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Black Parents: Let’s Make The Death Of Trayvon Martin Stand For Something!

March 31, 2012 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com) My grandfather use to say, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” How appropriate this wisdom in the wake of the Trayvon Martin tragedy. Trayvon was shot and killed by a neighborhood watch captain posing as a self-appointed neighborhood vigilante. The shooter, George Zimmerman, told a 911 operator, Trayvon, who was wearing a white hooded sweatshirt, appeared suspicious, before fatally wounding him.

My question is:  Is there a 2 tiered system of justice in America based upon race?  As an African American male I’m inclined to believe there is. According to a recently published book, The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander,   “There are more black men in prison than enslaved in 1850.”  Accordingly, a report by the renowned Advancement Project concluded: “Black men in prison in America have become as American as apple pie.  There are more black men in prisons and jails in the United States (about 1.1 million) than there are black men incarcerated in the rest of the world combined.”

This writer was arrested in the late 80’s by the United States Secret Service (the people who protect the president of the United States), on a charge of aiding and abetting fraud of a previous employer.  The case was later dismissed by what prosecutors called a case of mistaken identity.  By the grace of God and a sharp attorney, I was able to put the incident behind me.  I swore on the day of my release I would do everything within my power to dispel the myth that African American males are pre-disposed to violence and crime.

I know first-hand, because of my incident, what it’s like to be subjected to scorn, ridicule and slander in the face of complete innocence. I can identify with Trayvon Martin to that extent, however, my prayers go out to his parents having lost a son to a vigilante, cowering behind Sanford, California’s “stand your ground law.” As Executive Director of an after school mentoring program, From Boys To Men Network Foundation Inc., and author of a recently published book, Not All Teachers Are Parents But All Parents Are Teachers!, designed to address “literacy” issues confronting African Americans, with a view to parental responsibility, I’m confident progress is being made.  However, African American parents can no longer sit by and wait for our “day of reckoning,” we must find new avenues to police ourselves and our communities by saying no to drugs, crime and acceptance of decadent lyrics in rap music making reference to women as bitches and ho’s.  No, George Zimmerman has not had the last word because evil triumphs only when good men and women of all faiths, races and cultures in urban centers of America do nothing.

As a staff writer for ThyBlackMan, I’ve addressed this issue in a previous article titled, “Baby Mama/Daddy Drama Does Not Excuse My Parental Responsibility.”  The title says it all.

Staff Writer; Stanley G. Buford

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10 Responses to “Black Parents: Let’s Make The Death Of Trayvon Martin Stand For Something!”
  1. Don says:

    Patsy,

    Empathy? Sure. The kid got expelled for the third time in a year after drug residue was found on him. Fed up, his mom dumped him at his dad’s house. Dad took off and didn’t even notice he was missing until the next day. Both parents feel guilty as hell, as well they should, and want to blame everyone except themselves for what happened.

    This isn’t the sort of thing that happens to happy, healthy, well adjusted children of competent parents. It doesn’t have a damned thing to do with race. It’s something that happens with depressing frequency to all loser parents when they don’t take responsiblity to do the most important job in the world – raising their children.

    But, hey, I don’t expect a racist loser like you to understand that. All you and your fellow klansmen want is to burn a cross in someone’s yard, then get the ol’ pogrom spirt going and go lynch someone. That didn’t accomplish anything when white folks did it and I can guarantee you that it won’t accomplish anything if black folks take up the same tactics and attitudes.

  2. Patsy says:

    Your message shows no empathy toward a family who lost their son. How dare you? I won’t spend my time anymore to read your future response but for me it is a barometer of how a lot of rednecks are psychopaths toward our people.

  3. Don says:

    Patsy,

    I’m color blind when it comes to racists. Between you and some skin head neo Nazi, there isn’t a speck of difference in your message. Name calling, hate mongering bigots all look alike to me.

  4. Patsy says:

    I only have respect for White people like Tim Wise and you are definitely not in their categories.

  5. Patsy says:

    As I thought you have no empathy toward our people like a lot of Rednecks!

  6. Don says:

    Patsy,

    You are quite the racist bigot, aren’t you?

    As amazing as it may seem to you, the vast majority of people in the world will treat you as well as you treat them. If you’re a jerk, they’ll treat you like a jerk. If you’re a good person, they’ll treat you well.

    Of course, there are always exceptions, such as yourself. You sound like a very lonely and bitter person. You have my pity, if not my respect. Your parents failed you just like Trayvon’s failed him.

  7. Patsy says:

    Patsy says:
    April 1, 2012 at 12:02 am
    Don,

    You have no lessons to give us. In the past, a White racist man that I didn’t know, in other words a complete stranger took my breast when I was walking on the street. I screamed and he ran away. How dare you giving us lessons!!! Since my childhood White men have been sexually agressive toward me. I guess that the blood of their racist masters are still on their veins. Do I need to remind you that White men for centuries thought that Black women were their properties??? So get out, of this website because it is very clear to us what rednecks do to our black men!

  8. Patsy says:

    Don,

    You have no lessons to give us. In the past, a White racist man that I didn’t know, in other words a complete stranger took my breast when I was walking on the street. I screamed and he ran away. How dare you giving us lessons!!! Since my childhood White men have been agressive toward me. I guess that the blood of their racist masters are still on their veins. Do I need to remind you that White men for centuries thought that Black women were their properties??? So get out, of this website because it is very clear to us what rednecks do to our black men!

  9. Don says:

    Trayvon was certainly cute when he was a baby. What I don’t understand, though, if why no one is willing to post photos from his Facebook page where he’s flipping off the world with both hands.

    Trayvon was staying with his dad after being expelled from school for the third time in a year. His dad didn’t even know he was missing until the next day.

    Have you listened to Zimmerman’s call to the police? He wasn’t even sure Martin was black until Martin approached his truck halfway through the call. He didn’t call the police because Martin was wearing a hoodie. He called the police because Martin appeared to be stoned out of his mind, and appeared to be checking out houses in an area that had recently experienced a rash of break ins.

    There seems to be a total disconnect between the fact that a disproportionate number of blacks are in prison and the fact that every single one of them either entered a guilty plea or were convicted by a jury.

    Anyone who wants equality, regardless of what they look like, first needs to recognize responsibility for the consequences of their own actions and admit when they’re wrong.

    Parents need to teach their children that common courtesy and formal politeness are survival skills in a society made up of the most dangerous animal this tired old planet has ever spawned – man. There are people I number among my friends whose world pictures are so radically different from my own that it’s amazing we’d even talk to each other. Nevertheless, we’ve always been polite to each other and somewhere along the line the things we have in common gained more weight than those we don’t.

    It’s really very simple. If you act like a jerk, people will treat you like the jerk you are. What is sad is that it’s not uncommon for a person angry with the actions of a jerk, to use a racial epithet, when what they really mean is a term more synonymous with jerk.

    The real tragedy is that if Trayvon’s parents had taught him common courtesy and, that it isn’t always about race, this probably never would have happened. As a stranger wandering around a gated community where there had been problems, neighbors might reasonably ask him to explain his presense.

    Is that so hard to understand? In some languages the word for “stranger” and “enemy” is the same word. The tendency is ingrained in human nature and not unique to any particular race. A stranger’s very survival, as did Trayvon’s, may depend on his ability to politely explain his presense where he is not known, as a good faith demonstration of his peaceful intentions.

    How hard would it have been for Trayvon, when asked what he was doing, to simply say, “I’m returning from the store to my dad’s house down the street, where I’m visiting for the next week.”

    All available information at this point indicates Martin was openly hostile and threw the first punch. The real world doesn’t play by school yard rules where one might get away with whooping someone to show what a tough stud he is, or to “teach them a thing or two”. In the real world, the person you attack may be far more dangerous than you ever imagined. If you’re polite, you need never discover just how dangerous the other man really is. If you don’t have that survival skill in your tool kit, the law of averages says you will eventually meet that dangerous man someday and he will destroy you.

    So, black parents, by all means, please learn from the lesson taught by Trayvon. Teach your children the skills they need to survive and get rid of the chip on your shoulders. Children aren’t pets. They need more than putting out a bowl of food and water each day and then forgetting about them. If you teach them what they need to know in order to survive, they’ll do just fine. If you don’t, they won’t.

  10. Major Variola says:

    6’3 trained in violence and having behavioral problems
    jumped a guy from behind. Guy defended self with available
    tools. Evolution wins.

    Nothing to do with clothes, race, pistols, or Fla. Just self defense.

    Get over it.

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