve always embraced being towards my partner. I love Love. I like opening up my heart and exploring the depths of my soul and learning about myself and my capacity to be selfless toward a female counterpart. I’m a balanced Man. I’m compassionate when I need to be and aggressive when I need to be. However, in the relationships I’ve been in with black women, their has been a disregard for both aspects of what a Man should be. If I was nurturing towards them, then i’m weak. If I was aggressive towards them, then I was being an angry male even though majority of the times I was pushed towards anger by the disrepsect that comes natural to black women. I opened up this conversation because I have been on this site for about the last 3 months and have read some of the articles on here. I see people on here writing about Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez and my response is like “WTF do they have to do with what black people’s issues are?” However, the owner of this site allows it so whatever. I talk about sound issues and make sound arguments. However, I have learned that black people are exactly what I’ve been saying who they are: weak ass people. They make things personal, hate you when they don’tt like what you say (very childish), and attempt to gang up on you as well a lot of times. I have even had people tell me that they were referrd to the site by people who have read my responses who didn’t like what I had to say about black women. Let me be very clear. Black women don’t rule me. They don’t ontrol me. And I don’t bow down to them nor will I ever. That Goddess shit does not apply to black women in general like black women think it does. A queen opearates a certain way and the last thing a queen can do is show disloyalty towards her king. I stand as a Man on my own two feet and everyday I move in that capacity and I didn’t need a Black Woman to mold me into a Man like many think is their job. My father did that for me. let me reiterate: my father molded me into the Man I am and no Black woman could ever take his place in that regard. However, it has come to my attention this website is a lie. It makes black men feel they can get on here and say what they feel but it’s disingenous. When it comes to black people in general (black women most notably), a black man does not have the authority to speak his mind. Now I’m too alpha male to allow any Man place any restrictions on my tongue. I should be able to come on a site that says it’s about brotherhood and speak my mind about issues of substance. If a mofo can get on here and write about freaking justin bieber, then why iI can’t make comments about whorish black women who have driven black men to suicide for taking out child support on them? This does not matter though. How black men feel does not matter and this is why you won’t see me starting an organization to defend black people. there is nothing to defend because you fuckers suck and I mean that with the spirit of Malcolm. Even he called you “niggers” in his autobiography. A friend of mine on here alerted me that his articles were rejected because “his articles were bashing black women too much.” I was not under the impression we had to cater to black women on this site while expressing how we feel. Black women can get on this site and thrwo up in black men’s face how they found a white man better than a black man and no one says anything except those who have balls, which is very few. You have a black man, telling another black man, what he can write in his article and specifically saying he needs to stop writing about black women. Why is hte behavior of black women off limits? You niggas spent years bashing black men and now black women are being exposed for the evil demon a lot of them are (my granny even admits they are) now all of a sudden we can’t speak? I have been around this world in some good situations and bad situations. One thins I can say though that I have never seen a fucker weaker than a black man. I have never seen a Man who reject brotherhood more than he does and chase pussy (especially weak pussy) like he does. I hate Integration for two reasons. Obviously from an econoomic perspective, it was stupid policy. But, I really hate the fact that they gave niggas degrees. When they gave niggas degrees, it changed the dynamics of negroes forever. Because now you have niggas who feel legitimate in their stupidity because they have a theory to back up the garbage they spew. Show me a negro with a degree a lot of times and you will show me stiff-necked, broke mofo. You can’t tell niggas with degrees shit. I used to watch the ‘State of The Black Union” a few years back and it showed niggas with degrees, Ministers talking about nothing. You didn’t have any business minded people on the stage at all from what I remember. But you had Farrakhan, Naim Akbar, Tavis Smiley, Cornel West, Michael Eric Dyson, and a whole host of runny mouth niggas pontificating about black people’s problems but achieving nothing. They never put any money where their mouths were. Just talk talkt talk talk talk talk. I am not gonna be on a site that claims it’s about black men, yet at the end of the day is ran by some docile, pliable, homogenized, pasteruized, ass niggas who just want to cater to black women like the preacher in the church. Let me say this without any misrepresentation: I despise you niggas. I really do. i mean KKK despise you mofos. If it was up to me, I would bring back the chain myself and put you niggas in the yolk for real. A waste of time and space. The white man is way more merciful to you’ll than I would be. I ain’t lying to you Lord knows I ain’t playing. You’ll talk shit about this white man but I can assure you; you niggas would not want me running your government at all. Baby mamas? I’d have their asses on the street sleeping in cardboard boxes with their newborns as a lesson for any other young females that thought about being loose. And I mean that and dodn’t think I wouldn’t be like that towards my blood either cause I would. Black owmen are a spiritually dead group of females but the problem is they have a hold on black men that is Ungodly. Negroes just can;t stay out that vagina. It will make a nigga shoot up buses like the niggas did in Philly. Black man can’t even get respect on his job in this country without being attacked by these nigger bitches. And I am not mad as I write this for those who like to just write me off as an angry black man because it makes you feel comfrotable about how much you suck as a people. Whites used to use that trerm for black men and black women adopted the term. But let me say something. I would marry a Klansman daughter before I deal with these negresses. Black women want white men? Shiiiiiiiit they can have you. Really they alwyas have. You’ll spend so much money trying to be like white women anyway might as well do the michael Jackson. You suck as a people and I am the voice of the ancestors that see what you mongrels have been doing. I will nt fall for that black shit and the best thing I can do to help black people is not to to be spiritually and economically poor as they are. How you’re gonna let foreginers come to your country and do better than you in a shorter period of time? How can you let people from foreign lands come here and not just beat you but dominate you? And then try to pass off this scholarly rhetoric as legitimate discourse. You niggas talking and these foereginers building. Don’t have the sense enough to become engineers, Doctors, Businessmen, Lawyers but all you niggas want to be like WEB Dubois hateful ass. that was a hateful nigga right there and I would never let my seeds read his bullshit. The predecessor of Michael Eric Dyson. Using all those magnificent words and saying nothing. And black women so stupid they fall for these weak ass niggas. I’m here to tell you though. Don’t think you’re gonna come my way in the future and get a bailout. When you see me with than Indian or Latina chick don’t look at me with that typical “you can’t handle a real black woman” look. I know how to handle a black woman just fine. I know how to leave her dumb ass alone and leave her to her dumb niggas counterpart who has no understanding of what the world has to offer him. I will definitely seek women who value their bodies over their carnal desires. Cause it’s clear the black women in the US, especially my generation and younger and even those older are nothing but candidates for backpage.com. and don’ think you can hide behind your degrees because you women are the worse. I can’t stand a sucker ass nigga that sell you out for vagina. OG’s didn’t do that back in the day. Even when chicks would try to go behind your back and deal with your homeboy, your homies had honor and rejected the overture. That’s one thing I like about street culture. When you do dishnorable shit, you get dealt with because that’s the code. These degree hugging niggas don’t know shit about that though. I saw niggas at GSU run through the same soggy vagina professor like she was royalty while they were talking that back to africa shit. It’s way too many women in this world for men to be selling each other out for these weak brawds. I scoff at these American brawds because they are so beneath me, they aren’t even worth me spitting on them. How you dudes act so gay? i mean join the military and learn some man shit. God damn!!!!!! Black men stop being such a fucking ponk!!!!! That’s why I support Fraternal order. Keep women out so men can handle business. Black men can not express how they feel on a site that says thyblackman.com!!!! Damn if that is not ironic I don’t know what is. One thing about nature though, it has a way of weeding out those weaklings in the human gene pool. Maybe these homosexuals, and hoes, and thugs getting murdered is God’s way of weeding out the weaklings of the culture. Most dudes (not all) raised by these weak ass black women tend to be emotional just like their asses. When you tell another black man he can’t write what he feels, that sounds like a black woman to me. Black women always telling a black man what he can’t do or say. STUFU bitches and get in your fucking place and stop thinking you can order a man around. I would support black men more if they started putting a boot in these bitches asses because she playing you dog. But then you want to go in the street and take out your frustration him because you scared to address your woman. Now that’s a bitch right there. Black woman does not have to worry about me going to court with her ass over no child support because she is not getting my seed. Me marry her? Andm ake her weak ass family my family? No thanks. You’ll are the most disgraceful people I have ever seen in my life and I mean that shit. By the time you fuckers realize you lost the black man, it will be too late. Black man telling another black man he doesn’t have freedom of speech. What kind of monkey shit is that. You’ll women should be embarrassed to even give niggas like this some ass. You’ll should date white men. I mean it. These mofos too weak. I have never been on that weak shit when it comes to a woman. I put a chick in her place when I needed to but i shouldn’t have too. She should know what place to occupy and is she doesn’t, then that’s my sue to get the hell on. Black people are rull of shit. They are going nowhere fast. For the remnant that exist out here doing positive things, get your money straight, get away from niggas and watch as they burn. We are the type of men that black people need to listen to but you got homo ass niggas and weak brawds trying to shut us up. I even had some 23 year old degenerate ass niggas trying to talk shit to me on here. Niggas better go find his weak ass daddy instead of commenting on my shit. You weak brawds unleash these dumb niggas into society with no guidance and we have to spank them, sometimes even worse. I’ll rather move around some Asians than be around you’ll clowns. How you can’t get married? What’s so hard about loving someone? Oh I forgot. Black people don’t know anything about that for the most part. They spend too mcuh time hating. You can’t have hate and love occupy the same space. Either you’re a loving or hateful and it’s clear niggas are a hateful bunch. Niggas worse than arabs for real. You’ll mofo make me sick…good riddance…to all my brothers on here who spill their heartso uut keep your head up….i hope you find peace on your path
23. Eleanie Campbell says:

    January 13, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    Working in Child Support for 13 years I have seen both sides. There are men that run from the responsibility of taking care of their children and there are women that use their child to fatten their purses or to get a man back once they are no longer together.

    Then I have also seen the opposite. In the past while working with non-custodial parents in a program called Parents Fair Share I experienced days when men literally cried because they were unemployed and could not care for their children when they wanted to. Some of those same men also cried because the mothers did not allow them to see their children even though they were paying Child Support.

    It’s sad that some women would go to any means to keep their children from their fathers. When will we as black women (and not necessarily all of us) realize that keeping our children from their fathers does more harm than good.
24. Ramses says:

    January 11, 2013 at 4:13 pm

    @Mack and Dcarter…we as black men have been totally brainwashed….racism has really poisoned our minds in terms of reaching happiness. When it comes to black women do you feel there is a “we?” There is a disconnect because the values will always separate from someone who has inferior values than you do, hence the reason why relationships with black women don’t work out for black men in a lot of instances. See the problem with black men is the fact they are always trying to throw on a cape and save black women in general. Trust me, they don’t think about us like that because black women don’t think in terms of “we” she thinks in terms of “I.” This is truth that a lot of black men don’t want to hear. And it’s ok because it’s her choice. There are beautiful women of all groups on the planet. This myth that the black woman is the only and the most beautiful woman on the planet is just that: a myth. I’ve seen some women that will blow your mind and have been with some of these women as well and the experience overall was way better. When Lot fleed Sodom and Gomorrah his wife was woth him right? God told them not to look back (a metaphor for your heart still being attached to that place). Lot’s wife disobeyed a direct order (sound similar) from God and she turned into a pillar of salt while Lot continued without her. God knew what was gonna happen before Lot’s wife did this that’s why he gave the Order (a word that is antithetical to most black women) because he ultimately wanted to get Lot away from his wife because her heart was still in Gomorrah. He knew Lot was sincere but the woman was not. Remember, in the scripture, woman disobeyed first. It’s no different now. Why do you think God is gonna bless you with these types of women? Why do you think you guys have and are going through so much sht with these women? Because you’re disobeying natural law by forcing relationships with those of a lower mindset. But I know what it is: black men are too addiceted to booty and they aren’t confident in themselves to go outside the group and embrace other women. I’m in Atlanta, GA and if you go to Atlantic Station on a Friday or Saturday night, you will see all types of black women with white dudes. They don’t want you’ll like that. They will deal with multiple black men playing them like musical chairs without a second thought. This shit is very animal in the way we interact as males and females. These chicks know they can throw on some tights, showing the split of her ass crack, and a dude will bow down everytime. There is a such thing as poor black trash and a lot of black females exhibit this mentality, no matter how fine they are. You think just because a chick is drop dead gorgeous she is quality on the inside? Hell no. What did Bell Biv Devoe say? “Never trust a big butt and a smile. That girl is poison.” Who were they talking about? Black women. The music was dropping jewels and dudes were much smarter. In the 80′s and nineties, dudes chased money, in the 2000′s they chase ass. But like the white guy told Chris Rock’s character in “I Think I Love My Wife” he said “you can lose a lot of money chasing women, but you can never lose women by chasing money.” That was a jewel there. American women, especially black women are corrupt. This is fact. I mean we are actually having a discussion about women using kids against fathers as weapons. I mean damn do I need to say more? Whatever excuse you want to use, slavery, Jim Crow, segregation, skin bleaching cremes, perms, I don’t give a shit the fact of the matter is these women aren’t shit. Give you a prime example of what I mean. Met this brother at GSU in about 2006 early 2007. We started talking about black women. He used to be with this black chick from his high school days. He met up with the chick after she had two children by this one dude but she and him used to really feel each other. He was in the military and told her she can focus on school and didn’t have to work. However, this wasn’t good enough and eventually they broke up because she thought the grass was greener. She gets with this other dude and you know what happened: the knew guy rapes her daughter. Meanwhile the brother meets this Indian woman at Georgia State University and ends up marrying her. The brother never looked back. You could tell by the smile on his face that his life changed for the better and God probably delivered him from a bad situation. If you find yourself going through things with women, chances are that woman is not for you because a woman is supposed to be i nharmony with Man, not in conflict with him. When the scrioture says “Blessed is the Man that findeth a wife” it doesn’t say where he should find her. Black women don’t care about you’ll like that. We see it on here. They get them a white dude and throw him up in your face without hesitation. You think your God (Allah, Krishna, Yahweh, Jehova, or whomever) would allow you as a Man be lonely? Of course not. Why do you think it’s so many beautiful women on the planet? Because it doesn’t take much for a woman to be corrupt and when this happens, she’s lost forever. I’ve seen this all my life. I’ve never seen women come back from being lost. And it’s not your job to redeem them either. It’s their job to know the science of the womb and if they don’t they will perish for it. In the meantime, you can’t waste your life away thinking you can change her because this is flawed reasoning. Dcarter you said it yourself, the walls are up and from your comments, you come off like a sincere brother, so why should you have to subject yourself to abuse like that? These words from Tupac seem prophetic from the song “Hell For a Hustla”,

    No baby momma drama, nigga miss me, why plant seeds
    in a dirty bitch, waitin to trick me, not the life for me
    Livin carefree, til I’m buried

    Black men are so scared of what black women will think if they don’t date a black women. I don’t use the term “scared” lightly either. Black men are terrified of the response because they have been emasculated to the point where they feel they need black women’s approval for everything and they don’t. If you’ll don’t stop chasing these black trash type of females you’re gonna find yourself at 60 years old wondering where the time went. Black women are not above the negative attributes of humanity. Black men are the only men who unquestioningly place their women on a pedastool and it’s no coincidence they are the only men who get their asses handed to them by these same women. people can say what about Lil Wayne but he definitely exposes these hoes about for who they are. Black “community” be up in arms about about the things he says and raps about but don’t address the things he raps about! Lol…I’ll leave you with this….The happiest time in my life has been when I haven’t fucked with black women. This is fact. The most drama free times im my life was when I didn’t fuck with black women. I don’t know what it is, but it is what it is. I can’t give you a definitive answer as to why. All I know is that when I decided to value my peace of mind over their own psychological issues, my life became a whole lot better. I can’t be a chick’s Dr. Phil, Oprah, Steve Harvey, Iyanla Vanzant, and any other relationship guru. The only thing I can offer her is Love and care and concern about her well being and providing a plan to where we both can mutually benefit. If that’s not good ebough for her, then she’s not good enough for me. I have a moral minimum and at the top pf that list, first and foremost, a woman will respect me. That’s not up for debate or discussion. But I also know that this is very difficult for black women to do, no matter their reason. It doesn’t matter. If a woman is not emotionally, spiritually mature to be with a Man, she deserves to be by herself and she is willing to let men drop seeds off in her and keep it moving, then who am I to argue with her? Only an addict can change himself or herself once they accept the fact they are an addict. Black womne will not change anytime soon because they won’t accept the fact they are mean, bullies, bitches, whores etc. You want to know why? Because these are things you can’t blame on someone else. They can try to blame men for being single mothers and society supports them with that bullshit (I don’t). But those other things are personal defects in one’s own personal behavior. But I can tell you this, I will not sit online and debate with any black woman in 2013 and beyond about the issues plaguing black women and their reasons or justifications for why they do to black men what they do. Those days are over for me. If cats want to do that then that’s their lifetime their wasting. 2013 I’m about my paper and having a woman there who supports me in that endeavor. Because that’s what other women do for their men as well. If black women want to hoarde that little money they get from corporate America, and doesn’t want to invest in her men, then she can’t open her mouth and complain about men not being on her level. If she doesn’t share what she has, then why should brothers look to her to share what they have? It goes both ways. The world is still moving while they are standing still, and getting manlier and more out of shape. When I go work out, the women who I see who are obese are not Latinas, Caucasians, Asians, or any other women. You know who I see: black women. Gluttunous as they wanna be. A woman’s outer appearance reflects what she is on the inside. And even when I see black women in the gym who are in shape (a rarity) they are in their trying to prove hw tough they are, with this tough exterior like they ready to fight someone, while Becky flashes a smile and gets the black man right in her face while she sits there with an angry expression on her face. This mentality of black women “they are taking our men” is so infantile and comical. Listen black women: we are not your property!!! You don’t decide where we stick or penis. We do. And if Becky can get a black man to stay longer than you can, then Becky has figured out the science and Art of Womanhood and you have not and this is why she is much more successful than you are. 2013 will not allow these weak exucses to proliferate anymore. This is not about race, it’s about Womanhood;which cuts across all cultures of women. Chinese men expect their women to be respectful and so do I as a Moor. Our ethnic background might be different, but our values are the same. If a black woman doesn’t meet basic, I mean basic criteria for marriage, why does she think she can put on a white dress,symbolizing purity, when she is anything but pure? I told my friend the other day that he didn’t know his value and worth as a Man and this is why he continues to get abused by women. I’ve seen this brother go from his girlfriend (who was abusive verbally and physically in 1998), his wife who was abusive and used scripture to hide the fact that she was, and now this hoodrat chick who is just a straight up bitch. But when you try ot be with women like this, and continue to keep giving your soul to them, then at some point you’re gonna start feeling inadequate. And this is where a lot of men find themselves. They feel inadequate. They feel they have done everything right but have not been rewarded. But you want to know why you have not been rewarded? Because you’re doing it for the worng woman!!!! Most dudes on here talk about family and wanting structure. I’v yet to see a dude get on here and talk about getting on hoes. Dudes on here value family strcture and know enough about slavery that they at least want to have control over their own seeds. Ths proves my point. Most black women don’t want black men, they just want to control them and the easiest way to control them is through their seeds. This to me is a crime against humanity in itself. This is like dropping a nuke on a man spiritually. And this is why these bitches (yes they are that) suffer the way they do and why they should and you would be silly to step in God’s way when he is having his way with these women. God is sending a very strong message to black women (although most are so corrupt they can’t hear it). He has let them develop high blod pressure, diabetes, HIV, become obese, be homosexuals with each other, let white boys come through their towns and run through them and put it up on sites like Ghetto Gagger, BangBros, and a whole hos of other sites for the world to see how corrupt they are and before any black woman gets on this site henceforth and speaks about any black man, she better save that same vitriol for her so-called “sister” who is out there making such a fool of herself, that she is actually driving good black men into the arms of other women. Until I see black women as a whole, stand up against this demonic, overly sexual woman who uses their children against the men they claim they love so much as weapons, then they cannot get on here and chastise any black men and think they will be taken seriously. Because for all this rhetoric abbout how strong black women are, these middle class (and almost poor and poor) women who work, they’re subsidizing these sorry women who sit on their ass all day and smoke weed and have sex with Tyrone and keep making babies with him as well. You’ll think we don’t know your game? You think you can hide your devilish ways? Social media is exposing black women for the wretched behavior they have been doing on the low for years. Black men, are you that naive to think this hasn’t been going on all this time bhind your back? If you think that then I got a Bridge in Brooklyn to sell ya. Social media is really God enlightening the world of the evil known as the black woman. Yes. Evil. Selling a Man’s child behind his back is evil. Using a Man’s child in court against him is evil. Hurting your child because you want to hurt the father is evil. What kind of woman thinks of this type of shit in the first place? What type of woman thinks “oh since he don’t do what I say, then I’m gonna take his ass to court and let the court smash him.” To hell with blaming white men and white people for the ills all the time. Let’s starting placing some of the blame where it rightly belongs for once. On the black woman’s shoulders because these reprehensible actions prove that she cares nothing about family structure at all. Matter fact, any woman who has any Man on child support that he didn’t voluntary sign up for is evil to me and any woman who sees a Man struggling with these payments and gladly sees him locked up is a devil of the worse kind. In 200 years, if they are still here, and they have changed, then yes black women could get with black men again. But in 2013 I’ll be damned if I out my seed in a black woman. I have to much love for myself and my seed as well because I don’t care about court or any of that law shit that black women try to hide behind. I would bust a black bitch head open behind my seeds in front of the police. And if I got to go through that to have a relationship with my own seed, then that’s the answer right there. I don’t need to put a seed in a woman like that in the first place. If we didn’t have to go to court to conceive the child, then why in the hell do we need to go to court and figure out how to raise the child? That is what you call incompetence and I’ll be damned if I allow a black woman to take me to court and make me look incompetent when she is evil and vindictive and uses the court to put a noose around a black man’s neck. Family is everything to me and I will embrace those cultures who embrace this concept as well. You have women who come from cultures who will be disowned if they get caught being on that hoe shit. Hoe shit is black culture and that’s why it keeps getting fucked. Simple. I’ve seen Indian women give up their whole family to be with a black man because they honored and valued him so highly. Why sit here and waste time with a woman who will not only take your child, but then make your child feel ugly and unwanted as well because they know this manipulation will keep that child loyal to her and her only so when that child gets older, that child will take the place of a husband and take care of that so-called mother, while wasting its own life. I’ve seen to much women of the world to know there are plenty, and I mean plenty, of women who look better on the outside and are better on the inside than black women. Bad diets and manly dispositions have turned a lot of black women into trolls and those who are extremely attractive tend to be the craziest ones put the bunch. Black women on this site need to take their asses home, convene a meeting with their friends and female relatives, and have a pow wow with each other and get themselves spiritually cleansed real fast. Because if they don’t, they will all find themselves on backpage.com selling pussy and I’m including grandma too (who knows grandma might have experience in it anyway). I don’t need any woman on here to validate how good I am or if my words are true or not because, quite frankly, your opinion of me doesn’t mean shit because I don’t value you you enough to give your opinion any credence so before you try to attack me personally, keep that in mind. I am quite capable of validating myself as a Man and if I need sex bad enough I got a hand (and I am not playing either)!!! LOL!!! That is a much more pleasing proposition than taking the chance of putting my seed in a devil. Black owmen can run their mouth all day and it still doesn’t change the fact that plenty of successful black men do not want them. A lot of women know htey aren’t shit this is why they are having babies on purpose because they know they can be taken care of through the state. And you dudes will get on here and defend them? They follow man law (court system) but won’t follow God’s law (Universal Principles) and you wonder why collectively your people are having problems? Black people get on here and always compare themselves to white people when we talk about their struggles especially economically. However, why don’t you all compare yourselve to our Lation brothers and sisters? Or Chinese? Or Koreans? Or Indians? WHy is it white white white white white? You know what all of these other groups of people have in common? They at some point got their asses whipped by some Caucasians and stop thinking that your ass whippings were more than theirs because I can assure you having a nuke dropped on your head like Japan was worse than slavery,if you had to compare. If you got Japan now, you can see the imprint of shadows on the wood on the docks of those people who were incinerated in the blast in 1945. Both were tragic, but who has shown more resiliency? Japanese or Blacks in the US? Easy answer to that one. While Japanese were getting hit with the nuke (and black men did fight this war as well) we were trying to integrate, a stupid endeavor indeed, which we are seeing the results of today. If black people really knew what was going on in Africa today in terms of crimes against humanity, they wouldn’t say that there experience in the 1800′s was the worse experience ever. In Tasmania, a whole population was wiped out due to poor Caucasians fighting them with superior weaponry. However, do we know what these people were doing before these Caucasians got there? How do we know they weren’t doing human sacrifices which people with melanin did do in the past. Black women will be destroyed if they keep up this behavior and they should be under God’s law. He commanded you to obey Man, which they do not, thus rejecting the authoirty of Man, given to him by God, and rejecting God as well, something they are quite content in doing for the forseeable future and it’s getting worse. Are black women getting better or changing for the better? Hell no. They about to put out a show called my ten baby mamas and you’ll think there is nothing to criticize in terms of the black woman? I don’t know who’s sicker: the dues or the chicks. I do know one thing however: I stpe back from God’s judgment on black women and i do not questoion his authority to enact punishment for their behavior because if Black Men don’t know what’s going on, God definitely does and he deosn’t give a dman about Black Men’s feelings about the black woman. He cares about this demon not destroying a people and if he has to destory her to make sure that doesn’t happen, then so be it. You’ll think God is taking it lightly on Black Women? What are you’ll looing at? I mean you have 14 year old girls filming themselves sucking their boyfriend’s dick on twitter pridefully without shame. You know how far you have to be away from God to do that? And this girl has a father around. I would disown any daughter of mine who did some shit like that without a second thought. I would put her ass out on the streets for disrespecting our family name, which was done back in the past. But when you mama was a hoe, you granmama was a hoe, your inheritance will be hoetry as well. And this is what you call black trash. And these are the types of females who you dudes are running across all the time. Hell you even have mothers who keep men around, knowing they are raping their daughters, just to keep these men around so they can have a man (see movie precious). You think God will reward women who think like this? Indian women know not to get on that hoe shit and use virginity as currency. Matter fact, how many dudes on here have had sex iwth a virgin. I have and the vagina is way more different than these loosep ussy hoes out here. Many females are resorting to anal sex because they pussy is so loose, it’s not enjoyable for men anymore!!!!! lol!!! You dudes have noo idea of what you are facing out here because a lot of black dudes base theie notion of manhood on how many women they sleep with and the caliber of women they sleep with. Not knowing the science of a tight vagina. No matter how good she looks, is the whole block has had her, then what is she good for? And it any reason to be rpud you hit it? No. But what if you meet a woman who has never been with any other man and only wants you to have it? That’s a totally different level of respect right there and makes a civiiized Man want to handle this woman in a different way. I don’t get on here and lie. I don’t get on here and get superemotional (like I’m Carl Thomas). I drop pipm tight game for yours ear to hear. A lot of OG’s got locked up and killed in the 80′s and 90′s and for those dudes who lacked a fatheri n their life, this was devastating because many went unschooled in the ways of the world and had to learn on their own which proved tragic for many. And you dudes better be careful in church as well. There’s a lot of demonic black women in the temple lurking like sharks. Trying to find a gullible black man to right the wrongs of her life. If you dudes do that, then don’t complain about getting your head busted wide open by this demon. If I was to give black men any advice about black women in the States, I would say this: RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They are no good overall and for the few ones that do exist, you would have to go through so many demons to find her, your energy level will be so depleted that it wouldn’t work out. It’s time they know what it’s like to be rejected and humiliated and then maybe they can see what it’s been like being the object of ridicule in society because this is what black women, themselves have set themselves up for. Black women are the laughing joke of American society and they better not look at me expecting me to come to their defense because I am standing back and letting the slaughter ensue because this is what God wants. Black women, if they have any civility left as a collective, should feel ashamed for what they see these black women out here exhibit. The major reason why I voted for Barack in 2008 was because of the image of the black family. Black people needed to see something like that. Fuck all this talk about Django and shit. You got a brother who didn’t have to make a rap song to become successful. You have a sister who didn’t have to sell her ass to make money. Two nerds who look like they really love one another and they got class too. Even when you give black women someone like Michelle Obama to imitate and emulate, they still choose Nicki Minaj!!! Lol…They like being devils. I’m convinced of this and therefore their future looks pretty grim. In the meantime, 2013 will be a year of success for myself because I choose not to engage with a woman who would rather lose and be in control, than submit and win. In 2013 I am letting it be fully known that I completely reject the black woman and what she stands for and at this point, she is not on my level. Just like she likes to say black men aren’t on her level economically. That’s cool. I’m here to say that she is not on my level spiritually and therefore we will not be able have a union and become one. I don’t hate them and they should not hate me. They want different things than I do which makes us incompatible. None of you people ever experienced slavery so stop using it as an excuse to suck and come up short. If you watch the boob tube (tv) and allow it to control your every thought and action, then you are a slave. Simple. I do not want a woman who lives inside oa virtual reality world (reality tv). i want a Woman who I can take horseback riding or to a Governor’s ball and know she won’t embarrass herselff or me. Most black women I’ve come across can’t fit that profile. They don’t understand proper social eitquette (in public all loud and shit). They greedy and selfish as hell. And just don’t know how to carry themselves as proper ladies. This is something you are tight at home and if not, I’m not wasting my time and energy trying to teach you because it doesn’t work. You cannot go against 18-25 years of conditioning, in which a woman has never had to listen to the authority of a Man. You cannot undo that type of mentality. It’s easier and more fulfilling to meet a woman who exemplifies the requisite characteristics necessary for family formulation. Chances are, a woman from a single mother background will not demonstratet this. I used to think you could change a woman and get her to see the benefits of family structure and change her way of thinking for the better but that is wrong thinking. Why come down to someone’s level that is beneath you spiritually? If you have to convince a woman that marriage and family is imprtant, as opposed to running to strip clubs and regular clubs, then isn’t that your answer? I mena do we have to get on sites like these and teach women these basic things? Is it really that bad? Yes it is. Some years ago I worked at this retial store, and this chick came up stating that she was open to guys and girls sexually like she was making a public announcement. One day we were talking and she asked me “you wouldn’t marry a woman who has slept with another woman?” My resposne was an emphatic “hell no.” You’ll know those commercials showing abused dogs who hunker down out of fear of being hit again with that sad look in their face? This was her response to me. She was fearful that I was Man enough to judge her as unredeemable in terms of marriage material. She crossed a line and I would not allow her to come back. From that moment on, she had the utmost respect for me. However, you know what’s sad? Some young naive ass nigga impregnated this chick. Now maybe she straightened out and they are still together with their child, but I seriousy doubt it. Atlanta is a city that allows black women to be corrupt without any boundaries. Wouldn’t be surprised if hse’s a stripper since that’s what a lot of black women aspire to be (even those who take pole dancing classes). I don’t even eant my woman thinking she has to take classes like that to turn me on. If my woman has to take a pole dancing class to turn me on, then she is not for me. I like sex appeal first. You can be find have a fat ass all day, but are you sexy? I like chinky eyes. nice sheek bones, a small gap in the top forn teeth that brings out your smile. That’s sexy to me. I like a woman who has an exotic look. that’s just me. So you can be fine and booty big but it doesn’t make you sexy and whatever you have that makes you sexy to me will always be there because sex appeal does not leave. This story shows us the evil nature of black women and how it’s not changing anytime soon and if you dudes keep dealing with this monster, you will find yourself broke and miserable. Notice how no dudes who run through chicks at the club get on this site complaining about black women. Why is that? Because they are getting what they want from them (easy sex). Then when these women are looking for a bailout, they come to sites like these trying to hook up with wuality dudes!!!!! The Shawty Lo’s of the world (including pastors) are not complaining about black women because they fuck them like there’s not tomorrow. However, for thosem en who seek marriage, where does that leave them? When I was in Whole Foods yesterday, most white women I saw were married. Most black women were single. Even if they pulled up in nice vehicles. They were still unmarried and they weren’t all young either. If you’ll dudes travel down this road in 2013 and beyond you will end up getting more devastated than what you already are. This is a fact. All this love you try to show them and what do yo uhave to show for it? Heartache and pain. if you can’t change the people around you then change the people areound you!!! It’s simple. Hating whitey is not your answer I can asure you. WHitey has his own problems to deal with. That black woman is more of a problem than whitey is. What if the ancestors could see what black women were doing to black men. You think they would let them have a free pass? Hell no!!! A 63 year old black woman told me and some brothers this summer to leave black women alone, if you have any sense. And this was in front of her own grandchild who she lambasted for what? Disrespecting her black man who was sitting right there. Now if a black woman can tell black men, sitting in a room with her grandaughter right there (a baby mama I might add), not to deal with black women, you think I’m not gonna listen? You damn right I will because she knows secrets that I don’t know and for her to be honest like that was mercy. She knows the devilish nature of the present black woman and served as a warning for us at this meeting. That’s God. Because that was the second time I had been in the presence of a black woman (the first one was dyke) in which they both said to leave black women alone based on the values I had. And you know what was deep. It was an elder (black man) who sat there and tried to fight this black woman sitting there who was giving us some very powerful insight pn the psyche of the black woman. I felt vindicated after leaving that meeting because, although most black people will not feel what I say on here, a black woman actually confirmed what i have been saying for quite some time: the black woman right now is our numbero ne enemy and I know it’s hard for a lot of you dudes to hear but you gotta let ‘em go. The firs time i heard this from a black woman wasin 2008 and she has not been wrong at all. No matter how much I tried to defend black women, it got to a point where I had to be sensible and stop defending the indefensible. Even the author article (a black woman) has gotten to the point where she can’t defend black women anymore because she sees how her behavior is tearing down her “community.” Black women think they will be able to run to white men and avoid the debt they have to pay to black men? Think again. I don’t have anything against white men because I embrace ll those peoples who show a civilized way of thinking. Black people get on here and criticize white people but hell at least they show an affinity for Egypt. Black people want to talk about Africa all the time but never Egypt. Or if they do it’s surface level. This “we were kings and queens” nonsense is a myth and we think that kings and queens throughout history were so great for humanity as a whole. Kings and queens did more harm to humanity thang good from the perch I sit at. How many men, women, and children have died at the hands of corrupt kings and queens? I wou;d say billions. Not millions. Black people want to talk about Africa but at least Africans get married!!! Lol…At least they practice the art of business. While you got black women who will whore themselves on tv for 5 minutes of fame!!!! And a man of my disposition is supposed to link up with that type of shit? I’m not a millionaire yet and i look down on these hoes because class is not about money. It’s plenty negroes out here with money with no class. Class is a way of thinking. It’s values. We have been taught all our lives that class is wrong, but it has never been more so right. However, those with money have a better opportnity of exposing themselves to things of a higher class. This is why you fight like hell (starting with your core values and getting married) and build up. Black women lack this idea in their spirit because their spirit is about satisfying themselves only. There is no “I am because we are” mentality coming from black women as a whole. I’ve seen few black women on here who speak to this collective minded way of thinking. And therein lies the problem: they are few. However, if I look in other groups of women, there are plenty women like this to choose from. So human nature tells me to go where there is plenty, than to stick with that which is few.
25. Dcarter910 says:

    January 11, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    @Mack/@Ramses,

    As always very insightful thoughts on this topic. Honestly this is one of the saddest topics that can ever be discussed amongst black men or black people as a whole. We lambast all the social ills of the black community and how to resolve such issues in a constructive way but honestly if we cant even get our house holds together (united) then there is no hope. A key pillar to any success for black people in America going forward is the relationship and bond between the black man and the black woman and despite all the wonderful insight shared here I have yet to hear any solutions. I can read the frustration in the responses to this post…it speaks to my own frustration. Where is the disconnect? How do you break the cycle? There is an amazing black woman that I am still in love with right now but she is too prideful, and emotionally detached. She says I am everything she ever wanted in a man, and I have proven time and time again I would never hurt or cheat on her but she still refuses to let all these “walls” she has up, come down.

    I dont know. It’s hard to say embrace other races because honest and truly…if it wasnt for black womens attitude, they would be HANDS DOWN the most gorgeous women on earth. Brothers would have to fight men of other races to get/keep one. But as it stands now, thought from an exterior perspective they are still the most beautiful women, all that fades quickly with their personality flaws. I am afraid that if I do fall for a woman of another race and years down the line some one in a million sister comes along that it could compromise my current relationship seeing as how black women will always be a deep seated preference.
26. Mack says:

    January 11, 2013 at 5:21 am

    @ Ramses: SMH! And to think: thats another decent, productive young brother GONE, edged into an early grave by some dog wench and her owner/master ‘the System’. Damn shame.

    Lets dispel some myths right quick:

    *There’s no huge interacial market out there for American black women. The myth of all these white guys waiting to take you to the promised land is just that: a MYTH. Most men will screw the socks off a whore, then turn and MARRY a lady. Its just how most men are wired. And sadly, the average sister is content to be a white man’s whore and sex toy. Just look at the huge popularity of that show Scandal. I rest my case…

    *The black men who don’t stick around to raise their kids didn’t abandon their families. Most didn’t start a family to begin with. They were simply tempted into hitting some easily availed skins, by a woman who 9 times out of 10 WANTED to be pregnant. Then once a baby came into the picture, these men did what they were doing all along: kept it moving. Only delusional women would expect a sexual fling to turn into a long-term commitment leading to a family.

    *Most black men are pushed out of their kids’ lives; they don’t just turn and walk away. Don’t believe me? Go down to your local child support court. Sit on the bench next to the brothers and strike up a casual conversation with them. They’ll tell you the REAL deal with their cases; not the hype you’ve been led to believe.

    All too often when a child comes into the relationship, the woman will use it as a bargaining chip. The child becomes her ally in anger against the man. It becomes her weapon of vengeance to strike back and hurt him. Knowing full well the weight of the courts work in her favor, most men to gain their peace of mind will simply opt to pay the sperm tax allocated to him by the courts and get on with his life; hoping some day to be able to resume a harmonious relationship with his kid. If the mother hasn’t completely poisoned its mind yet.

    *If you’re a black woman who thinks a man should go through hell and high water just to be with his kid, YOU’RE A DAMN IDIOT. How ’bout you stop putting the man through hell and high water so he can BE with his kid.And what about what the KID wants? Ever consider that…?

    *Last but not least, ladies: you and your kid are NOT a package deal! What gives you the right to even think such a thing?? As if you made the child by yourself. Fool. That child is just as much, if not MORE so the father’s as it is yours. You can’t even give it a blood transfusion if needed; but the father can. So what does nature say about who is considered more naturally connected to the kid?

    Again, this case is beyond dispicable. Its downright demonic. That chick has one helluva karmic boomerang headed her way. And so do the rest of those ignorant chicks who inwardly smile with glee in acceptance of her actions.
27. Ramses says:

    January 11, 2013 at 3:05 am

    natalie says:
    May 19, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    @ sankofa.. thanks for those kind words. This woman has disappeared. However, the day after my nephew was found dead the woman was back in court attempting to get an increase in child support. She had not received the news yet i suppose but shed heard if his promotion two weeks prior to his death. My sister has been on anti depressants since the woman served my nephew with child support papers.. a productive family with positive contributions to our community devastated while the state supports and enables another generation of these entitled irresponsible “babymamas” if our leaders refuse to call them out i will not stop until the state sipported assault on our men by family courts comes to an end or i will die trying at the leastt!
28. Ramses says:

    January 11, 2013 at 2:59 am

    http://thyblackman.com/2012/05/17/child-support-enslaving-black-men/

    this is a comment by a woman natalie on the site about what happened to her nephew

    Thanks again sista,

    My apologies for such a lengthy post but this is something that I have become passionate about over the course of the last 10 years.

    As you may already know sis. Nojma

    In 2007, my nephew (19 at the time) committed suicide after a woman 7 years his senior admitted to pregnancy entrapment (contraception tampering) He was to attend college in the Fall but instead was served with CS orders. Absent the ability to prove in public what this woman admitted to in private my nephew was told to simply “man up” by the courts. After two years of depression his suicide note read… “I cannot believe this has happened. Some days are better than others, but I have decided that I would rather die than to continue to support – – – – . My entire life has been turned upside down and I pray that God recives me with understanding”.This has made it very personal for me.
29. Ramses says:

    January 11, 2013 at 2:53 am

    Hold your head Sankofa….shit rough out here in these deserts (no fertile soil out here).
30. Ramses says:

    January 11, 2013 at 2:50 am

    I told myself I wouldn’t comment on here anymore after this and after this comment i won’t but I felt compelled to do so. This story resonates with all of us who are civilized. Let me say this: any woman who is willing to part a Man from his seed is a devil Let me say it again. Any woman who is willing to part a Man from his seed is a devil (black woman included). I have heard many horror stories from men who have had their hearts scarred from not being able to have the most fundamental relationship on the planet: fatherhood. You know we sit on here and talk about all types of issues. Health disparities, education, economics, and a host of other issues (including celebrity culture which wastes a lot of time honestly). However, whenever the topic of black women behavior comes up, something changes. We are all for Barack coming with a jobs program, or corporate America giving us a bone to eat off, or holding pastors accountable to us. But the one person we refuse to hold accountable is the black woman. We make excuse after excuse after excuse for her shortcomings, her faults, and sometimes her evil, vindictive behavior. If I wrote an article titled “The Black Woman is a Bitch”, I would no doubt get blasted on this site for being some self-hating black man who can;t get a black woman because I’m not a real man. However, when this Sister puts up this article, clearly wrote out of frustration and hurt and love, where are the female responses at? Black women get on this site and literally blast black men for expressing how they feel about the black women who fit this black devil who sold this man’s seed to that Utah couple. My issue is not with the fact that they were given to the white couple. That’s not the issue. It’s the fact that she knew this Man wanted his child (even when he might not possibly want her) and she wanted to cut him deeply. This is unforgivable. With all this criticism of black men not wanting their children, you have a black woman trying to keep her own child I might add, from a willing father who wants to take care of her. Do you all see the irony in this? i see so many people on here, including black women, who can quote slavery at the drop of a dime when we speak of the issues concerning black people and why they are in the predicament they are in (although I doubt this horrible period is the sole reason as to why our people can;t get it together). But if they can go back to slavery so easy, by default, then they know that what was taken from the black man during this period was his ability to formulate and lead his family. And this makes it worse. The very essence of slavery prevented the black man from controlling his own genetic material, his legacy. The most fundamental right on the planet. So why would black women, who we get on here and claim is the supreme Goddess of the planet, who is intelligent, and has all these degrees, do this to her black man? If she knows that the black man was emasculated during slavery, why would she make him relive this scenario 40 years later? I have gotten attacked personally on this site for saying basically what the sister has said in this article. It doesn’t bother me at all but it did show me how much power black women have in the so-called “black community.” I saw a youtube story where a black woman who was abusing her child on a bus in philly, and a black man threatened to call the police on her. Do you’ll know what she did? She got on her phone, called some thugs from her neighborhood to shoot this dude, and when the bus got to her stop, she got off the bus and told her thugs to “shoot that nigga.” The dude proceeded to shoot up the bus with an assault rifle and if this old lady would have not fell to the ground out of sheer fear, she would have been probably shot in the face. However, who instigated it? And to make it so bad, the dudes got 20 years in jail and she only got 5 years!!!!!! The black woman did. I will just say it because everyone else is scared to: in general, the black woman is a bitch. She’s a whore as well. She believes she’s above the law (natural law). She tells men she doesn’t need them (defying God’s natural law to some up under Man), she disrespects her womb like it’s an Olympic sport, and then demands respect. And the sad thing is, the black community gives it to her. The black community gives the black man no respect at all, including kids. But “we” bow at the altar of the black woman. We do it in church, we do it in college, and do it in the strip clubs. No matter the arena, the black community has subjugated itself to the archetype of “The Strong Black Woman.” I didn’t say stereotype intentionally. I used the word archetype for a very specific reason. Here’s on of Webster’s definition of archetype:

    an inherited idea or mode of thought in the psychology of C. G. Jung that is derived from the experience of the race and is present in the unconscious of the individual

    This notion of the “Strong Black Woman” is present in pretty much all black people. Anytime someone criticizes her, the natural tendency is to defend her, because of this unconscious thought in the psyche of most black people. When Men refuse to hold women accountable, this proves disastrous for the rest of the community because, quite naturally, who would respect any men who allow themselves to be a walking doormat? This unwillingness to critique black women gives them the thought that they can do what they want, which they do. This is my main reason why I choose not to deal with them anymore. In all my relationships with black women, they have always showed a propensity of being accountable. And then when you try to establish a common ground with them, in terms of communication, so they know where you come from and vice versa, they think you’re trying to “check” them. I have had grown women tell me :you can;t tell me what to do” pridefully. Well technically, if he’s your husband, yes you do. But black women can’t get a Man to stick around long enough because of their egotistical behavior. It’s so bad out here, some black women, like this article’s author, are speaking out because they know the longterm ramifications of this behavior. The few ones like herself, who want black men, are seeing black men explore other options (in terms of other ethnicities) and know that this type of behavior from black women is driving many black men away from black women as a whole. Now I know the common reaction from most black women who read this will be complete denial and that’s fine. However I pose this question: have you ever been in an environment where black women were not the ultimate choice for black men? I have never heard so many black men talking about doing away with black women and seeking other options including mail-order-brides. A friend of mine used to deal with this Somalian chick back in 2006 and she said that when she first came here, she thought black ma=en weren’t shit. She thought they were the problem. However, after being around black women for awhile she had to apologize to my dude. She told him that she felt sorry for black men for having to deal with “these kinds of women.” This is a woman who comes from a culture where they get married at 18 or 19. This is common. Nw compare that to a woman who runs the streets more than men. Totally different mindset. Black women don’t want black men, they just want to control them. They say to black men he can’t see multiple women (while they do it behind his back as the norm). They tell him he can’t date outside his group (although they right guide books for other black women on how to date white guys). They say you hate yourself when you seek happiness from any other woman who’s willing to give it to you, when she won’t. And is the only woman I see, who in a general sense, is willing to not only to hurt fathers in terms of keeping their children away from them, but they are willing to hurt their own child as well. Now tell me how any woman like this is supposed to be blessed from God? For all those people who get on here and quote scriptures like Martin Luther King Jr, why should black women be blessed in any capacity? Their false sense of security comes from jobs, which have been taken away from them in this weak economy. I was in Whole Foods reading today and I saw black women I saw in college and some older ones as well who are bagging groceries. Is this the success degrees were supposed to bring? You might see a Mexican woman working as a dishwasher, but most times she’s married or with a Man she;s been with for a longtime and she has way more excuses for not being in a better position being that a lot of times their legal status is in question. You people can talk about white people keeping you back all you want to but that’s not it at all. If you know the science of any good civilization, the foundation of it is families. If you have good families, you have good civilization. If you have bad families, then you have bad civilization. When you look on those pyramid reliefs, and see pictures of Pharaoh, you usually see him with his family in the iconography, which shows that it wasn’t just about himself. The Pharaoh, in all his glory, made room for his woman and children. Why can’t the black woman do the same? Why does she have to be “Superwoman” and get all the credit when things go great, but shift all the blame to the black man when things go bad? This sister has reported on this site, that when she criticizes black women on facebook, she gets private messages from black women deflecting responsibility for their actions. This is a prominent theme. I would suggest black men, before you beat down your fellow black man, who has probably went through some hell with a black woman, you might need to clean up your own backyard first because I have come across plenty of black men who attempt to get black men who know what’s going on, to keep quiet about what’s going by saying things like “well you know how the are.” Or by saying “well we do dirt too.” I remember this chick, whenever I used to try to hold her accountable would say “well white girls do it too.” Or some other stupid statement to justify her evil ways. When someone is critiquing your behavior, other people or groups play no factor in the assessment of you as a person. My friend told his own mother, she is the major reason why he wouldn’t want an African-American woman as a wife and she hates it and he’s preparing for the day where he probably won’t be able to bring his wife or children to meet their grandmother in the future. She used his Dad to get a house and a car back in the day and then divroced him, knowing he was the type of Man who wouldn’t fight her for possessions. Then married another dude and threatened to kick him out on a continuous basis to the point where he replaced her with a younger woman (the dude served ten years in prison and was not trying to hear that dumb shit). The job she complained about for years let her go some years back and she lost her house and has had to dip into her 401k and it’s almost depleted. All this power this woman used to wield over black men, throwing it up in their faces, was ultimately taken away from her. Now she’s in her sixties, no husband, and still trying to go to school, when she should have at least been living somewhat comfortably in retirement. This is the future of many black women coming up in the next 20 years because they won’t invest in black men. I’m into business, which has longevity. Jobs don’t. People (especially black women) graduate from college with the expectation that a white man has a job waiting for her to work. White people (men mostly) can’t find jobs themselves. Or what they do is fire black women from jobs and replace them with white folks who need the job themselves. This isn’t racist, it’s called looking out for your own, something black women don’t practice because they are too busy looking out for themselves, as this devil demonstrated in giving this Man’s child up for adoption. I don’t care if your man opens up a hotdog stand. Support him. A hotdog stand can turn into Zaxby’s. When you invest in your men longterm, then you benefit from their hard and smart work. However this thinking that black men owe black women some sort of allegiance has been turned on its head. Black women have clearly shown that they have no allegiance to black men by their actions. It’s funny how black women are being shown in the media for who many of them are (shows like Backetball Wives and Shawty Lo’s show) and they want black men to come to their defense. Yet when we were getting beat down by the media, I didn’t see any black women come to our defense. Even on this site, I’ve seen more black women ridicule, and demean black men who share how they feel about black women in terms of what they went through and no doubt some dudes are gonna be angry. Men don’t like to deal with broken hearts. That’s the only thing men can’t deal with. However, most black women get on here, throw their degrees in men faces or the fact that they deal with white men as if they’ve arrived. LOL. I’m glad i stopped hating white people like I used to because once I did, I was able to see clearly what has been the bane of my existence: the black woman. Any major problems I had in life was centered around them. Once I stopped dealing with them, my problems ceased. This was no accident. I have learned there are some beautiful women of different ethncities who can love me as if I was from their group. I’ve never hated myself nor black women. But I have too much respect for myself than to jump through hoops trying to gain someone’s respect who doesn’t respect herself. I’ve never made black women jump through hoops to be with me. All I have ever done was to extend my hands in their direction and get them to open up their clench fists. Instead, black women chose to swing and although I was willing to take some of those blows when I was younger and naive, thinking it was my job to do so, my spiritual growth and development showed me that this was not my job. Just like I had to get my spiritual affairs in order, to be a better Man, so does the black woman. She is not above natural law, no matter how much she thinks she is. The woman on the planet who’s catching the most hell is the black woman and it’s mostly due to her own hands. She hurts her own chance of having a family by driving fathers away and hurting her chidren in the process as well. She spends billions on products trying to be something she is not. She demeans her men by mocking them for being the recipient of an unjust system in which he gets isolated economically by being prevented of the chance to produce for his family. She runs the street with no sense of any morals. The list goes on and on. Because of this lack of man’s guidance and lack of family, she’s lonely and vulnerable to attack. And don’t think this is just a black woman thing. If any other woman from any other group acted in this way, the result would be the same. However, they don’t. LAways exceptions, but other groups of women value basic things like family. My heart goes out to men like Sankofa because his story is all too common. This happens too many times to brothers for us to just keep sweeping this under the rug. I believe black women hate black men but won’t admit it. I would respect it more if they did, instead of acting like they support them when they really don’t. Their actions in general don’t show that. If you have to change a Woman’s heart (which is impossible really) then isn’t that who she truly is? Think about it. If we have to have discussions about black women selling their children to keep them from fathers who want them, then can’t we all admit (man and women) that this is a heartless soul or are we gonna have excuse makers as usual? We’re taught in college textbooks that black woman are titans, but in our personal lives, they have been devils and this is truth for many black men in this country. If it wasn’t for black men’s mothers, a lot of them would have left black women alone a long time ago. But the guilt trip that black men allow in terms of race is a noose around their necks, preventing their happiness. Black men are putting their own happiness second in terms of black women when their should be a mutually beneficial aspect to your relationship. Black women think sex satisfies black men only, yet the marriage rates and their successes (or lack thereof) prove otherwise. There are many men out here who have been raised by vindictive black women who have warped their thought process so bad, they actually pick women who embody this same type for personality. I have dealt with women from other groups and the one thing that stands out from all of them is the fact that none of them ever made me jump through hoops to get their respect. It was always given to me. I’ve never had other groups of women outright disrespect me like black women whether I was in relationships with them or they were complete strangers. The main reason why I stopped approaching black women was because I assumed a conflict would arise, being that their way of interacting with black men tends to be condescending a lot of times. Knowing me, and how I don’t do well with the disrespect from them I stopped approaching them. If you’re not interested in me as a Man I’m cool with that. Outright trying to make me look like a fool is an entirely different matter. Black women are the only women that have made me want to put my hands on just for their level of disrespect. One thing you brothers can say about white men is that they know how to put their foot in black women asses. They have a hold on them that you have not mastered (if you ever could). You can talk slavery all you want but Moors had black women as slaves in Europe who bathed the white women they had as wives. This is truth. I don’t look at myself as a descendant of slaves and this is why I expect a certain level of respect. When you look at yourself as a descendant of slaves, your worldview tends to be a little different. Personally, I don’t think the black woman is capable of respecting the black man. She despises him too much, for whatever reason. Trying to figure it out will drive one insane and take a lifetime, both being undesirable propositions for myself. Once I found out that black women in the US weren’t the only women in the world with hips and asses, my choice was easy. That gene is all over the planet and in all shades and ethnicities of women which makes these women family to me.
31. sankofa says:

    January 10, 2013 at 10:48 pm

    Great piece Sister Nojma…as usual! This story burnt my heart as a man currently fighting to get access to m y son, who is being used as a pawn in a bullshit break up. However, worse than even this was the beast that took her ex man’s 10 year old child and murdered her, THEN slashed the face of his current woman with a box cutter, all because she couldn’t have him anymore. I have been saying for the longest while that this society is anti feminine and only support a feMan, some drone that outwardly looks female but acts like some demented beast. Along with hunting down a man for support, do you know that if I ask for a paternity test, I will either be denied for being intrusive and even accused of harassment, or must pay fill cost for it? But females can demand one, get it done for free and I have no say in the matter? Do you know that paternity fraud is a rising occurrence in North America and not just for us…so think about the damage it does to us, when Caucasian females don’t do half the things publically that the females in our community does.

    This is how bad this anti African male shit is getting. Two celebrities, ex-football player Chad Johnson has, I think, four children with different knee-grow females (so much for those devils accusing him of hating knee-grow females). One of his baby mamas’s….because that’s what she is…is trying to take him to court to up his child support payment of $3500, because she can’t live on this amount. Pardon my language but the bitch does not have a job and is living in a house HE bought for her after they split. But she wants to live off his child support payment. Something about CHILD SUPPORT is lost on this beast. Then there is the curious case of a current Steelers player, (sorry the name escapes me) who has custody of his daughter, yet the feMan went to court to get child support and an increase AND was awarded it. Now are you gonna tell me that there is not an agenda that supports this behaviour, that destroys the prospect of us acting like human beings to each other? I have seen females go to the ends of the earth to deny a man access to his child, yet the knee-grow who doesn’t want to pay her and the child no mind; all he gets is bad mouth. Yes the government goes after him, because in the government’s eyes, they are not taking care of a bastard child. But unless he is a celebrity, the female would put in a half ass effort to pursue him. She will call him all kinds of names and lump all males in the same category, but she won’t make the effort to pursue him. Don’t believe me? check out the fool who impregnated several fools to the tune of 30 children. It’s not the women that are going after him, it’s the government AND there is another female hanging with this dusty dude, as Mack calls him.
    @Dcarter910…I work as a government drone, so I see females like this all the time and am resigned to keep it moving. In time it becomes water off your back. I know brother Ramses has suggested we men look behind skin tone and seriously that is something that I can’t bring myself to do, yet I will not, not these days get in anybody’s face about their choices…as long as it is honest and there is no hidden agenda. But we’ve been telling these females for the longest times to come correct or get left back, now the tide is turning and sisters like Nojma is sounding the clarion call and even THEY are getting the “niggers aint shit” treatment. They way I see it knee-grow females have two options, either get with the program or lose out…and get with the program is checking the schedule for the next bus out of town.
32. Dcarter910 says:

    January 10, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    This is why it is getting harder and harder to love and trust black women. I love them, I truly do but it seems as though they even have a very negative attitude toward brothers.

    For instance, I was in a very high level conference with a select number of fortune 500 company heads to include government. I was the only black man in the room which already felt awkward but hey it is what it is. There was one sister in the room as well and though we sat across from one another she would not even acknowledge my presence. Not that we have to do so strange ritual of acknowledgement because we are both black but where it is common courtesy to network with everyone in the room there was no reason for her to avoid me and ignore my presence. Even worse I had a presentation where everyone in the room paid attention and was quite impressed, then out the corner of my eye I noticed the sister was asleep. Even the white people in the room was not so disrespectful to do such a thing. After the presentation there was another presenter that was plain boring but she was wide awake, alert and attentive.

    I dont know what it is but it feels more and more like I either choose an uneducated hood rat that love brothers but hate themselves or choose an educated sister that hates brothers and…well hates themselves. At least the hood rats dont look down on brothers and all I would have to do is try an build her self esteem. Or I can just by pass all the B.S. and embrace dating outside my race. Seems like more in more young black women in the DC area are only willing to date white guys. Once they get well into their thirties and white guys have used them up and refused to marry them then they come back to brothers.
33. Deeann D. Mathews says:

    January 10, 2013 at 2:49 am

    What a wicked woman, that mother; what households and generations of damage she has already caused. As for her punishment, there is probably very little on the books that can come to bear, but beyond the confines of human speculation, there is a divine law that we reap what we sow, and she has sown for herself a more bitter crop than we can probably imagine.
34. Mack says:

    January 10, 2013 at 12:43 am

    Mmmm-mmm-mh….

    This is one of those stories that can only leave you shaking your head. But its just the tip of the iceberg. This mindset of black women towards black men is far more common than not. There are thousands of similar stories going on all over America.

    I pity black women. There’s a backlash coming. One can feel it rumbling just beneath the surface. If sisters don’t get their act together, and I mean REAL fast, they’re going to find themselves so far behind socially that it’ll take generations to restore them to normal status again.

    Upwardly mobile brothers aren’t really checking for them right now. The delusional ones think white men will sweep in like knights in shining armor to ‘swirl’ with them. But real talk: white men ain’t messing with them like that either. And who can blame them? Who wants to tie themselves contractually in a covenant with someone who comes from a group who have proven to be disloyal, unfaithful, backstabbing, delusional, hypocritical, immature, self-centered and basically just not all that in the first place? And stories like this just go to illustrate that point.

    And for those that think a big butt and a smile can compensate for character, that will only work on three types of men: dusty dudes, men who frequent prostitutes, and no-asset having young dudes. Because mature men know that a big butt and smile don’t pay these bills around here. Nor will it make a happy home.

    So where does that leave the majority of sisters…?

    Not enough of the decent ones are speaking up as vocally as they speak out against black men. Which is why every chance I get, I applaud you Nojma, and those that think like you. Unfortunately, yet fortunately too it falls on shoulders like yours to redeem the image of the African-American woman. Its a daunting task. Many brothers I talk to are barely holding on by their fingernails right now.