(ThyBlackMan.com) I know many of you have heard of or may even use the phrase yourself of “doing the most” or “doing too much“, well ladies I’m here to tell you that some of you are doing waaay too much. I understand that circumstances bring about responsibilities i.e. children, family, work, church, school, etc…, but “balance is the key to life“. You cannot take on so many responsibilities. You must prioritize. You must always keep God first in everything you do so that goes without saying, and we know that you must make a living especially if you have children.
That being said it is surely not your responsibility to take care of a man. First of all he was ordained to be the provider and therefore should be taking 
care of you. Now I know that there are some ladies out there that can take care of themselves so I am not saying that you have to depend on a man for everything, I’m saying that you should not let him use you.
Many women get into relationsips with “boys” not men. When you are dating someone who is not yet ready to be the leader of a household, it is not your responsibility to be the man yourself. He should NOT be living in your house, sleeping in your bed, eating your food, and driving your car. That ladies, is a boy! After you take care of this person i.e. feed, clothe, pamper and wash his “draws” you are physically and emotionally drained and when the right man comes along you are hurt, scorned, fed up and seemingly unable to proceed with someone else. You should not be living together in the first place, let alone having you paying for everything. Yet another reason the Bible tells us to flee from fornication. God forbid you get pregnant by a guy like that.
You can only be responsible for YOUR portion. So ladies, stop trying to be Jesus to these guys. If anything you should be leading them to Christ, not replacing Christ in their lives. If you meet a potential mate who is not yet developed in manhood, be his friend FIRST and assist him in his development. That may mean introducing him to other men at the church, assisting in helping him find employment, filling out resumes etc..
You do not have to just write him off completely if he is not yet a great man of God. Let him be a man, which means he may have to find his own way a little so that he can build the kind of muscle he needs to be the leader and provider that God called him to be. Stop feeling sorry for people. You could actually be hindering their growth. If they know that they can always come to you for something instead of coming to God first, you have crowned yourself their God. Ladies, do not be decieved “And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being decieved was in transgression.” —1 Timothy 2:14 This is talking about in the garden when Eve ate not knowing what Adam knew even though he ate anyway. We can learn from that very first encounter with sin not to let it creep up on us again.
Men that participate in this kind of behavior are not without fault, but ladies end up carrying the hurt for so much longer. Love yourself enough to choose someone who really cares for you and will not use you for their selfish, greedy lusts. God bless!
Staff Writer; Justin Norwood
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