(ThyBlackMan.com) Some people may say I am a thick sista or a big boned sista or the ignorant ones just call you the F-word and we all know what it means and of course, it pisses me off. I don’t consider myself any of those things even if I have to shop in the plus size department. I don’t like it when brotha’s over look a beautiful sista because of her size and then she, like a fool run’s to go get skinny because they have made her insecure about who she is. I personally feel like this, I know that we can all check our weight and if you are over the medical limit, do something about it but I am not going to change myself because people, particularly brothers buy into society’s idea of what is beautiful.
Believe me, I can run circles around most of these chicks and the only difference between me and them is the size of my clothes. I am not ashamed of what size I wear or to go the best shops to find the most superior clothing for plus size sista’s. I am currently on a diet want to modify my weight for me, I have no illnesses all praises to the most highest God Almighty and his most merciful son Jesus Christ for that, but I am not ashamed.
Maybe I am not who you think I should be or the kind of woman that YOU want me to be but I know one thing for sure and that is I am a dynamic, educated, 
well mannered , beautiful and sophisticated one to myself and anyone who has me on their arm is privileged. I am not saying that I am a super model but I think we are all Gisele Bündchen in our own right; you don’t need society or some commercial to tell you that you are beautiful God made us in his image and for that we should be proud. Most men can’t handle me; my attitude, my vanity, my demeanor why not?
Why should I feel less about myself because people around this world think that everyone should be Barbie and because I am not I am less than her? Oh no way. I am so much more than that, so much greater and if you feel like you as a man should pass me by oh well, that’s your problem I know I am the bomb to my darn self.
Regardless of what people say or what society makes you believe you should always have pride in yourself. I have read on blogs how they make fun of Gabrielle Sidibe calling her fat and black and all kinds of ignorant and insensitive comments. I think Gabbie is a beautiful black woman and guess what: So does she. In reality we all need to be healthy; the statistics for heart disease, diabetes and other conditions are alarming for black folks and because we don’t take care of ourselves we are dropping like flies on sticky tape. However; if according to your doctor you’re being a little thick is in the right places, then so be it. The world doesn’t have the right to judge you and should not allow those in the world to make you change and start judging yourself. I am proud of whom I am and I dare anyone to come along to try and make me see different.
As always, these are thoughts from a sista.
Staff Writer; Nicole C.
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