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Creflo Dollar Arrested, Daughter beat down.

June 8, 2012 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) Bishop Creflo Dollar has been arrested and charged with punching and choking his 15-year-old daughter.  His daughter called police after the domestic dispute, claiming that the two were fighting over whether or not she could attend a party. The pastor Creflo Dollar has been charged with simple battery and cruelty toward children, and booked in the Fayette County Jail.

Police claim that the pastor’s daughter called them after he tackled her to the floor, punched her, and hit her with a shoe. Officers say that they saw a scratch to the girl’s neck and throat that confirmed her claims.

The pastor Creflo Dollar says that his daughter was “very disrespectful” and that he only retaliated when she hit him first.

I am no fan of Creflo Dollar.  Creflo Dollar “prosperity gospel” bothers me as much as the private jets and Bentleys being purchased by he and other “men of God.”  Jesus would not be driving a Bentley — at least not on the backs of his own congregation.

But with that being said, I must also admit to this:  As the Father of three daughters, I understand how challenging it can be to deal with difficult teenagers. While none of us can condone needless violence toward anyone, it can be difficult to figure out how to deal with a child who has become violent.

The toughest thing for a Father to deal with when it comes to teenage girls is that they usually think they are more grown up than they actually are.  Their hips get wider, their breasts get fuller, and suddenly, they think they’re ready for the world.  That might be when the child believes it’s OK to start dating the 25-year old, to go out and get drunk with her friends, or to go into venues that seem fun but are ultimately unsafe.

Unfortunately, it’s not until she is the victim of sexual assault or some other unfortunate incident that some young girls realize the importance of a Father’s protection. But sadly enough, after these things have happened, it can be difficult to help your little girl to regain the innocence that has been lost forever. 

One of the saddest things about the status of the Black community today is that Fathers are not in the home to protect their daughters, leaving our children open to experience unspeakable horrors that occur in the lives of young people every single day.

If Creflo Dollar had to tackle his daughter to keep her in the house that night, then part of me applauds him.  A prominent Father who is willing to risk the humiliation of jail in order to protect his child is the kind of hero that the Black community needs.

In far too many cases, parents work harder at being their their child’s best friend than they do at actually raising the child to be a responsible and intelligent member of society.   Many parents love their children, but don’t care about them enough to do the uncomfortable work necessary to prepare that child for adulthood.  Instead, they think that spoiling their kids and giving them whatever they want is the best way of showing love.

I hope that Creflo Dollar’s family problems are resolved, and I hope that he can be given remedies to the problem that don’t involve violence.

But as far as I’m concerned, physical confrontations with a child are not necessarily child abuse.

In a world where Black children are shot every day by one another and by the police, the tough hand of a loving parent might be the only thing that keeps that child out of the morgue.  I encourage others to refrain from judging Pastor Creflo Dollar’s parenting techniques until the evidence is fully revealed.  Also, I wouldn’t be surprised if one day, Creflo Dollar daughter thanks him for his sacrifice.

Staff Writer; Dr. Boyce Watkins
 
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition. For more information, please visit http://BoyceWatkins.com.
 
 

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15 Responses to “Creflo Dollar Arrested, Daughter beat down.”
  1. Dr. Hill says:

    As an educator in the public schools and the Youth Development systemn today’s youth have gotten out of control. They are juveniles but ding adult behviors but when punished they want to be treated as children. Dr. Dollar was putting his daugter back in the role of the child and he the parent even to the extent of using corporal punishment. Mind you he go all over the country preaching to others and their household andthen come home to find his household not in order. I think he need to take some time off from flying over the world and tend to his daugtheRs because next time may not be as the last incident.
    Dr. Dollar has a right as a parent to discipline his daugters as long as there are no marks or bruises on their bodies. There were no marks on Alexandra’s body.
    Dr. Dollar is mandated by the State of Georgia to enroll his children in a HomeSchool program or a private or a public education setting. He has did so and has set up a reward system if they do not do well academically. His daughter’s grades were not passing and she would not be attendng a party she wanted to go to until her grades have improved.
    So why should Dr. Dollar have gone to jail when he was being the leader of his household.

  2. Shari says:

    Isn’t it nice that we live in a world where men hitting women can conveniently be put in the terms of them protecting them. It’s always lovely to see fathers setting a wonderful example for the kind of men they want in their daughters’ lives–men who will forcefully put them in place when they get out of line.

    I don’t know what kind of fatherhood you imagine, but one where a father– who’s supposed to represent a protector–puts his hands on his daughter is not not alright. If you can’t work around your own anger and impulses, don’t expect your kids to be able to work around theirs. THIS IS NOT OKAY. YOUR DEFENCE OF IT IS APPALLING.

    To have a title that says ‘Creflo Dollar Arrested, Daughter beat down’ and then go onto defend his actions is offensive. You’re not even trying to defend him by drawing a distinction between his character and his reprehensible actions. Instead you’re commiserating with this man’s criminalized behavior. Think about your words and influence sir. Think about the choices you made in supporting this foolishness. Think about the ways in which it victimizes young girls and further separates them from the men they’re supposed to be able to trust.

  3. oNASSIS says:

    I think pastor Dollar did the right thing with his daughter. I was rasied with a sister and I saw the hard time that she gave my Mother. She constantly did what she wanted to do. Now I have three girls and its hard dealing with them because at times they think they know it all. THe heads start rolling and eyes start glaring. I would have done the same thing he did, no child should ever disrespect there parents. For the person that applauded the child, you should rethink your thoughts sir. Do you know a young girl or woman is raped every 5 mins in America? A 15 year old should have consulted her Mother before she called the police. My sister tried that with my Mother in the 80’s and I know for a fact my sister was totally in the wrong. We laugh about it now but she did say she did it because she wanted to do what she wanted to do. She felt know one could stop her because it was her 13 year old life.

  4. neci says:

    my prayers are with ur family, I can only imagine she smart mouthed her father and he had enough. I would have to be bailed out too….Enough is enough, thank God he stopped her at home and the police did not stop her outside of their home. No judgment on my part…it isn’t easy to control teenagers these days, your damned if you do and damned if you don’t. He spanked with a shoe darn I remember extension cords being used by my parents…and was afraid to dial 911…many of you can relate. God Bless you family.

  5. Joseph P Cora says:

    I will say this again I was not in the house nor was any of the persons submitting comments, so to say someone was choked just because they were accused is jumping the gun. For the gentleman who commented on the wisdom of his daughter calling 911, I think the daughter would have been wiser to listen to her parents, but we cant blame her because shes just a child. No family is exempt from having situations like this arise, so to say something is terribly wrong because your 15 year old wont listen is a little much. Prayer not condemnation is the proper remedy, this too shall pass.

  6. Ab2 says:

    Creflo is a man not GOD. Men get angry and they mix it with temper so the devil uses temper as a passage for sin. Don’t conclude that dollar ashamed GOD, as a matter of fact romans 13:7 does it and Paul also prophesied this in 2 timothy 3:2 so dollar bravo for the good work done. SAVE HER FROM HELL BY FORCE.

  7. JR says:

    From my point of view, the daughter has more wisdom then her so called father, because she understands and exercised her rights by calling the police for protection against an abusive father! I salute her courage and respect her for standing up for herself against a man of Gawd, who was acting like the devil!

  8. JR says:

    There is something terribly wrong with this incident! My only question is, where is the Love of God in Creflo’s relationship with his daughter?

  9. Floridaman says:

    Let me remind some of the posters of one fact they are overlooking:

    Beating and choking are NOT forms of Biblical discipline. He wasn’t spanking her, he was mugging her.

    Don’t twist Scripture to try to excuse what is obviously abuse. The Bible says that if we “spare the rod” we will “spoil the child.” Spare the rod and punch and “punch and choke the snot out of them” is nowhere close.

  10. Joseph P Cora says:

    First of all I was not there so I dont know what actually happened but society is so quick to call discipline abuse. Social outlets are so concerned with protecting of our children from so called abuse and wants us to use time outs. Many of our parents used lights out tactics instead of time outs and many of us turned out fine, we had respect for one another and respect for our elders. It seem to be very clear if we refer to Proverbs 23:13 (NLT)
    “Don’t fail to discipline your children. They won’t die if you spank them.” As far as the comments regarding Rev Dollar and his prosperity message, I have listened to him on TV myself and his message is not based on money alone he preaches on having prosperous relationships, health, as well as not being in lack. I also agree with the comments of Jaycyofate. An athlete, entertainer, financier can make all the money in the world but God forbid a preacher have money then he is automatically a crook. Let me remind us there are people that excel in every profession you have struggling lawyers and millionaire lawyer. The same goes for doctors, contractors, realtors as well as clergy. I dont think Im the right person to determine if Pastor Dollar needs a mansion,a Bentley, jet,ect. He does however have a church in Atlanta(Sunday service) and NYC(Saturday service). I do have a friend that is a member of the NYC church and she seems to be growing in a mighty and healthy way. My Pastor teaches us they way to tell if a Pastor is a wolf in sheeps clothing is by the fruit of his harvest which does not mean just money. Im under the belief system that God is the only qualified judge of that, prayers go out to Pastor Dollar and his family and to all of you.
    Kind Regards,
    JP
    jpcora2@aol.com

  11. This is to thank Dr. Boyce Watkins for histhose sound, logical and impartial comments he wrote about Dr. Creflo Dollar regarding the recent report that Dr. Dollar attacked his 15-year old daughter because she did not obey him when he asked her not to attend a party. This child, apparently, not only angered her father; she caused him much grief, by her rebellion. I do not condone his actions in this regard, but I understand why he was driven to act as he did to keep her at home and out of trouble, and Dr. Watkins summed up my feelings so precisely in his article about this incident.

    I have the utmost respect for Dr. Creflo Dollar and can fully understand how difficult this must be for him and his family. Even though he lost his temper and acted inappropriately (even illegally), in this instance, I can understand how his rebellious daughter drove him to do what he did. At least, he kept her at home, and possibly, out of much danger, by doing so. God knows what happens at many of these parties, and “Preachers kids” are key targets of many of of the creeps out there, just waiting to jump the children of Christian leaders, especially, their daughters!

    I applaud Dr. Watkins for his objective and unbiased comments about this incident. I am an ardent supporter of Christian Televangelists, including Dr. Creflo Dollar. He’s helping a lot of people with his sermons.

  12. Jacyofate says:

    Dr Watkins I respect your thoughts and views on this unfortunate situation that happened to Dr Creflo Dollar. But I have a few questions for you. Why is it still so hard for blacks to accept other blacks who have MUCH MORE than themselves (ie MONEY)? Why is that if a preacher has money it has to be on “the backs” of his congregation? Why is it so hard for “us” black folk to understand that part of the product of success is wealth and no one has the right to dictate what person chooses to spend their wealth on (ie private jets, bentley’s…whatever!) What amazes me is that no one has a problem with Professional Athletes being successful, wealthy, etc. They don’t even contribute to the saving of souls, just pure entertainment. Yet, if a preacher is a millionaire he is all of a sudden a “crook” and doing something wrong. Has it ever occurred to anyone with these thoughts he just might be doing something Right. Just a thought…we as a people need to break that jealous, poverty mindset…and be happy for those who are successful….

  13. Mother 2012 says:

    I applaud Mr. Watkis for speaking the truth and I agree with your view. These young girls really do need help and much prayer!~Thank you!

  14. Obedience says:

    I approve of Creflo Dollar discipling his daughter. It is unfortunate that the police had to be involved. Many young people today are ruled by satan and they don’t even know it. Let this be a teaching moment. Now you see what school teachers have to go through.

  15. Realman says:

    I have never been a fan of Rev. Dollar or any millionaire preacher, I think they’re basically crooks. But given the information about the situation with his daughter I believe he did the right thing. There are too many kids are already out of control and need to be disciplined.

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