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Leave These Sorry Ass Men Alone…

May 29, 2011 by  
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( There is probably nothing that drives me to anger more than hearing stories of abused children. It is the one exception that I make to my opposition to capital punishment, making an allowance for those who murder children; a difficult deviation from my stand against the death penalty that is driven by my faith. There is just something so heinous about harming an innocent child that I have difficulty finding an ounce of forgiveness in my heart for those who would commit such a wicked act.

This week I came across two articles in New Jersey newspapers detailing acts of cruelty against children. In one, an 8 year-old was discovered dead, badly bruised and malnourished, and her two siblings, one 6 and the other 7, also emaciated. The girl’s mother and her female roommate have been  criminally charged in the matter. In the other case, an 8 year-old girl,  weighing only 8 pounds, was found with open wounds in a home where she was allegedly tied to bedposts and doorknobs with bootlaces. One of her arms may have to be amputated. She and three siblings were living in squalor, surrounded by rotten food and feces. The mother and her boyfriend are being held in custody.

In too many of these cases, the woman is involved with a “man” of extremely low moral character; seldom married to the co-abuser and virtually emotionally dependent in an abusive relationship. The children in the household are discarded like yesterday’s trash and in many cases are preyed upon and eventually killed. Though there was not a man directly involved in the abuse described in the first incident, a man, a spiritual adviser to the mother, allegedly held sway over her and subsequently she transformed into someone her own sister no longer recognized. In the second instance, a man, apparently not the father of the children in the house is the alleged accomplice.

How a mother could abuse her child, and let a man do the same, is beyond comprehension. Yet, it happens with tragic frequency. These men, who my grandmother would probably label “trifling” if she were alive, are leeches and predators. Rather than succumb to the selfishness and debased behavior of these men, single mothers need to leave their crazy @ss*s alone. And if they are not strong enough to cut the cord, family and friends of women in these situations need to step up and show them the way. Now in some instances, the mother is a willing abuser of her child, but too frequently a man stands in the shadows as the catalyst and accomplice.

Just as maddening is the seeming ignorance of family, friends and neighbors to the abuse of children in a household. All too often the reaction of neighbors is disbelief when a case of child abuse comes to light, despite the acknowledgment that the children had not been seen for some time, have been missing from the normal routines of child play, or have been absent from school. It seems everyone can see all the “business” on the block, relay the latest gossip, yet miss some tell-tale signs that children are being abused under their very noses. It sadly proves my insistence that children are an afterthought in our society; an inconvenience, even to those blessed with the responsibility to care for them.

While I know that child abuse is not isolated to any one community, the most recent stories I am citing occurred in Black households. I mention that because the subject of child abuse is still taboo in the Black community; with many abusers living in plain sight, known to all and many victimizing family members. Yet, there is silence, denial and claims of ignorance when the case of an abused child comes to light. Our children deserve better and adults in our community should know better. There is absolutely no excuse and no excuse should be tolerated for neighbors who stick their heads in the sand.

I can’t leave out child protection agencies from condemnation, state agencies like the Division of Youth and Family Services (DYFS) in New Jersey that are charged with keeping children safe. These agencies also bear responsibility for the incidence of child abuse, often missing important signs and leaving children exposed in houses of horror. At some point state child protection officials need to be held responsible when their failure to recognize and address instances of child abuse results in serious injury to a child or tragically, death. Too many excuses are made while children are being abused and murdered.

I believe there is a particularly hot corner of hell awaiting those who abuse children, and that in the instances described above, the adults involved have earned an express ride there.

Written By Walter L. Fields Jr.

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6 Responses to “Leave These Sorry Ass Men Alone…”
  1. JANEETA says:


  2. JANEETA says:

    Lenard Henley is a classic case of a sick pervert
    arrested on two counts of sexual charges. Hey Lenard
    you fuckin low life bastard. I hope the courts throw your ass under the fucking jail, you fucking scum bag. Do you rape little girls and boys too
    you ugly ass twisted monster. leave the porn alone big brother””(cops)
    are always watching you dumb ass!!!

  3. James says:

    I agree with Frank & AntBee:

    However, I also look at the dynamics involved in CHOICE. We all have the 1 thing that GOD gave us to use to glorify him (CHOICE OF FREE WILL)!!!!!

    I do wonder about some choices our SISTA’s and BROTHA’s make; RE: Thug, illiterate brotha’-vs-legally hard working Black man; hood rat, slutty women just because they have a fat ass, good hair, and skin, etc. etc. etc.

    I’ve heard a lot of different excuses from a lot of black women; (good sex, money, bling, clubbing, dresses well, etc. etc.); as well as, a lot of black men; (good coochie, cooks good, fat ass,dresses well, etc. etc.)

    But all in all, I’m not blaming the black man or black woman in any way; I’m just sick of all the excuses from both black men & black women about their choices of a mate and their reasons.

    IT ALL STARTS WITH ‘SELF’!!!! HOW I TREAT ME IS HOW I TREAT OTHERS; no exceptions to this because it comes from GOD: “Love thy neighbor as thyself”……………..

    I hope to get some feedback on this because we as BLACK MEN & BLACK WOMEN ned to quit making excuses and discuss this and other sensitive issues that continue to affect the black community, regardless of what city, town, state, country we live in.




  4. B Fuchatuch says:


    Well said.

  5. AntBee says:

    Any woman that would abuse her children, and or allow any man to abuse her children need to be brought to the towns square, tied to the stake, and set on fire.

    This planet has no need for this type of trash!

    Some women are so darn desperate for any type of man that they would allow a no good, low life, nasty man into their homes and their children (s) lives just to be laying up with him.

    I can forgive almost anything, but a woman who hurts her children is not something I can forgive.

    If I even thought someone was abusing my children, this momma bear would tear your head off!

  6. Frank says:

    This article is highly misleading and tries to blame and place all responsibility on men. Though it is true that there seems to be an endless supply of sorry worthless black men, you also can’t cover up the women role in the mess. I’m not suggesting these men receive a free pass for their actions, but just the opposite they should be held accountable for their misdeeds. On the other hand there’s always a great supply of worthless black women who lust after these low life roaches, and thereby set themselves up for disaster.

    Many of these women are so-called college educated but lack common and good sense. They will run to and lay up with a known thug/trifling bum who already has five baby mamas he does not care about, while the whole time expecting that he will treat her better. In general the destruction of the black family and community is a two way street with men and women both equally killing it.

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