An open letter of apology to Black Men in hopes of Reconciliation.
November 23, 2011 by Staff
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationships, Weekly Columns
(ThyBlackMan.com) Dear Black Man,
I have become a woman that you no longer recognize. I have allowed our enemy to impregnate me with his ideas and thoughts. I have allowed an illusion of independence to keep us separated. I have fooled myself into believing that my degrees places me degrees above you.
I humbly come to you asking forgiveness. I come to you asking you to forgive me for not supporting you. I come to you asking you to forgive me for not truly loving you. I was taught to hate myself, then hate you. My desire to 
reproduce you was killed by our enemy. I apologize for teaching my daughters that you will fail them, and continuning the cycle of an illusion of indepedence with them. I apologize for not encouraging you, for not being more patient with you, for not understanding your plight, your trials and your tribulations.
I apologize for thinking in order to gain strength I had to weaken you. I apologize for disturbing your peace, in order to have peace within myself, or what I thought was peace. My life has been in peril without you. I tried to convince myself that I don’t need you, but you are a necessity. I can’t even continue the cycle of life without you. I apologize for my harsh tone, for using my tongue as a sword, for telling you that you are nothing, when in fact you are everything.
I apologize for mistreating you, disrespecting you, neglecting you and belittling you. I know that I have aided in breaking you, and I am beneficial in rebuilding you. I am acknowleding the wrongs that I have committed against you,and I am confessing my faults. By acknowledging my wrongs, doesn’t mean I am absolving you of your duty, but rather I am re-committing myself to my duty to you.
I have relinquished my womb from our enemy and I am returning it to it’s rightful owner; you.
I tried to walk this journey of life without you, but I realized that I should be walking this journey with you, and beside you.I pray that you accept my sincere apology, and that we can start the process of reconciliation, so we can love each other and have productive and successful relationships that will set the standard for our children.
Black Man……….I love you…..
Signed,
A Black Woman who concedes that her womb was one of many…….
Staff Writer; Nojma Muhammad
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It takes no skill to be a hater. I want to be like you with special gifts and powers on loan from God, to kill them with kindness.
Nojma:
You stirred up a hornet’s nest with this one! LOL! But that’s what’s up! Keep on doing what you do. There’s none so blind quite like those who choose to not see. So let the willfully blind remain in the dark. Just please keep bringing your beautiful perspectives. You’re causing light to shine in some really dark places.
Love what you do…and proud of you!
Mack
I am so moved and awed by your articulation, I like Pastor Henderson can feel and hear the voice of God in it. In my faith humility is a cornerstone of the faith. I believe if we confess our sins and humble ourselves, God will heal this land. I for one can’t point the finger, but I see some don’t understand the importance of humility, I battle with it daily. Sometimes it seem easier to take a fist in the face than to humble oneself. I’m on my knees everyday asking God to forgive my sins, stay my hand from my enemies, bridle my tongue and keep me humble. So I know the level you’re at, and the level I hope to be. Bless you my Sister, God sees all and he knows when you encourage just one soul and you encouraged me.
All I can say is wow! She gets it! And as for the comments (and name for that matter) of “ReallyPissed”, I’m sorry but you totally missed her point. The enemy did not rob her, nor is she taking responsibility for the state of black men. I’m sorry but I think you simply missed her point.
As a black man myself who has gone through this very thing, all I can say is bravo my sister you touched my heart. Nobody but God could have articulated those words. You sand redeemed and if you don’t mind I would be one willing to stand with you.
Wow! Excellent! I just shared this with my followers on twitter and fb!
I want to know where she lives because if the men in her town treat her DECENT enough for her to write about it and especially to this degree..he must be something. I for one love my brothers but it is what it is, to be with a black man especially of the caliber that I am looking for, that isnt asking you to compromise you self worth or your pride is a blessing. I do NOT deal with men who been to jail, do thing to go to jail. I’ve dated professional men in the age rage of 40-50…egineers, police officers,CEO to doctors, who knew and acted like there were exceptions to courtship, respect, fidelity and trustworthyness. I would love to meet a man who can make me feel none the less write about apologizing for mental, emotional and financial security.
This is some serious crap. I refuse to stoop to your level and generalize Black Men or Black Women, so I will just stick with you. Is this your idea of the state of mentality among Black Women or is it just your pathetic excuse for your own mistakes, misgivings, and shot to hell past? To even insinuate that Black Women 1) have taken on this role as a whole; 2) are responsible for the state of Black Men; or 3) need to apologize to Black Men as a whole for ANYTHING proves that you are a part of the problem and not the solution.
Then enemy robbed you of your sanity when the enemy convinced you to write such a contentious “Open” letter. Your words simply contribute to the overall goal of separating us and adding tension to our dialog. This is not an open apology, this is a letter from a lonely woman who obviously finds her worth in tearing other Black Woman down in order to please (or acquire) some man.
Negra Puleeze . . . you can love and support your man without taking on your shoulders the guilt of isht that has nothing to do with you. We need dialog, not more of this crap. The majority of both Black Men and Women are incredible, strong, and worthy to be praised for surviving the mediocrity we are forced to live amongst. Yes there is definitely some garbage, but painting us all with the same label of trash and then publicizing your obvious disgust is outrageously self-righteous.
I hope as you grow older, you grow wiser. Peace.
Signed a Really Pissed Queen to a King, Mother of 2 Princes, Sister to Two Queens, and owner of a womb that belongs to no one but me and the Heavenly Father I serve.