WTH Does “Fairy Tale Ending” Mean Anyway?
(ThyBlackMan.com) OK so I’m like 6 years late on doing an article about Sex and The City 2 but let me explain. My significant other agreed to watch SATC with me and so we did. I could tell it was brutal for him to get through; but like a gentleman he did. He resorted to only a few forced distraction measure with his iPhone (which was understandable). Those that know me can attest to the fact that I am a true SATC fan and a man that can watch it with me puts me in a Charlotte type of “awwww” mood.
I’ve seen every episode and SATC The Movie at least 3 times (at that’s being modest). I love and defend each character as if they are a sibling. I can remember the exact time and date I fell in love with labels. I made my first high end hand bag purchase after seeing Carrie strut her strutter with the Christian Dior saddle bag in tow. Since then I’ve been a self proclaimed SATC addict. Hello my name is Nikki and I love Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. Once the powers that be finally decided to make a movie to round out the series my life was complete.
A few days after seeing SATC The Movie I’m channel surfing and what’s on? Sex and the City 2. Perfect timing sure but eeh, I wasn’t that excited about 2. What the hell (I thought) it’s the girls. By the end of the movie my now 38 year old eyes were finally capable of understanding what my 32 year old eyes could not and would not accept. I can finally admit to myself why I though SATC 2 sucked. Make no mistake about it, SATC the series (as well as it was written and directed) was the ultimate ball crusher. You have 3 of 4 women that want to find love yet they make no apologies for who they are and the mistakes they’ve made in the tragic world of love. Demanding careers, over priced shoes and plenty of sex with no strings attached created women that the world deemed out of control whores. After all women don’t (more like shouldn’t act like that. But guess what? We cried with them, laughed with them, rooted for them and ultimately wanted love for them. If we hadn’t experienced the fairy tale ending for ourselves then damnit – Carrie Bradshaw, Charlotte York and Miranda Hobbs had better.
It was 10 years in the making. Ten years of hope. Ten years of failed relationships. Ten years of wondering if they’d end up old ladies with cats in couture. Ten years of continuing to get back up after love knocked them and me on our asses. They were exhausted and so was I. And then it happened. Sex and the City The Movie was born and I was free. Free to believe in the fairy tale ending after 10 long years. Exhale. It happens, it really does happen.
Then along comes SATC 2. It took the wind right out of my fairy tale. It was realistic. It was predictable and kinda boring. After all they had been through Michael Patrick King reduced Carrie and Big to an old married couple that watches TV in bed and orders take out? Where was the “zsa zsa zoo”? THIS IS “CARRIE & BIG” – WTF?
As the credits rolled up my screen my eyes seem to process each passing line as a single thought building up to one big picture. Drum roll . . . This was the end I had been hopelessly waiting for. This is what I wanted for Carrie and the rest of my friends; men who loved them and were by their side. No lying, no cheating, no immature behavior. Yet some how I was pissed and immediately dismissed part 2 (rating it terrible) the first time I saw it. But now I get it. This is what love is. There is no drama. There are no unanswered questions. There are no games being played. This is love Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday – 24/7, 365.
There may be a couple of peeks but this is it. I had to honestly conclude that my 32 year old eyes some how fell in love with the effort of attracting and keeping love and never really gave much thought to what happens afterward. That “and they lived happily ever after” is some BS; there is work to be done here but not the kind we expect. The work comes with women understanding that “no drama” is a great thing. Not having any drama in one’s relationship should be the ultimate goal. If we stop to consider that the drama usually stems from lies, cheating and immature behavior then, I think we’d understand part 2 a bit more. I wonder if this “no drama” after affect is really one of the culprits that cause so many divorces.
I said all this to say if you thought SATC 2 sucked go back and watch it again. If you don’t want to do that, at least change your perception about what a “fairy tale ending” really means. Ladies, we have to be honest. We have all been guilty of putting way too much emphasis on getting the love and very little on how to keep it. The girls got what they wanted and it is officially time to move on to living in love instead of living for love. Take your happy ending and sit down some damn where.
Staff Writer; Nikki Woods
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