Yes Understanding Men.
(ThyBlackMan.com) Pick up any given women’s magazine, and you will find something that has been enduring: Information about men.
The problem is that much of that information comes from women.
Typically, the magazines provide lists that women should follow in order to measure the worth of potential male mates. Those lists also explain what men must understand about women in order to get along with them.
I think those lists do women a disservice.
While men are ostensibly less complicated than women, there are still some basic issues that some women seem to have difficulty understanding.
And, some of those magazines advise women to judge a man by how well he interacts with their girlfriends. This is a huge mistake because relationships should be based on the two people involved. If he treats the woman well, his interactions with her friends is not relevant.
I’ve heard so-called “relationship experts” tell women that there are certain things that men should just understand. That’s the silliest thing that anyone could tell another human being. The best thing to do is to have open discussions and express personalities to each other. That fosters understanding. There are no valid lists of things that men should just “know” about women.
It is a mistake to approach a relationship expecting that the two people would have everything in common. Honestly, some divergences are healthy and there are some fundamental differences between men and women. The goal is to understand and accept each other, not to become each other.
And, while we are discussing divergences, neither side of wrong for wanting what they want. If a man wants something different from you, decide that you will tolerate it or not. If you don’t want the same things, or don’t want to give them to a man, say so and we can keep it moving.
Finally, stop trying to invoke the fake “woman’s prerogative,” when changing your mind or claiming that you have the right to not be held to your own word.
Say what you mean and mean what you say, but more importantly, pay attention to what you say and don’t be angry when we do the same.
Telling a man that you don’t want a relationship, for example, is a mistake if you really do want one after having sex with him. And, if you say that “nothing” is wrong, don’t be angry when a man acts like nothing is wrong.
The bottom line is that men and women are different. The best way to understand the other side is to seek information from the other side.
Even better, seek information from the specific man you want to understand.
Staff Writer; Darryl James
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