Being the other woman.
(ThyBlackMan.com) First let me start off by saying this a fictional writing and has nothing to do with the actual writer herself.
I hated her, despised her thought she was the worse woman on this earth until one day I realized that my own arc enemy had become me. Now don’t get me wrong sleeping with, laying with or any kind of copulation with someone else’s man is just wrong. But what if your heart, body and soul are conflicting with knowing and doing the right thing? Now we all know that being the other woman is a challenge almost a downright battle between you, him and her. I can say honestly that as a wife I might just kill the b**ch who thinks she can come and steal my husband, who does she think she is throwing her femininity at my man really?
Could she do it if he didn’t let her and how can you steal something that’s not up for grabs? Now here I am maybe I knew she existed maybe I didn’t all I know is that what I am feeling is real and simply put, I got caught up. Is it wrong yes, but I’m loving him and at the moment he is loving me and that’s all that matters. Sometimes we can’t help who we fall in love with or even the outcome of those feelings. Most of these other women never become the main one so to speak until they have fought and fought or the wife simply gives up and he becomes yours by default.
In the cases where the wife doesn’t give up and you see them in public and you as the chick on the side have to bow your head in shame because your either embarrassed or don’t know how to keep those damn feelings in check. You know that you feel a certain kind of a way because to you he is your man but to her he is her husband. Your friends tell you leave him alone but it’s like telling a bee to stop making honey you just can’t! You are willing to accept her leftovers just so you can have a meal, does it make you a part time lover or a part time fool?
Feelings, emotions and desires can play a trick on us making you believe that ignoring what you already know is not a bad thing but it is, I know that he is never going to take me serious and to her I will always be second. What a number second. We always want to come in first place so why settle for being number two? Besides the entire math and the downright common sense of it if he cheated on her what makes you any different?
You believe anything because deep down inside you are looking for something and yes, while you are doing it the feeling of pleasure is running through your body but you know in the back of your mind it’s oh so wrong. We can make a decision in this case stay either stay or leave it alone, but remember to take a serious look within yourself to see why you would choose to be in a race for a man’s affection when you can find your own. In the end and believe me it’s true you never win, you are forever going to be angry; you are forever going to be envious, you will forever be bitter and you will always the other woman..
And these are just thoughts from a sista….
Staff Writer; Nicole C.
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